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I am in my 30s, have a career that is just starting to  take off and quite ambitious. It is stressful but I have a good support system.  Yet I feel like leaving it all and just meditating. I've noticed whenever i do start my meditation I become a little sad. As though this isn't my home. I start seeing the futility of it all.  I stop engaging with the world. My needs and wants are very less, if it weren't for family and the poor that I want to help I would be happy working at someplace like tescos. 

I need advise on how to deal with this detachment.

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If meditating makes you sad, why do you want to do it ? You should focus on your career and the things that make you happy.  You already know that meditation does not help you so dont do it. What works and helps one person does not always work for another. I would suggest maybe reading a book instead. 

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7 hours ago, Guest leave said:

I am in my 30s, have a career that is just starting to  take off and quite ambitious. It is stressful but I have a good support system.  Yet I feel like leaving it all and just meditating. I've noticed whenever i do start my meditation I become a little sad. As though this isn't my home. I start seeing the futility of it all.  I stop engaging with the world. My needs and wants are very less, if it weren't for family and the poor that I want to help I would be happy working at someplace like tescos. 

I need advise on how to deal with this detachment.

That's all true.

However...

Your full time job is Simran, and "work" is just one of the places you are, part of the time. 

No matter where you work it's going to take time. 

Keep it up. Die while still alive and cross the world ocean. 

Anything is fine in your path just don't hide from the world entirely. 

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12 hours ago, Guest leave said:

I am in my 30s, have a career that is just starting to  take off and quite ambitious. It is stressful but I have a good support system.  Yet I feel like leaving it all and just meditating. I've noticed whenever i do start my meditation I become a little sad. As though this isn't my home. I start seeing the futility of it all.  I stop engaging with the world. My needs and wants are very less, if it weren't for family and the poor that I want to help I would be happy working at someplace like tescos. 

I need advise on how to deal with this detachment.

This is a blessing in itself, carry on with your life but do simran in your mind 24/7 and it will help you. Try to wake up early in the morning to do naam abhiyaas. Try to do nitnem. Aim higher in terms of spirituality. Get closer to the path of sikhi BUT... Live a ghrist jeevan. Know that your job is important for you to do Kirth Karney... We may forget this sometimes.

hope my advice helped ji.

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5 hours ago, GurjantGnostic said:

That's all true.

However...

Your full time job is Simran, and "work" is just one of the places you are, part of the time. 

No matter where you work it's going to take time. 

Keep it up. Die while still alive and cross the world ocean. 

Anything is fine in your path just don't hide from the world entirely. 

Thanks, how do I deal with the sadness?

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6 hours ago, Guest Leave said:

Thanks, how do I deal with the sadness?

Your sadness is probably bairaag because you feel upset about being separated from Vaheguru. Its not a bad thing at all its actually a blessing, you are beginning to see that this whole world is an illusion of maya and that the world is false.

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10 hours ago, Guest Leave said:

Thanks, how do I deal with the sadness?

just discard it as an illusion

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On 04/04/2018 at 5:06 AM, Guest Leave said:

Thanks, how do I deal with the sadness?

Deal with it as an emotion. We are sensible ppl. We shouldnt do things based on emotion. One day u will feel sad.another day happy. That doesnt mean u let the emotions control u or dictate ur life. 

Be sad. Be detached from the world. Feel like the world is useless. Is an illusion. But still do ur duty. Still do ur job. 

That is what Guru ji reccomends: to live and work  in this world. But not to love it, not to get attached to it. To be happy that one day i will leave it behind and go to my true home. 

Do simran. And find out where is the true home. Do simran and try to see why this world makes u sad. Also read gurbani

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11 hours ago, Not2Cool2Argue said:

Deal with it as an emotion. We are sensible ppl. We shouldnt do things based on emotion. One day u will feel sad.another day happy. That doesnt mean u let the emotions control u or dictate ur life. 

Be sad. Be detached from the world. Feel like the world is useless. Is an illusion. But still do ur duty. Still do ur job. 

That is what Guru ji reccomends: to live and work  in this world. But not to love it, not to get attached to it. To be happy that one day i will leave it behind and go to my true home. 

Do simran. And find out where is the true home. Do simran and try to see why this world makes u sad. Also read gurbani

Thanks, this helps

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On 3/4/2018 at 8:54 PM, Guest leave said:

I am in my 30s, have a career that is just starting to  take off and quite ambitious. It is stressful but I have a good support system. 

Yet I feel like leaving it all and just meditating. I've noticed whenever i do start my meditation I become a little sad. As though this isn't my home. I start seeing the futility of it all.  I stop engaging with the world. My needs and wants are very less, if it weren't for family and the poor that I want to help I would be happy working at someplace like tescos. 

I need advise on how to deal with this detachment.

Guest leave jee,

answering your queries highlighted in blue in your post above, I would say, you have the right feelings about when you meditate, but you have not recognized them correctly, neither have you seen them in the real perspective.

For when you say the words "little sad", actually it is not that you become sad, rather by His grace you are becoming a bairagee.

Meditation on Wahiguru, can never ever make one sad, because, He who is the unlimited fountain of love and bliss, can only bless us with more and more love and happiness.

Suppose you are lost in a jungle, and you are finding a way out and suddenly you see a light from far away, which in the beginning seems a bit dim due to the distance, but as you go closer, the light seems much brighter, until you reach at that point where actually you reach and see everything clearly and you know then where to move and reach your home.

in a similar way, if one meditates on Wahiguru, slowly and slowly, all positive qualities such as truthfulness, bairaag, nimrata, faith, love, mercy...start filling our being, so brother/sister, whoever you are, be positive and thank Him for being so meharvaan on you, for blessing you with such virtues, with just your initial  petty efforts.

You see,  about your description of your state when you meditate, you have to be grateful, for even yogis, tapsavees, do not achieve  what you have, even after extremely hardships,  or they leave their homes and families, and just look at yourself, while having a girastee life, yet you are detached. Like just as lotus flower, while being in the water, still has its face towards the Sun.

Cheer up, and stay blessed.

Sat Sree Akal.

 

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4 hours ago, harsharan000 said:

Guest leave jee,

answering your queries highlighted in blue in your post above, I would say, you have the right feelings about when you meditate, but you have not recognized them correctly, neither have you seen them in the real perspective.

For when you say the words "little sad", actually it is not that you become sad, rather by His grace you are becoming a bairagee.

Meditation on Wahiguru, can never ever make one sad, because, He who is the unlimited fountain of love and bliss, can only bless us with more and more love and happiness.

Suppose you are lost in a jungle, and you are finding a way out and suddenly you see a light from far away, which in the beginning seems a bit dim due to the distance, but as you go closer, the light seems much brighter, until you reach at that point where actually you reach and see everything clearly and you know then where to move and reach your home.

in a similar way, if one meditates on Wahiguru, slowly and slowly, all positive qualities such as truthfulness, bairaag, nimrata, faith, love, mercy...start filling our being, so brother/sister, whoever you are, be positive and thank Him for being so meharvaan on you, for blessing you with such virtues, with just your initial  petty efforts.

You see,  about your description of your state when you meditate, you have to be grateful, for even yogis, tapsavees, do not achieve  what you have, even after extremely hardships,  or they leave their homes and families, and just look at yourself, while having a girastee life, yet you are detached. Like just as lotus flower, while being in the water, still has its face towards the Sun.

Cheer up, and stay blessed.

Sat Sree Akal.

 

Thank you for taking the time out to reply.  I am not worthy of being a bairagee. Just appreciative that Waheguru is giving me a chance to jap.  By nature I get attached to people and animals very quick  and have emerged  out of a  very unstable life, so I am unsure of what this might be. Hopefully not a mental condition!

What I am able to feel is that we are all one and that Waheguru is the start, middle and end.

 

 

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start learning proper rehitee things like shastar vidiya, archery, target shooting. also do sports.

Maybe find a dal or Shaunee who might do other things like shikaar.

Also go to sikhi camps.

Proactive lifestyle will help

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