loll I really want to wear a chola. I also hate wearing ties and blazers. I try and wear mini hazooria often. Still learning my dumalla, my turban is still anglicised.
my sangat and relatives is punjabis, but I would say if they actually followed more punjabi culture it wouldn't harm following sikhi so much as it seems.
it's the drunk and uneducated culture that's the harmful stuff, the village <banned word filter activated> mentality.
Today what connects us is not Sikhi but nagar kirtans, akhand paths, turban tieing competitions kabaddi etc.. As you can see there is nothing of substance to hold us together. These are mostly festivals, no one ones to teach Sikh doctrines.
I'm glad one of the Sikh sites have a simran/meditation section because its the core of the dharm. We need one on this forum, if we don't were going to get further and further from Naam then the only thing we will have is more and more arguments because are mind is not under control
ਜਿਨੀ ਗੁਰਮੁਖਿ ਨਾਮੁ ਨ ਚੇਤਿਓ ਸੇ ਬਹਣਿ ਨ ਮਿਲਨੀ ਪਾਸਿ ॥ जिनी गुरमुखि नामु न चेतिओ से बहणि न मिलनी पासि ॥ Jinī gurmukẖ nām na cẖeṯi▫o se bahaṇ na milnī pās. Those who do not meditate on the Lord, as Gurmukh, are not permitted to sit near the Lord.
ਦੁਖੁ ਲਾਗਾ ਬਹੁ ਅਤਿ ਘਣਾ ਪੁਤੁ ਕਲਤੁ ਨ ਸਾਥਿ ਕੋਈ ਜਾਸਿ ॥ दुखु लागा बहु अति घणा पुतु कलतु न साथि कोई जासि ॥ Ḏukẖ lāgā baho aṯ gẖaṇā puṯ kalaṯ na sāth ko▫ī jās. They suffer the most horrible pain and suffering, and neither their sons nor their wives go along with them.