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So im 22 years old and i am thinking about moving to London to do a postgrad course. But as a sikh girl that isnt married i just feel like it would not be appropriate. What do you think ? 

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4 hours ago, Guest Kaur said:

So im 22 years old and i am thinking about moving to London to do a postgrad course. But as a sikh girl that isnt married i just feel like it would not be appropriate. What do you think ? 

It’s all about self control and being with the right sangat. If you have friends that don’t drink or do drugs clubs and all that, then you’ll be ok. 

If your own town does it, then do it at home, then you get the benefits of no bills expenses etc and you may feel safer. London is a busy city and it depends on where you live now. Will you be able to cope with the shift? 

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Im not worried about my self control  because im really not like that. I dont go out drinking or doing drugs. But im worried that if i do go to london , others will have the impression that im the kind of person that does my own thing and  nobody good will want to marry me. 

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3 hours ago, Guest Kaur said:

Im not worried about my self control  because im really not like that. I dont go out drinking or doing drugs. But im worried that if i do go to london , others will have the impression that im the kind of person that does my own thing and  nobody good will want to marry me. 

Have you talked to your parents about this ? What do they suggest? 

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I think most people realize that it’s not always possible to stay at home.  For work or school, sometimes you just have to move to another city.  I don’t think anybody will think you’re a bad person.  

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9 hours ago, simran345 said:

Have you talked to your parents about this ? What do they suggest? 

Yes I have they want me to get married soon and so they dont really want me to go. 

4 hours ago, TheeTurbanator said:

Why would you want to marry into a family that has such ridged views anyways? If someone judges you because you went to another country to study, then they aren’t worth your time. The impressions of others don’t mean anything, it’s all about the Guru. 

And its not that i want a family that is old fashioned or traditional but i dont feel i am modern enough for modern families to want to marry me. If that makes sense? 

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4 hours ago, TheeTurbanator said:

Why would you want to marry into a family that has such ridged views anyways? If someone judges you because you went to another country to study, then they aren’t worth your time. The impressions of others don’t mean anything, it’s all about the Guru. 

Yes they should see her as a person, not which city she studied. It’s 2018, and if people aren’t going to venture out to study and work, then it’s like living in 1980’s, where it was strict and there was more resentment and restrictions, which affects one. 

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10 hours ago, Guest Kaur said:

And its not that i want a family that is old fashioned or traditional but i dont feel i am modern enough for modern families to want to marry me. If that makes sense? 

No, that doesn’t make sense.

“Modern families” don’t care if you went to another country to study. 

Just do whatever you can to get a proper education, and only care about those who judge you based on the actual content of your character, rather than other factors.

It’s very simple, but you are making it harder for yourself. 

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As I have done a postgrad course in the past.

Firstly I know postgrad courses can be full-on, many months with no public life or social life.

Secondly you need to think if your postgrad course requires you to attend a London university. Will the London university help you in you career for getting a postgrad course from there as opposed to an undergrad course from there as well.

 

I have seen too much with what apney do at West London universities, and not even all the apney that live out. Seriously appalled with the drunken guys and girls, and dating culture and destruction of sikh heritage. I don't even think the sikh societies encourage students to go to uni activities which involve martial arts or weapons practice, it's not enough just talking about 1984 and just reading bani and Guru deeyaa sakhiyan.

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On 29/03/2018 at 8:42 PM, Guest Kaur said:

Im not worried about my self control  because im really not like that. I dont go out drinking or doing drugs. But im worried that if i do go to london , others will have the impression that im the kind of person that does my own thing and  nobody good will want to marry me. 

I understand your concerns.  don't listen to what those people who say "why should you care?".  they don't get it, but i do.

sadly you have all these people who do move out and do that crap, so people automatically assume anyone who does maybe has.  and you can understand their reasoning.

then again your personality will speak for itself and  i assume its a reputable university, in which case people will understand.

another thing is that, you say you're not like that, but are you sure you wont fall in temptation in that setting anyway?  

 anyway im glad to see someone of your age with such intelligence.

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On 31/03/2018 at 11:39 PM, Guest guest said:

I understand your concerns.  don't listen to what those people who say "why should you care?".  they don't get it, but i do.

sadly you have all these people who do move out and do that crap, so people automatically assume anyone who does maybe has.  and you can understand their reasoning.

then again your personality will speak for itself and  i assume its a reputable university, in which case people will understand.

another thing is that, you say you're not like that, but are you sure you wont fall in temptation in that setting anyway?  

 anyway im glad to see someone of your age with such intelligence.

Thanks, Im glad somebody understands.  And honestly im not like that and im not easily tempted to do half the things i know others do. But im just soo concerned that if i move people will just assume that i do my own thing. 

Im hoping to get into Cambridge Uni. Im not sure if i will be accepted yet but i really want to go. I need a fresh start. I need to meet new people and live a healthier life.

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if you get into Cambridge, I think most people will understand, and you wont have anything to worry about.

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17 hours ago, Guest Kaur said:

Im hoping to get into Cambridge Uni. Im not sure if i will be accepted yet but i really want to go. I need a fresh start. I need to meet new people and live a healthier life.

Cambridge uni is different, everyone will rate this.

Join the sikh society there.

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