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You seem like a decent guy with respect for others feelings but remember: this is your life & you don't want to be in a loveless marriage, lonely & depressed on the inside.

No one would blame you for walking away given the circumstances...

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Raj242 be practical.

Look at the pro's of having a wife.

She will do all the washing, ironing, cleaning, cook food, have sex without you having to pay.

Your mother will get someone to bully & leave you n your dad in peace.

Eventually you will have kids & focus will change from "Self" to them.

So do the right thing !

 

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7 hours ago, simran345 said:

Even if it is, it doesn’t matter, its not a nice situation to be in and the OP is wanting somebody to listen to him, which we can do. Im sure there will be others that have been or are in the same situation. Reality sometimes doesn’t meet the expectations one has. 

Teek hai. I will point out that previous responses in his height related question were not as magnanimous.

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2 hours ago, singhbj singh said:

She will do all the washing, ironing, cleaning, cook food, have sex without you having to pay.

Your mother will get someone to bully & leave you n your dad in peace.

These comments are a disgusting view of women. Sharam nai eh likhde nu? Obviously not. 

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1 hour ago, InderjitS said:

Teek hai. I will point out that previous responses in his height related question were not as magnanimous.

I agree it does sound like him, but koina. 

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11 minutes ago, simran345 said:

These comments are a disgusting view of women. Sharam nai eh likhde nu? Obviously not. 

There is some self-interest behind every relationship. There is no relationship  without self-interests. This is a bitter truth !

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8 hours ago, simran345 said:

Agree, some of my relatives are visiting India and they’ve said that the generation now don’t care about anything. They don’t want to work or do the housework, guys or girls, and are quite lazy compared to the previous generation. I thought it was only the people I came across when I went, but three different relatives say the same thing, and said they answer back to the elders more than they do abroad. They don’t give two hoots about them and carry on being oblivious. I was quite shocked to hear this. There are good people but like finding gems in soil, not many. There also needs to be sincerity and empathy like Ranjit paji says. It’s a gamble and because of the distance and differences in the way people are, it’s harder to deal with than if she was from the same country. 

When you are dealing with people from the same country you know how to deal with them.

 

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4 hours ago, singhbj singh said:

Raj242 be practical.

Look at the pro's of having a wife.

She will do all the washing, ironing, cleaning, cook food, have sex without you having to pay.

Your mother will get someone to bully & leave you n your dad in peace.

Eventually you will have kids & focus will change from "Self" to them.

So do the right thing !

 

I'm sorry but which century are you from to speak about women that way ?

apart from demeaning wives, mothers across the world , are you letting people know about your filthy habits ... maybe you are kwara and speaking out the side of your head , maybe not ...but this is unacceptable attitude to share on a SIkh forum.

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8 minutes ago, jkvlondon said:

I'm sorry but which century are you from to speak about women that way ?

apart from demeaning wives, mothers across the world , are you letting people know about your filthy habits ... maybe you are kwara and speaking out the side of your head , maybe not ...but this is unacceptable attitude to share on a SIkh forum.

Or he pays 🤣

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1 hour ago, jkvlondon said:

I'm sorry but which century are you from to speak about women that way ?

apart from demeaning wives, mothers across the world , are you letting people know about your filthy habits ... maybe you are kwara and speaking out the side of your head , maybe not ...but this is unacceptable attitude to share on a SIkh forum.

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1 hour ago, singhbj singh said:

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maybe if you treat women like humans instead of machines with zero souls, feelings  who burden you with their opinions (mother, wife) you'd have a bit more respect from females  . what about the fact that it is the pressures inflicted on families by men's egos for status that create the morass of daaj , spousal abuse, female foeticide and widow abandonment? It the same women you cussed that keep the family running when the guy is drugged up or alcoholic, she ensures the safety and care of children and elders, often earning money to feed them .

OP has a challenging situation but perhaps instead of using a mentality of use and ignore your wife , let her be abused by family members , let her generate children for you but you don't need to engage with her on an emotional/mental level, you should have tried to say make it work by seeing what she wants out of life , if there can be a meeting of minds , working on the difficulties because that's what marriage is working things out together.

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8 minutes ago, jkvlondon said:

maybe if you treat women like humans instead of machines with zero souls, feelings  who burden you with their opinions (mother, wife) you'd have a bit more respect from females  . what about the fact that it is the pressures inflicted on families by men's egos for status that create the morass of daaj , spousal abuse, female foeticide and widow abandonment? It the same women you cussed that keep the family running when the guy is drugged up or alcoholic, she ensures the safety and care of children and elders, often earning money to feed them .

OP has a challenging situation but perhaps instead of using a mentality of use and ignore your wife , let her be abused by family members , let her generate children for you but you don't need to engage with her on an emotional/mental level, you should have tried to say make it work by seeing what she wants out of life , if there can be a meeting of minds , working on the difficulties because that's what marriage is working things out together.

Hear, hear 👏🏻 

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