emergency advice - Breaking off Engagement

[InderjitS]

Is this is a follow up question from what you posted on Saturday concerning divorce? You're screwed either way now.

[InderjitS]

30 minutes ago, simran345 said:

Booking venue, caterers buying outfits, etc. You need about a few days to do all that, not like overnight ?. 

Don't think it was that sudden. Regardless, the tiyariaan, karcha and heartache for the girl and her family does not bear thinking about.

[Big_Tera]

2 hours ago, S4NGH said:

You my friend are an utter fudu of the highest order. I don't know whether to take you seriously or not. Its tw*ts like you who give the rest of us a bad name. FU.

So you think its best to not pick up a girl from india. And end the marriage. thus destroying the girls life. instead of ending it at the engagement stage?

[TheeTurbanator]

6 minutes ago, Big_Tera said:

So you think its best to not pick up a girl from india. And end the marriage. thus destroying the girls life. instead of ending it at the engagement stage?

You are trying to change the issue. You already had ample time to say no, but you waited all this time and made a rush decision that will affect your life for years. Furthermore, the excuse that you make up is just rediculous. I agree that you should abort the marriage, not for your sake, but for the Girls sake because she doesn’t deserve someone like you. 

[simran345]

1 hour ago, InderjitS said:

Don't think it was that sudden. Regardless, the tiyariaan, karcha and heartache for the girl and her family does not bear thinking about.

True. @Big_Tera is there more to it than the skin problem? Are you getting cold feet or is there something else? 

Besides if you’re getting married tomorrow, then you should be asleep. Otherwise where on earth and how will you run off? Your family deserves some explanation. 

[Big_Tera]

There more to it then the skin problem. I did not even get a chance to speak to the girl. I just went on family recommendation. 

Hence now I think I made a mistake. I have taken a gamble on something. Why should I risk everything just to please everyone else. I have seen people who divorce which is alot worse. 

[Not2Cool2Argue]

4 minutes ago, Big_Tera said:

There more to it then the skin problem. I did not even get a chance to speak to the girl. I just went on family recommendation. 

Hence now I think I made a mistake. I have taken a gamble on something. Why should I risk everything just to please everyone else. I have seen people who divorce which is alot worse. 

Why didnt u speak to the girl? You know how risky marriagea are in india. All.this trouble could have been avoided if u had been more responsible and mature before. 

[InderjitS]

11 minutes ago, Big_Tera said:

There more to it then the skin problem. I did not even get a chance to speak to the girl. I just went on family recommendation. 

Hence now I think I made a mistake. I have taken a gamble on something. Why should I risk everything just to please everyone else. I have seen people who divorce which is alot worse. 

I'm pretty traditional compared to many but still spoke to girls when I was looking. You're a throwback to the pre 60s which I admire but then you also have to live with the decision like they did in the past and not run for the hills. 

[Big_Tera]

going back to the main question. Is breaking off marriage after the shagun(engagement) common in india?

[MrDoaba]

10 minutes ago, Big_Tera said:

going back to the main question. Is breaking off marriage after the shagun(engagement) common in india?

It's not common but not unheard of either. Especially if one party is from the west.

I kinda wanna say shagun is overrated.