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Here's a good G I got married 4 years ago and my wife was from Indiana and she's completely different than how I even imagined her she's really difficult with my parents she's not making any effort to you know blend in with the family and I've tried telling her numerous times you know I've treated her well I never never disrespect her I just I just don't want to get a divorce but I just feel so confused on what to do I blame my car my blame you know everything that's happened and I just don't know what to do you know what I really don't want to get a divorce but I just feel like in order to maintain my sanity I might have to but I'm wondering why does God sometimes do this to us like i dunno

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Seems like you didn't know who you were marrying and now somehow the blame is with God? Sure that makes sense. This is your mess, you got yourself into it. Why blame anyone else? Gosh it seems like the weight of the world is riding down on your shoulders right now.

Why should your wife "blend in"? Why don't your family "blend in"? Effort is a two way street home boy. Move out. Do whatever you've gotta do to save your marriage.

Doesn't seem like you were ready to get married mate. It ain't a game. When sh-t gets tough, divorce?? Do you have a sister??

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If we say that everything is written by the great lord then good and the bad are written by the Lord. If today it is written I shall suffer so much then around the corner the Great Lord has written something good. Personally I don't like people who think we are blaming the great lord because you have not experienced the fate of good and no so good.

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Indiana? Wow I didn't know people from there were so different.

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9 hours ago, Guest Dukhi said:

Here's a good G I got married 4 years ago and my wife was from Indiana and she's completely different than how I even imagined her she's really difficult with my parents she's not making any effort to you know blend in with the family and I've tried telling her numerous times you know I've treated her well I never never disrespect her I just I just don't want to get a divorce but I just feel so confused on what to do I blame my car my blame you know everything that's happened and I just don't know what to do you know what I really don't want to get a divorce but I just feel like in order to maintain my sanity I might have to but I'm wondering why does God sometimes do this to us like i dunno

This is one side of story ask vichola as to what she wants. Problem starts when you stop the flow ie don't have kids.

Once you have a baby attention of all members in family shifts from self to the child.

Honeymoon doesn't last a lifetime move to next phase of life.

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I know its difficult to solve thing out but I would suggest you to pray do ardass and also try to solve the issue, make more communication with her

VJKK VJKF 😊

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VJKK VJKF

5 hours ago, Guest Kaur 2 said:

I know its difficult to solve thing out but I would suggest you to pray do ardass and also try to solve the issue, make more communication with her

VJKK VJKF 😊

I didn't post this. :@:@:@ 

VJKK VJKF

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VJKK VJKF

5 hours ago, Guest Kaur 2 said:

I know its difficult to solve thing out but I would suggest you to pray do ardass and also try to solve the issue, make more communication with her

VJKK VJKF 😊

lol at least TRY to sound like me. Respect for trying though. If you pretend to be me again I am just gonna say that I didn't post that then you will get your baisti complete.

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On 05/01/2018 at 11:31 PM, Guest Dukhi said:

Here's a good G I got married 4 years ago and my wife was from Indiana and she's completely different than how I even imagined her she's really difficult with my parents she's not making any effort to you know blend in with the family and I've tried telling her numerous times you know I've treated her well I never never disrespect her I just I just don't want to get a divorce but I just feel so confused on what to do I blame my car my blame you know everything that's happened and I just don't know what to do you know what I really don't want to get a divorce but I just feel like in order to maintain my sanity I might have to but I'm wondering why does God sometimes do this to us like i dunno

Couples counselling would do u both good. 

Try it, you don't want a divorce and you have nothing to lose. At least you'll know you tried to make it work if u still want to. 

Live free. 

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I still don't mix in LOL ! I still openly declare the fault is not with me. Its the other side to blame.  

Each family has these problems.  Its how you deal with them that makes a difference. 

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Work it out and try it again and again. Every household has these similar problems. Rather than taking this extreme step, why not try to live separate from parents. With no disrespect to anyone but i think current generation just gives up too easily.

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On 10 January 2018 at 7:43 AM, sikhni777 said:

I still don't mix in LOL ! I still openly declare the fault is not with me. Its the other side to blame.  

Each family has these problems.  Its how you deal with them that makes a difference. 

We're free to associate with who we want to. Gurbani says have good sangat, make better friends. 

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