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So, I'm in my first grade of High School and I live in a part of Europe.(getting out of here is like the number one priority for my family, cuz there is no future here) At the end of this school year, I'd have to make a choice for what I'd want to study next year. The two choices are: Subjects that involve reading, like History, Ancient Language, Literature, Latin and English and Subjects like Maths, Science, Biology, Chemistry etc. Now, I'm good with the first choice of subjects. But, my mother wants me to become daktar, anjiniar because, guess what,  these jobs can get you into Kanneda! I want to get a degree on International Relations. But , she listens to nothing I have to say. Whenever I talk about what I want to be, she starts to act weird, like she has Heart attack or starts beating me and swearing. I have started felling depressed and I've even  started thinking about suicide, because I really don't want to do something I never liked. Every Punjabi that goes into college comes out a doctor, then why not be different? Today, she even called a relative in Canada, who really didn't know what I was talking about and told me to become a daktar cuz that's what is in the market. Lol I've already found a good university for international relations in the UK but all I get is threats that if I don't do what they want they aren't going to give any money (which they've been saving since my birth) for my studies. Please I really need help! Can somebody suggest me what to do? Any replies would be appreciated!

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27 minutes ago, Guest teenagesingh said:

 

So, I'm in my first grade of High School and I live in a part of Europe.(getting out of here is like the number one priority for my family, cuz there is no future here) At the end of this school year, I'd have to make a choice for what I'd want to study next year. The two choices are: Subjects that involve reading, like History, Ancient Language, Literature, Latin and English and Subjects like Maths, Science, Biology, Chemistry etc. Now, I'm good with the first choice of subjects. But, my mother wants me to become daktar, anjiniar because, guess what,  these jobs can get you into Kanneda! I want to get a degree on International Relations. But , she listens to nothing I have to say. Whenever I talk about what I want to be, she starts to act weird, like she has Heart attack or starts beating me and swearing. I have started felling depressed and I've even  started thinking about suicide, because I really don't want to do something I never liked. Every Punjabi that goes into college comes out a doctor, then why not be different? Today, she even called a relative in Canada, who really didn't know what I was talking about and told me to become a daktar cuz that's what is in the market. Lol I've already found a good university for international relations in the UK but all I get is threats that if I don't do what they want they aren't going to give any money (which they've been saving since my birth) for my studies. Please I really need help! Can somebody suggest me what to do? Any replies would be appreciated!

Every desi parent wants their child to be a daktar because "it is a well respect a job". My mum also wants me to be a daktar. I actually enjoy science so I was like ok. Don't even think about committing suicide because nothing happens to your soul it just stays in darkness for ages. Guruji will not come for you. Do lotz and lotz of gurbani seeing as this will be the only thing that will help you. Tell your troubles to the one who is the source of all comfort. My dads an anjiniar too soooo..... I know where you are coming from but instead of doing 5 mool mantar's every morning (what most of naujawan think is the adequate amount of paath to do) try to do nitnem everyday. Maybe then you will also be blessed with the gift of amrit. I don't like this country either but we are too lazy to move away. Hope my response helped you ji.

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11 hours ago, Guest teenagesingh said:

 

So, I'm in my first grade of High School and I live in a part of Europe.(getting out of here is like the number one priority for my family, cuz there is no future here) At the end of this school year, I'd have to make a choice for what I'd want to study next year. The two choices are: Subjects that involve reading, like History, Ancient Language, Literature, Latin and English and Subjects like Maths, Science, Biology, Chemistry etc. Now, I'm good with the first choice of subjects. But, my mother wants me to become daktar, anjiniar because, guess what,  these jobs can get you into Kanneda! I want to get a degree on International Relations. But , she listens to nothing I have to say. Whenever I talk about what I want to be, she starts to act weird, like she has Heart attack or starts beating me and swearing. I have started felling depressed and I've even  started thinking about suicide, because I really don't want to do something I never liked. Every Punjabi that goes into college comes out a doctor, then why not be different? Today, she even called a relative in Canada, who really didn't know what I was talking about and told me to become a daktar cuz that's what is in the market. Lol I've already found a good university for international relations in the UK but all I get is threats that if I don't do what they want they aren't going to give any money (which they've been saving since my birth) for my studies. Please I really need help! Can somebody suggest me what to do? Any replies would be appreciated!

Singh if you have what it takes to be a doctor then go for it !

Think about becoming an eye or ent specialist rather than a physician. 

If not then how about being a dentist or an optometrist.

Once you qualify, apply for internship at WHO to learn about International Relations through foreign placement 😊

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So, I'm in my first grade of High School and I live in a part of Europe.(getting out of here is like the number one priority for my family, cuz there is no future here)

Italy ?

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Subjects that involve reading, like History, Ancient Language, Literature, Latin and English and Subjects like Maths, Science, Biology, Chemistry etc. Now, I'm good with the first choice of subjects. But...

That tells you all you need to know. You're very academically minded when it comes to the arts. Medicine ain't for you.

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Every Punjabi that goes into college comes out a doctor, then why not be different?

No. Only about 1..something % of Punjabis that go to college becomes a doctor. And of that 1%, 80% had the benefit of a private education leaving just 0.2 % of normal Punjabis that went to college becoming doctors.

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I have started felling depressed and I've even  started thinking about suicide,

Seems to me like you need to see a doctor. Doctors can be expensive these days so the cheapest option may be for you to become a doctor and examine yourself.

Mora of the story ? Mums are always right. Become a doctor.

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Bro follow your heart, but also listen to your mind. Get a degree that's worth something and you enjoy, if being a doctor isn't something you have the heart for don't do it. Being academic doesn't mean that's the only route for you. You could go into a broad science degree and get a masters in that, by god we as a community need more scientists and less Lawyers.

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4 hours ago, Kira said:

Bro follow your heart, but also listen to your mind. Get a degree that's worth something and you enjoy, if being a doctor isn't something you have the heart for don't do it. Being academic doesn't mean that's the only route for you. You could go into a broad science degree and get a masters in that, by god we as a community need more scientists and less Lawyers.

You don't seem to have quite grasped what he or she is interested in, i.e good at. He / she said he is good at the arts but not so good at the sciences. He said he loves the arts but no so much the sciences. Strange then why so many here are still giving him the advice of a career in the sciences. In fact it's more than just strange....it's downright bewildering ! :hairan:

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2 hours ago, Guest Jagsaw_Singh said:

You don't seem to have quite grasped what he or she is interested in, i.e good at. He / she said he is good at the arts but not so good at the sciences. He said he loves the arts but no so much the sciences. Strange then why so many here are still giving him the advice of a career in the sciences. In fact it's more than just strange....it's downright bewildering ! :hairan:

my bad, I misread. 

 

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One elderly man told me that people regret the things they did not do then the things they did do. Follow your heart, at the end of the day your have to live your life, your parents are not living it.

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Don't despair my friend. 

Your mother means well. The world economy is not good.  It's hard to make a living if you aren't a doctor lawyer or engineer.  

If you pick any other degree my advice would be to get a doctorate in whatever it is so that if the chosen field doesn't have many jobs you can be a professor. 

Suicide is never the answer. You don't have to die just die to maya.  

Your mother and many like her suffer in hopes that their children will have it better.  She fears for your well being in a dark world. 

When she is mad give her a hug and say sahej mamma sahej.  Don't worry. I will study hard and be good and everything is okay. It's in guru ji's hands. 

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Similar to when I wanted to take amrit but my mum didn't let me (I just took it anyways).

You don't ASK her, you TELL her.

Big difference.

If you ask her, you will make her feel that she has authority.

If you tell her, you will have the responsibility.

 

Otherwise just ignore her. She won't care after you become what she didn't want you to become.

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pyare veer ji,

dont stress yourself, do your nitnem do abyaas mahraj will lead you.

Dont fight with your mom, whenever she starts telling you to become a doctor just say acha ji after that.

And dont start telling her this and that.

Every job has pro and cons

However, its our duty to do the efford but its in mahraj ji hands if you get the reward.

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Do whats in your heart don't force yourself to do something you don't. I know doctors that have changed career due to high pressure/workload, ridiculous /unpredicatable working hours, demoralisation  and not having a life outside of work. You have to sacrifice your life basically for a job which isn't worth it. Medicine isn't what you think and you don't realise this until you become one. You are forced to do things which you don't want to. The system is rife with corruption and all you are is a pharmaceutical agent prescribing/administrating drugs which don't cure anything but mask symptoms and cause disease through side effects. You are indoctrinated in med school to frown upon natural cures/systems like Ayurveda and are not taught about real medicine. You basically become a walking talking robot for the pharmaceutical companies without you even knowing. I know doctors that keep silent and feel they have invested too much to jump ship so just continue suffering day to day. My friends wished they had done something else. 

in hindsight, i would have told myself to do something with a good work/life balance so i can actually live a life of some quality rather than be enslaved by work. Trust me its not worth it especially if you  want to live a spiritual life. 

At the end of the day you want to be happy and have a life which you won't have if you do medicine. Plus knowing that you are not curing illness but giving  ineffective drugs that cause a vicious cycle of side effects and more drugs is really disheartening. Plus you are not allowed to discuss your own views or alternative remedies or anything which casts doubt/is against the corporate lies of big pharma. 

Allopathic medicine is a fraudulent industry. Its not a job of seva or helping people which you may think. 

e.g http://whale.to/a/allopathy_h.html

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Also i would advise you to think long and hard about what career you want and then decide on what you want to do at university. Think about your long term plans. You don't want to go uni just for the sake of it. it has to be valuable to your goals and act accordingly. E.g i know people that having done biochemistry, are unable to get a good job and have gone onto to other degrees due to a lack of foresight/planning in the fist place. So look at the job opportunities and research where the degree will take you. I know it sounds daunting but the decision you make now is really important as it will shape your foreseeable future and you really don't want to be getting it wrong or regretting not doing your own research. So take your time, ask yourself what you want, speak to people that have been in a similar position and don't be forced to live other people's dreams but. live your own. That way it won't play on your soul and you won't have any regrets. Good luck

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