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Hi eveyone,

Please take sometime to read my post and advise accordingly...thank you

Im a sikh living in foreign country who has been speaking with a girl in india for nearly 8 months. Everytime i call, i say and ask everything. She tells me everything i ask but has never asked me about my hobbies, interests, job etc.

Her mom always tell me and my parents my daughter speaks very little, is too nice and very shy and once she comes here, she will open up. I speak with her 3 times every week for nearly an hr and i do the talking, she listen...replies to me but doesnt ask me anything.

I have asked her personal things aswell, but i feel she is not interested in sharing anything. I felt so happy everytime i called her but lately, everytime i speak with her and  end the call, im unhappy and think if she is right for me. I am hurt she hasnt askes my anything at all and I have  not called her for the past week and will not be doing so and am seriously considering calling this off. Because of her silence, i know little about her and this is troubling, i know nothing about the person who i might marry.

Please advise:

- does the above mean she doesnt like me? If so, why is she dragging this on.

- should i assume she isnt saying anything for fear of her parents? Could our age gap (7 yrs) be a problem?

- 8 months is a long time for a couple to get comfortable with one another and i feel i have given her enough time and she should be discussing things with me.

- before you say she is an introvert, my parents, friwnds and job colleagues say im also an introvert.

Please advise

 

 

 

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7 hours ago, Guest Guestz said:

Hi eveyone,

Please take sometime to read my post and advise accordingly...thank you

Im a sikh living in foreign country who has been speaking with a girl in india for nearly 8 months. Everytime i call, i say and ask everything. She tells me everything i ask but has never asked me about my hobbies, interests, job etc.

Her mom always tell me and my parents my daughter speaks very little, is too nice and very shy and once she comes here, she will open up. I speak with her 3 times every week for nearly an hr and i do the talking, she listen...replies to me but doesnt ask me anything.

I have asked her personal things aswell, but i feel she is not interested in sharing anything. I felt so happy everytime i called her but lately, everytime i speak with her and  end the call, im unhappy and think if she is right for me. I am hurt she hasnt askes my anything at all and I have  not called her for the past week and will not be doing so and am seriously considering calling this off. Because of her silence, i know little about her and this is troubling, i know nothing about the person who i might marry.

Please advise:

- does the above mean she doesnt like me? If so, why is she dragging this on.

- should i assume she isnt saying anything for fear of her parents? Could our age gap (7 yrs) be a problem?

- 8 months is a long time for a couple to get comfortable with one another and i feel i have given her enough time and she should be discussing things with me.

- before you say she is an introvert, my parents, friwnds and job colleagues say im also an introvert.

Please advise

 

 

 

U should clearly ask her if she’s not happy or has any problems.. she’s not happy with the rishta and her parents are forcing.. secondly she really could be like this and that’s why she’s not asking much but if she’s not asking u anything at all thn there must be something coz no kuri doesn’t matter living in a pind or city even after eight months of talking hasn’t opened up at all.. like not a SINGLE thing like where u work or anything else.. so instead of assuming just ask her upfront.. I’m also an introvert.

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She has her mind on someone else.  It is hard to just keep listening to someone.  She would be wanting to know about life here. She would be having many questions if she was interested in a future with you.  

She seems to be playing along only to give you the slip later on. Break it if you can. She's talking to someone else behind your back and her heart is with a desi but her parents want a better life for her. Forced marriage - it might work or she might become pakki get her boyfriend here and run off.  You are better off without her. Not worth the headache. 

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On 16/12/2017 at 5:54 PM, Guest Guestz said:

Hi eveyone,

Please take sometime to read my post and advise accordingly...thank you

Im a sikh living in foreign country who has been speaking with a girl in india for nearly 8 months. Everytime i call, i say and ask everything. She tells me everything i ask but has never asked me about my hobbies, interests, job etc.

Her mom always tell me and my parents my daughter speaks very little, is too nice and very shy and once she comes here, she will open up. I speak with her 3 times every week for nearly an hr and i do the talking, she listen...replies to me but doesnt ask me anything.

I have asked her personal things aswell, but i feel she is not interested in sharing anything. I felt so happy everytime i called her but lately, everytime i speak with her and  end the call, im unhappy and think if she is right for me. I am hurt she hasnt askes my anything at all and I have  not called her for the past week and will not be doing so and am seriously considering calling this off. Because of her silence, i know little about her and this is troubling, i know nothing about the person who i might marry.

Please advise:

- does the above mean she doesnt like me? If so, why is she dragging this on.

- should i assume she isnt saying anything for fear of her parents? Could our age gap (7 yrs) be a problem?

- 8 months is a long time for a couple to get comfortable with one another and i feel i have given her enough time and she should be discussing things with me.

- before you say she is an introvert, my parents, friwnds and job colleagues say im also an introvert.

Please advise

 

 

 

You must understand that yours is Not a love marriage.

In arranged marriage girls side usually play safe. They talk less in order to avoid any displeasure from groom or his side.

Once you meet her face to face things would be different.

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You haven't mentioned if you'd actually met this girl. If so, how did she come across in person? Did she seem interested then? Happy/smiling/shy or quiet/miserable.

If it's all just been over the phone then it's hard to say if she likes you or not. I mean can you like someone you've only ever spoken to over the phone?? Infatuation maybe. If you haven't met her a few times, I'd back right out of that.

7 years is a huge age gap. I'm assuming she's the younger one.

Be very considerate with your next move. This is someone's daughter, someone's sister. If you need to call it off, make sure you've tried your best to make it work first. Go meet her if you haven't already. See how you guys get on etc.

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45 minutes ago, sikhni777 said:

She has her mind on someone else.  It is hard to just keep listening to someone.  She would be wanting to know about life here. She would be having many questions if she was interested in a future with you.  

She seems to be playing along only to give you the slip later on. Break it if you can. She's talking to someone else behind your back and her heart is with a desi but her parents want a better life for her. Forced marriage - it might work or she might become pakki get her boyfriend here and run off.  You are better off without her. Not worth the headache. 

Wt f?? How'd you even leap to these conclusions?? Cray cray! 

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9 minutes ago, S4NGH said:

Wt f?? How'd you even leap to these conclusions?? Cray cray! 

It's like when that guy called up Harjap Bhangal's immigration show with the same situation and he's like "paaji ohh ta meri life f*cked kar gai". It was live as well.

Lol

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