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On Wednesday, December 27, 2017 at 4:21 PM, lostconfussedsingh said:

Its not even ego but the pride of money makes it even worse. 

 

The sort of people who i have seen and know even though its been over 40/50 years in uk they behave like they just come from india right now as they have all these old traditions

That 's true it's pride of money that make people behave this way..they don't have any fear of God because they believe they have attained everything with their hard work and the one whom they have brought to foreign land has to stay mum always because she is dependent..It's sad that we are more focussed for receiving formal education which unfortunately doesn't help in real life issues..we hardly get any spiritual knowledge which can help us fight such tough situations in life..I feel so lost at this point of life.

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On Saturday, December 30, 2017 at 9:58 AM, sikhni777 said:

My sas had to lock her daughter up in a room so that she could work.  The poor girl cried and cried. There were no toys or tv in those days. My sas did not have a mum either.  So she was made to work like a donkey before and after marriage too. She is full of so much hate and still deals with us DILS very rudely. She has learnt nothing from the experience that she can be different.  She does 2 sukhmani sahib path everyday and all nitnem and rehras and mala too in the middle of the night.  However she not once has appreciated anything in life. 

Only koorh comes out of her mouth.  I really hope that I learn something from her behaviour and do not turn out to be like her. 

Bitter experiences turn you rude..I have been facing hardships since my marriage and this has made me so rude but I don't have any bad feelings for anyone except my in laws..and I really wish to run away because this environment is making me so depressed .

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My sister's sas went through a much worse time.  It involved looking after her husband's elder brother s kids too. She wore her chura for just one day.  The next day she was cooking washing making clothes for those five kids - starving herself for them. 

They ate to their full and she survived on a cup of tea each day. Roti was not enough for them all. However she still cooks for my sister up to this day. She gives her all the time to look after her children and do her shopping and go for holidays.  

She is blind in one eye and got only one working leg. She doesn't have any bitterness in her and still talks sweetly.  The kids she gave her youth for dont even visit her. 

These are however old day tales of great sacrifices.  However on the other side of this lies lots of sukh. Once you get past the bad times,  then the good you deserve cannot be snatched from you.  

We all know bad times at school,  work,  in family or times of illness.  They are part of our bad karma getting cancelled too.