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3 hours ago, SikhInTheMaking said:

I guess there not true friends. Rather than encouraging and supporting they sit there and take the P lol I’m not really bothered about what they want think anymore. The most difficult part for me is explaining why I’m not coming out when they ring.

They don’t understand why you are changing, but still it’s wrong for them to behave like this. It’s because they can’t see past what they think is “normal”. And they’re probably afraid of change themselves and losing a member of the group who they get confidence from. But why should you carry on feeding their confidence, when you need to help yourself first. 

Many friends may come and go, but don’t waste your life on something you don’t want to do just for the sake of it. You never know, they may start to think about themselves too, once you let go of that way of life. You can still be friends, but just have different lifestyles, just don’t become enemies with anybody in the process. It’s good you’re not bothered about them anymore, this  shows the change that’s taking place on a positive note. 

When somebody calls and I don’t want to do something or talk, I don’t answer it 😀.  Just let the call go to voicemail and listen to it in your own time when you’re ready to. This way, you won’t be pressured into making a decision. 

3 hours ago, SikhInTheMaking said:

Going to the actual gurdwara is easy because I enjoy it and want to do it 

Because you want to do it, is what matters. And that’s what’s going to help you. 

Guest Kaur is right, do you really want to be around those that keep dragging you down? She’s said some good things about your future. 

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On 14/10/2017 at 9:41 AM, Guest Kaur said:

Its good that you are making changes. I just hope nobody holds your past against you and that your future wife and family can accept your past because not all girls can accept somebody who makes mistakes. Im not trying to make you feel bad but its like thay saying:  A mistake is once but if you keep doing it then it becomes a choice.  

I think as long as you keep making the right choices and have a bit of dignity and respect then you will be fine. 

Totally agree and I understand if someone cant accept the mistakes ive made. I would find it difficult if it was the other way round 

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2 hours ago, SikhInTheMaking said:

Totally agree and I understand if someone cant accept the mistakes ive made. I would find it difficult if it was the other way round 

Yeah Im no angel but I dont think I could except it if my future husband had been with other girls just because I dont go around doing stuff like that. But I know way too many boys and girls that just go round doing what they like and the worst thing is nobody cares and they get married soo easily. I am surprised that you have not found somebody yourself especially if you go out and about. 

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2 hours ago, Guest Kaur said:

Yeah Im no angel but I dont think I could except it if my future husband had been with other girls just because I dont go around doing stuff like that. But I know way too many boys and girls that just go round doing what they like and the worst thing is nobody cares and they get married soo easily. I am surprised that you have not found somebody yourself especially if you go out and about. 

I used to always be out and about but ive never been that type of guy. Im not a very confident person in that manner so I havent been able to meet anyone in that way. Im trying to keep faith in waheguru and just hoping it will happen when he wants it to - I really hope he doesnt want me to be alone forever lol but what will be, will be 

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20 minutes ago, SikhInTheMaking said:

I used to always be out and about but ive never been that type of guy. Im not a very confident person in that manner so I havent been able to meet anyone in that way. Im trying to keep faith in waheguru and just hoping it will happen when he wants it to - I really hope he doesnt want me to be alone forever lol but what will be, will be 

Yeh I agree. When the timing is right it will happen.  Its just a waiting game. A really annoying irritating and frustrating wait.  I hope this girl you have fallen for changes her mind. You sound like a nice decent person despite the fact that you have made mistakes. 

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28 minutes ago, Guest Kaur said:

Yeh I agree. When the timing is right it will happen.  Its just a waiting game. A really annoying irritating and frustrating wait.  I hope this girl you have fallen for changes her mind. You sound like a nice decent person despite the fact that you have made mistakes. 

I really doubt that, its been about 3-4 weeks since we last spoke and shes already changed her mind once and then changed it back again. Im trying to accept that I wont be hearing from her again, i just hope shes happy with whatever she chooses in life and whoever she ends up with :) . As for me, I hope that god forgives me for my mistakes in life and finds me someone soon because being alone is tough lol

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2 minutes ago, SikhInTheMaking said:

I really doubt that, its been about 3-4 weeks since we last spoke and shes already changed her mind once and then changed it back again. Im trying to accept that I wont be hearing from her again, i just hope shes happy with whatever she chooses in life and whoever she ends up with :) . As for me, I hope that god forgives me for my mistakes in life and finds me someone soon because being alone is tough lol

Well I think thats a good thing that shes changed her mind already. That means that she is just confused but I dont know, I dont want to get your hopes up but it could still be on the cards.

Haha yeah it is tough but i think its worth the wait. 

 

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55 minutes ago, Guest Kaur said:

I dont want to get your hopes up but it could still be on the cards.

im deffo not holding my breath - if I kept thinking it could still be on the cards I would never get over it haha but its all good, the hardest part is over and Im alright now

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