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‘In one house, seven girls. We thought god would balance with a son’


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It says in the article he spent his entire income on drinking,  so he was hardly contributing to the family and not being responsible for his children either. 

People should be grateful for having daughters, as there are couples who can’t have children and never have that chance of happiness, regardless of them being boys or girls. 

What is it with our community, any problem and the men turn to drink as an excuse, whilst the women are expected to deal with it. I can’t say I understand, as there’s families out there who after having girls don’t turn to drink. They learn to cope with it, and adjust to what they receive, be grateful and accept God’s will. Girls should never be considered a bauj (burden). 

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5 hours ago, LifeIsBeautiful said:

He was just being a human being. Destroying copies of babajis paath is manmat.

 

However his feelings I understand. This life is a joke sometimes, sometimes it is very cruel.

I didn't mean the guy in news but society in general. Where do Sikh's draw a line n say "enough is enough". No more trying for a boy, girls are fine.

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2 hours ago, simran345 said:

It says in the article he spent his entire income on drinking,  so he was hardly contributing to the family and not being responsible for his children either. 

People should be grateful for having daughters, as there are couples who can’t have children and never have that chance of happiness, regardless of them being boys or girls. 

What is it with our community, any problem and the men turn to drink as an excuse, whilst the women are expected to deal with it. I can’t say I understand, as there’s families out there who after having girls don’t turn to drink. They learn to cope with it, and adjust to what they receive, be grateful and accept God’s will. Girls should never be considered a bauj (burden). 

Sikh & Punjabi society is too blame for such incidents. Girls from poor families must be given free education, health insurance & social security till they become an adult.

If parents are incapable or unwilling to raise a girl child, she should be given to a childless couple for adoption.

Govt & Religious Organisations have failed that's why people are looking upto to Baba's for support n guidance.

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2 hours ago, simran345 said:

It says in the article he spent his entire income on drinking,  so he was hardly contributing to the family and not being responsible for his children either. 

People should be grateful for having daughters, as there are couples who can’t have children and never have that chance of happiness, regardless of them being boys or girls. 

What is it with our community, any problem and the men turn to drink as an excuse, whilst the women are expected to deal with it. I can’t say I understand, as there’s families out there who after having girls don’t turn to drink. They learn to cope with it, and adjust to what they receive, be grateful and accept God’s will. Girls should never be considered a bauj (burden). 

7 daughters means 7 weddings and 7 sets of dowry.

Told "koi nahi" everytime his wife gives birth.

The pressure of relatives and villagers constantly on his case about not having a boy.

Being constantly ribbed about not having a son.

Being a man, you are expected to suck it up. There is no support network like women do with each other, the only thing you can do is turn to drink.

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12 hours ago, singhbj singh said:

How many 'Shots' are Sikhs allowed to get a baby boy ?

http://indianexpress.com/article/india/in-one-house-seven-girls-we-thought-god-would-balance-with-a-son-4869038/

Have seen lot many educated Sikhs having 2,3,4 daughters & still craving for a son.

Is this Gurmat or Manmat ?

Honestly manmaat, but in all reality it's our fault we've brainwashed a generation into thinking do paath, and get what you need. All this because 'Babay' have been doing Arths of shabads like this: "jo mangay takhur apnay te, soee soee devay" as whatever you ask god for, do a certain # of japji sahibs and you'll get it. We're the better translation would have been those who ask for god onto themselves, as in ask for the gift of sikhi, they revive their requests. Had he been given better gian and taught santokh he could see the anand in this. We also have punjabi culture  to blame for this: daaj, wedding culture, the fact that males are seen as more superior, and the thought that girls won't be there for them.

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