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 I had put up a  support post about an abusive family , which included the women and man being abusive (physically, emotionally and mentally). Thankfully,  God me out of the abuse and  now I have the gift of doing bani.

A few people had asked me for an inkling about how the family were so as not to take a rishta to them. The man is still unmarried.

I did not want to gossip but at the same time I didn't want NOT to warn other people. It's been a while now so I'm putting this up just as a warning to other people. DO NOT confront these people. God will deal with them when the time comes

I think of all the abuse I suffered, the most painful was complete indifference to Guru Gobind Singh Ji's great sacrifices and the Sahibzaade. I cannot understand how a family that puts up a pretense of culture and self righteousness sees nothing wrong with insulting the Gurus. I was constantly demeaned for praying and he would laugh at the Guru's and say how backwards they were compared to "science".

The family lives in derby. The man has 3 sisters of which one is divorced and the other 2 are struggling to stay married. He runs a shop.The mother goes to the Gurdwara and puts up a pretense of being religious. She is the most toxic and a hypocrite.

Do not take any rishte to them, they are abusive and a woman's life will get ruined. The mother and sisters are extremely jealous and underachievers (all live in ghettos) so they  put down others. The man talks to women on facebook and is secretive (he covers up his tracks)

 

I will ask the mods to delete this post after a while, simply because I don't want any negativity around me anymore or this family to trouble me . Mods please acknowledge

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Thanks for warning everyone but just don't disrespect them as their paap will go your head. Again thanks for warning us penji.

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Punjabi culture like drinking etc are taking over how a proper anand karaj should be done. I'm not saying all of Punjabi culture i'm just talking about certain aspects. Sorry if I offended anyone that was not my intention.

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    • Fair enough. While I'm in agreement that idol worship is not part of Sikhi, I believe the tuks you have posted have been posted out of context here. The bani above is referring to those whose spritual mode of worship is only idol worship. Those who think that Parmeshwar resides only in the idol. Those who have no other forms of worship and still think they are saved by doing puja of a pathar/image. That's not really what's happening in the video (I don't think so anyway). Do bear in mind I'm not completely justifying what they're doing. I would need to know more details before I could personally comment what side of the fence this lands on. For example, if this is a regular thing or only done on a certain day i.e. Vishwakarma Day etc, what they believe about Vishwakarma and what he represents for them, and what their intentions are as well as what their sharda and bhaavna is, in performing this Aarti? And of course their maksad. As I always say, things are rarely black and white.  
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      Raag Sarang Guru Nanak Dev   Guru Arjan Dev ji in Raag Bharo: ਮਹਲਾ ੫ ॥ Mehala 5 || ਜੋ ਪਾਥਰ ਕਉ ਕਹਤੇ ਦੇਵ ॥ Those who call a stone their god ਤਾ ਕੀ ਬਿਰਥਾ ਹੋਵੈ ਸੇਵ ॥ Their service is useless. ਜੋ ਪਾਥਰ ਕੀ ਪਾਂਈ ਪਾਇ ॥ Those who fall at the feet of a stone god ਤਿਸ ਕੀ ਘਾਲ ਅਜਾਂਈ ਜਾਇ ॥੧॥ - their work is wasted in vain. ||1||   The people who do this (idol worship) will sink in the worldly ocean: ਕਬੀਰ ਪਾਹਨੁ ਪਰਮੇਸੁਰੁ ਕੀਆ ਪੂਜੈ ਸਭੁ ਸੰਸਾਰੁ ॥ Kabeer, someone sets up a stone idol and all the world worships it as the Lord. ਇਸ ਭਰਵਾਸੇ ਜੋ ਰਹੇ ਬੂਡੇ ਕਾਲੀ ਧਾਰ ॥੧੩੬॥ Those who hold to this belief will be drowned in the river of darkness. ||136|| ਸਲੋਕ ਕਬੀਰ ਜੀ (ਭ. ਕਬੀਰ) (੧੩੬):੨ - ਗੁਰੂ ਗ੍ਰੰਥ ਸਾਹਿਬ : ਅੰਗ ੧੩੭੧ ਪੰ. ੧੫ 
      Salok Bhagat Kabir    
    • Like I said maybe they shouldn't have been doing Aarti, not in the Gurdwara anyway. But the picture in itself shouldn't be a problem. Mahapurkhs have been known to keep pictures of Devi Devte, they weren't allergic to imagery, especially imagery you could say that makes up "Dharam" as a whole. Maybe not the picture shown in the video, but such imagery was commonplace and is part of our heritage. As is evident from the small selection of pictures I posted. The level of Hinduphobia amongst our people borders on idiocy.
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