marrying an amridtari

[Premi5]

1 hour ago, jkvlondon said:

eating meat is not a healthy thing anyhow as it is full of antibiotics and hormones  and what is the problem with kids not having meat ? it is not like it's necessary to live ... You obviously have issues which you are not speaking of , besides this low level concern if you don't believe in sikhi just say so to your folks and spare the guy . Else actually find out what sikhi is really about

 

This post sums it up well. No way your potential marriage would be happy and last long if there are already such divisions. And you will feel a lot better if you give up meat - you should see some videos online about how meat is manufactured/produced

[Wicked Warrior]

I know of a couple where the husband doesn't eat meat, nor do his family. The girl married with everyone knowing she ate meat (mainly chicken). She wasn't allowed to bring in, cook or eat meat in the house. She was fine with it. When the couple went out to restaurants, she would eat meat. After a few years, she naturally stopped eating meat and does not miss it. 

Your situation may resolve in the same way. But if you cannot give up meat for your prospective husband, then you should rethink the situation. Speak to your prospective husband. Be completely open and honest. It's better to break off a relationship early. The shame is much less than if you ended up divorced a few years down the line because things didn't work out.

The other posters are correct in that you may even derail your husband's spiritual future. Both of you should ideally be similar or compatible for a higher chance of successful marriage. This might be a marriage that works out in such a way that you naturally give up meat and become more spiritual and closer to Sikhi. Or it may become a life fraught with distress and unhappiness. 

[singhbj singh]

Guest Kaur nobody knows what will happen but it seems you two aren't compatible.

Couple must be flexible & adjusting when it comes to Arranged Marriage.

Either change your attitude or look for a like minded spouse.

[singhbj singh]

Moderators,

Why change my statement that "Girls must be flexible & adjusting when it comes to Arranged Marriage"

You forget girl is moving into guy's family home unless her parents bought a new one for the couple?

Norm is "my house, my rules"

This is NOT a love marriage where couple start fresh in their new home away from families.

 

[simran345]

1 hour ago, singhbj singh said:

Moderators,

Why change my statement that "Girls must be flexible & adjusting when it comes to Arranged Marriage"

You forget girl is moving into guy's family home unless her parents bought a new one for the couple?

Norm is "my house, my rules"

This is NOT a love marriage where couple start fresh in their new home away from families.

 

Admin changed it to couple, as the onus is not on just the female to adjust, but also the male should adjust too.

Women are not slaves and your words show just that. When a couple get married, it’s up to both to adjust to each other within reasonable situations. Stop being so desi backward thinking, and stop treating women as the lower end. You think women just need to do the housework. 

Get back into the kitchen and make some rotian, you talk too much bakwas. 

[singhbj singh]

2 hours ago, simran345 said:

Admin changed it to couple, as the onus is not on just the female to adjust, but also the male should adjust too.

Women are not slaves and your words show just that. When a couple get married, it’s up to both to adjust to each other within reasonable situations. Stop being so desi backward thinking, and stop treating women as the lower end. You think women just need to do the housework. 

Get back into the kitchen and make some rotian, you talk too much bakwas. 

Yes, in a perfect world both husband n wife need to adjust equally not in Desi world ?

Who said anything about being a slave, am just stating facts ie being realistic.

Liberal girls don't have an arranged marriage, moderates haggle seek compatibility whereas backward are just told to marry (have no say in decision making).

PS - In a perfect world Admin's wife, sister & mother would also be participating in the forum

 

[simran345]

@singhbj singh doesn’t your bakwas ever stop? 

You should get some counselling or some therapy for it. 

[Guest Guest Singh1997]

Guest Kaur, with all due respect I'm going to be very blunt here.

Waheguru has blessed you with an opportunity to get out of gandh and walk in the path of Guru sahib. If you don't take this opportunity, it is your loss.

In your past lives, Dharam raj  battered you in the head and you begged for forgiveness and an opportunity to right your wrongs. Now is the time to take the righteous path.

All of the best.