abstinence celibacy

[Guest Hdas]

Hi this probably wont be a popular thread at all, but just some food for thought.

In the ancient text 'Yoga Sutra', is describes how brahmacharya (freedom from sex) denotes true manhood.  The same would apply with womanhood.  In older times, both genders would consider brahmacharya the normal state (until marriage).  

Nowadays it seems sexuality is equated with manhood and womanhood, mainly through media brainwashing.  However, even the most foolish and immature teenagers could engage in sexual behaviour.  (Hence the previously stated attitude is clearly erroneous).  Also implied by the media is that sex is a need.  Sex may be a desire, but it is not a need.  

The Latin word for man, 'vir', is the root for the modern word 'virtue'.  This does well to imply it is your virtue, not sexual acts, that determine your manliness/womanhood, characteristics such as self-restraint, bravery, mature attitude, patience, perseverance, integrity, humility etc. 

Another debasing attitude is the reduction of woman, in the mass view, to sex objects.  Even women themselves are being brainwashed to believe this.  The idea that sexuality equates with female power is incorrect, since biologically women always partake the passive role in sex.  By the dictates of nature, intercourse ends as soon as the male reaches orgasm, indifferent to the female.  The female takes a servile role.  And once the man climaxes, he often feels (by biological impulse) repulsion to his partner.  How then is it in the interest of a female to partake in the sexual act with a person without a contract of marriage (whereby the man cannot ordinarily cannot leave until she agrees without violating an oath)?  Likewise, on the male's side, you are willing engaging in exploiting a woman purely for pleasure, fully aware that your attraction to her will end when you climax.  Deception.

The whole servile aspect of the sex act, how is that something that invites a sense of pleasure?  Does it not, in a wanton context, donate lack of self-esteem?

Also unfashionable is the idea that 'sex is dirty'.  But contrary to what the media are duping your brain into believing, sex is dirty.  If you want proof, think about (both men and women) performing sex acts with someone you do not find attractive.

Another lie is that sex is romantic.  Whereas in truth, it is either mutual masturbation or else one person acting servile to the other.

I think that both men and woman who have pre-marital sex are being unfaithful to their future marriage partner, due to the physical intimacy of the act.  You are exposing yourself to somebody.  It is likely you feel a connection to them in that sense even after the relationship ends.  It is kind of like you married them.

Just some thoughts.