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So I'm scared of whats gonna happen to me after death.

Who knows, the Dharam Raja could decide to chuck me into a pot full of boiling hot oil for 100 million years or something 😢😢😢

And i dont wanna die cuz i dont wanna become a pig or something in my next life.  And i dont wanna have a caraplier life than i have right now 😢😢😢

What if i dont get to be a sikh and have to be born in a non gursikh family 😢😢😢😣

Im trying hard to do path, simran etc. But who knows what the Dharam raja is gonna do, its really harsh up there. I dont really care about mukhti or whatever, its not a goal lf mine cuz obviously its not gonna happen. 

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Keep Rehat Maryada, take Amrit, do a lot of Nitnem and Seva and sadhsangat.  Thus you will start having an internal spiritual understanding that will reshape your karma and your astral body (Man) will go to a higher more heavenly plane or might get another life as human being to continue expenditure of karma 

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2 hours ago, OneBeing said:

So I'm scared of whats gonna happen to me after death.

Who knows, the Dharam Raja could decide to chuck me into a pot full of boiling hot oil for 100 million years or something 😢😢😢

And i dont wanna die cuz i dont wanna become a pig or something in my next life.  And i dont wanna have a caraplier life than i have right now 😢😢😢

What if i dont get to be a sikh and have to be born in a non gursikh family 😢😢😢😣

Im trying hard to do path, simran etc. But who knows what the Dharam raja is gonna do, its really harsh up there. I dont really care about mukhti or whatever, its not a goal lf mine cuz obviously its not gonna happen. 

Are you scared of death because you feel like you will lose everything you accomplished with your bhagti, then I would say don't worry. Or is it because you fear some artificial punishment in the afterlife, or fear of Karmic debt, if that's the case, you've probably been paying your Karmic debt all your life without even noticing, and if you reincarnate again, you will not realize that you've been paying your Karmic debt for this life at a future life. Focus on serving Guru Sahib and building pyaar.

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3 hours ago, OneBeing said:

So I'm scared of whats gonna happen to me after death.

Who knows, the Dharam Raja could decide to chuck me into a pot full of boiling hot oil for 100 million years or something 😢😢😢

And i dont wanna die cuz i dont wanna become a pig or something in my next life.  And i dont wanna have a caraplier life than i have right now 😢😢😢

What if i dont get to be a sikh and have to be born in a non gursikh family 😢😢😢😣

Im trying hard to do path, simran etc. But who knows what the Dharam raja is gonna do, its really harsh up there. I dont really care about mukhti or whatever, its not a goal lf mine cuz obviously its not gonna happen. 

Instead of worrying about what's going to happen to you, be grateful to God that you have been given the chance to connect to God.  So start putting those worries into actions and do Simran. But don't do it with fear, instead with love and devotion. 

 

 

 

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First of all death is an illusion. Energy doesn't die. We are eternal beings. Just changing forms. For those familiar with NDE (near death experience) studies it's clear there is no judgement but a life review where one experiences the effect of their actions as the other person. Strange enough none of the documented western cases see Dharamraj. Makes me wonder does ones belief has something to do with it as ones belief creates ones reality even after so called death(illusion)

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1 hour ago, simran345 said:

Instead of worrying about what's going to happen to you, be grateful to God that you have been given the chance to connect to God.  So start putting those worries into actions and do Simran. But don't do it with fear, instead with love and devotion. 

 

 

 

(Ive already seen those vids)

So i guess I'll keep trying. What I'm scared of is the physical pain of dying and whats gonna happen afterwards. Meeting the messengers of death and dharam raja etc. I aint ready for none of that man.

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3 hours ago, Jacfsing2 said:

Are you scared of death because you feel like you will lose everything you accomplished with your bhagti, then I would say don't worry. Or is it because you fear some artificial punishment in the afterlife, or fear of Karmic debt, if that's the case, you've probably been paying your Karmic debt all your life without even noticing, and if you reincarnate again, you will not realize that you've been paying your Karmic debt for this life at a future life. Focus on serving Guru Sahib and building pyaar.

Im scared of the punishments the dharam raja is gonna give me and i cant handle the feeling of being tortured.

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1 hour ago, OneBeing said:

Im scared of the punishments the dharam raja is gonna give me and i cant handle the feeling of being tortured.

Have you done anything wrong?

No matter how much sins you have commited or what your sins are, the Guru's forgiveness will always be greater.

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1 hour ago, OneBeing said:

(Ive already seen those vids)

So i guess I'll keep trying. What I'm scared of is the physical pain of dying and whats gonna happen afterwards. Meeting the messengers of death and dharam raja etc. I aint ready for none of that man.

You don't know what's going to happen, so quit worrying and stop getting anxious. You have to stop thinking negative and think positive. If you do good actions in this life, then you don't have to keep dwelling on it. 

How old are you? Why are you wasting you're energy on being afraid so much. We should be afraid of not doing good deeds or not doing Simran, but why are you going OTT? What matters is more is quality. Nobody here can say to you this, that or the other will happen.

Guruji tells us:

ਆਪੇ ਬੀਜਿ ਆਪੇ ਹੀ ਖਾਹੁ  
आपे बीजि आपे ही खाहु ॥ 
Āpe bīj āpe hī kẖāhu. 
Man himself sows and himself reaps (he reaps what he sows). 
SGGSji Ang 4 

Dhan Guru Nanak Dev ji 🙏🏻

 

So instead of worrying, do good and good will happen with you too. 

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8 hours ago, OneBeing said:

So I'm scared of whats gonna happen to me after death.

Who knows, the Dharam Raja could decide to chuck me into a pot full of boiling hot oil for 100 million years or something 😢😢😢

And i dont wanna die cuz i dont wanna become a pig or something in my next life.  And i dont wanna have a caraplier life than i have right now 😢😢😢

What if i dont get to be a sikh and have to be born in a non gursikh family 😢😢😢😣

Im trying hard to do path, simran etc. But who knows what the Dharam raja is gonna do, its really harsh up there. I dont really care about mukhti or whatever, its not a goal lf mine cuz obviously its not gonna happen. 

The only hell and heaven is what we experience whilst living. 

Dharam raja up there? There is no man sitting up in the sky anywhere. It is an example. Dharamraja is not going to make you walk through fire or beat you with a stick. 

We experience hell through our actions and we experience mukti through our actions, all in this life. 

When we do something bad we feel guilt and that feeling eats away at us and we are constantly worried of the outcome. It may make us sleepless and that is living in hell. Same with good deeds and abhiyaas. You feel feel mukat. 

Sikhi is about the present. Why worry why fear when everything that happens is in maharajs hukam. If maharaj makes us a pig then that is maharajs choice. Jeh jeh rakheh aap teh jaey kharovna. Maharaj says whereever you keep me, i am happy. 

Use the present to bring good future. But do not worry about the past or future. Chetna hei toa chet le nis din meh prani. 

Save the time you now currently have.

Maharaj will take care of everything. Cheer up and just appreciate what maharaj has given you at this moment in time. Do not worry about losing it because maharaj gave us this life and when the time comes they will take it back. :)

I am learning also and have a long way to go. 

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Vaheguru ji Ka Khalsa
Vaheguru ji Ki Fateh, ji

Practice nitnem ji everyday, and add sri sukhmani sahib ji to your nitnem ji. All gurbani ji is good, but adding sri sukhmani sahib ji to nitnem ji daily will change the person's character and they will automatically not be inclined do paapi things.. It gives descriptions of many deeds & consequences. Do this without any questions if you sincerely want help, and you will thank sri guru sahib ji later. & also, slandering anyone if they are a saint or not is not positive. If someone is bad, we may know they are bad, but what is the point to continuously keep wasting time on slandering them (especially since, when some are spending their final days, they wish they may have had more time to do paath, but instead they wasted their time in the past with slander which in turn causes dukh).. &  thinking about sri vaheguru sahib ji is way more fruitful, rather than remembering someone's mistakes. Before you do paath, always forgive. & do seva at gurdwara jis daily while reciting jaap. Also think about others in your life when you interact with them.. Are you adding positivity to their life? Or are you influencing any of the 5 dukhs upon them? Vaheguru ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru ji Ki Fateh

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...maybe you'll come back as a caterpillar ..... caterpillars' are awesome...

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OneBeing Jee,

according to the title of your thread, following are the soothing and lovely words of Fifth Patshahee Dhan Dhan Satguru Arjun Dev Maharaj, which answers it, and can dispell  that your fear about death, only if you have that pooran sharda by taking refuge in them:

ਪ੍ਰਭ ਕੈ ਸਿਮਰਨਿ ਦੂਖੁ ਜਮੁ ਨਸੈ ॥
प्रभ कै सिमरनि दूखु जमु नसै ॥
prabh kai simaran dhookh jam nasai |
Remembering God, the pain of death is dispelled.
 
Moreover, not only the fear is removed by His chintan, but as Guru Jee assures in the following verse, the very cycle of births and deaths, is cut off  for once and ever.
ਪ੍ਰਭ ਕੈ ਸਿਮਰਨਿ ਕਾਲੁ ਪਰਹਰੈ ॥
प्रभ कै सिमरनि कालु परहरै ॥
prabh kai simaran kaal pareharai |
Remembering God, death is eliminated.
 
Such is His apaar beant wadeeayee.
 
Sat Sree Akal.
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