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Women wear makeup for self-confidence issues and to please the opposite sex, whether that’s their partner or men in general. Women don’t let their husbands see them without makeup. There have been cases where husbands did not recognize their wives without makeup after marriage, and their marriages ended up in divorces. In one case, bride’s face got wet in a swimming pool and all her make up came off. The husband divorced his wife a few days after marriage. In another case, husband thought there was a thief in the house, but it was actually his wife.

Women’s insecurity about their physical looks also come from men, even Gursikhs. Many Gursikh men expect their wives to wear makeup and look “good.” This is hugely problematic. A relationship can never be strong when it’s depended on outer appearance or kaam. There are always going to be conflicts if women want their partners or people to like them because of their outer false appearance. We should let others like us however Guru Sahib Ji made us. Do we need this false belief that we are beautiful by wearing makeup? Do we really need to get attention from the opposite sex? Isn’t this form of kaam? Do we want relationships based on falsehood?

Source - http://gurmatbibek.com/forum/read.php?3,35747

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12 hours ago, dallysingh101 said:

Three things: 

One: Some women have become so expert with the 'war paint' that they can make themselves look really attractive with it but when it comes off - the opposite is true. This ain't fair on guys who get conned into being with someone who is essentially wearing a mask that is nothing like their true physical self - with the ensuing confusion and shock with the mask is removed. 

Second thing: People don't wan't to end up like Jagsaw, who obviously looks at other people's attractive wives and then looks at his own, and then falls into depression. Everyone should make efforts to keep themselves in good, presentable shape. Same way a Singh shouldn't get married, get too comfortable and let go, and turn into a bloated lard ar5ed, beached whale - now that he has 'captured' his missus.

Lastly: As dyslexia is to writing, and dyscalculia to maths skills,  a helluva lot of Sikh women seem to have some condition with renders them completely incapable of utilising make up products in any balanced way. Their choice of colours (usually bright and the opposite of subtle, pretty much like a farmers bhangra paa-ing outfit) coupled with the share amount of product they use can often lead to them looking like this (see image below - you know we've all seen aunties that look exactly like this!). If they must use it, many need to be trained on how to do so, so the whole endeavour doesn't become self-defeating. Less is more in this respect. 

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I haven't cried of laughter reading something on Sikh Sangat in a while. Last thing I remember was by Mehtab Singh paji

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i disagree to putting others down if you are against makeup find the root cause, agyaantha, they need education not bashing, prem parchar not slander parchar. we really need to treat other women as human beings not ridicule them, do you personally know what sumones personal struggles are? then dont judge others but yourself, your going to give lekha for your own karam not for others,, so worry about yourself.  i dont believe in forcing views on others. be strict with yourself but accept others with compassion. Sikhi would not have survived are grown if we only had ppl like you

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