Why Teaching Others Is Hard?

[Guest Jacfsing2]

Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh! Why is it hard to inspire others to live a Gurmukh lifestyle, when it's meant to be good for people? Also why don't most people learn lovingly, but only want to learn when there is something else involved, (pressure to learn). I hope everyone improves and tries to follow Guru Sahib, but sometimes it just fails. How can I improve myself, so that more people are willing to listen? I feel my heart is in the right place, but nothing happens. Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh! 

[scali]

Your post sounds like you are a young kid. Stop trying to live your life through others. I can tell from experience don't rely on anyone- need is a form of Maya an illusion. "If you serve maya it will bite and swallow you like a snake". Live your life-trust only your Guru. Most people are -  What is in it for me .

[MisterrSingh]

7 hours ago, Jacfsing2 said:

Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh! Why is it hard to inspire others to live a Gurmukh lifestyle, when it's meant to be good for people? Also why don't most people learn lovingly, but only want to learn when there is something else involved, (pressure to learn). I hope everyone improves and tries to follow Guru Sahib, but sometimes it just fails. How can I improve myself, so that more people are willing to listen? I feel my heart is in the right place, but nothing happens. Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh! 

Humans are generally creatures of experience. We tend to learn more keenly and absorb the lessons life has to give when there's a painful reminder or two of the alternative. When life is going swimmingly for a person without any conscious religious or spiritual dedication, why would you expect them to challenge their comfortable existence with various existentially precarious and uncertain thoughts and concepts? 

People listen when they have a concrete reason to listen. Why did people heed the bachchans of our Guru Sahibs? Look at the social and religious situations at the time. People were desperate for guidance; for relief and a form of hope. Hinduism had failed a large proportion of those on the lowest rung of the ladder of society, and Islam was undertaking its typically intolerant and unrelenting methods of conduct. Something was required to inspire the people and to provide them with some semblance of self respect and mettle. 

[harsharan000]

8 hours ago, Jacfsing2 said:

Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh! Why is it hard to inspire others to live a Gurmukh lifestyle, when it's meant to be good for people? Also why don't most people learn lovingly, but only want to learn when there is something else involved, (pressure to learn). I hope everyone improves and tries to follow Guru Sahib, but sometimes it just fails. How can I improve myself, so that more people are willing to listen? I feel my heart is in the right place, but nothing happens. Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh! 

Well brother,

I follow your point, which is praise worthy, as you want to share goodness experienced/perceived by you, for others. 

The thing is, each one has his/her own time of maturity. It is not like sowing the seeds now, and seeing the fruit inmediately.

Each one is at a different conscious level, though physically we may seem alike, with little or more diferences, but the essence lies within each one.

Many of us go through the Bani, many a times, but it is only at some particular time, after some time, that we get the right meaning or understanding.

Guru Sahiban, are the epitomes of Truth, but how many of us do we get what they want to convey us?

We keep on giving round abouts many many times here and there, that also, when Guru Sahiban have kept the Truth in simple and plain words, in front of all of us.

They also, want us to follow Gurmat implicitly, for our own benefit, but most of us fail to their expectations from us, not only as sikhs, but even as human beings.

We all carry our heavy load of karam upon ourselves, our chit is not that clean, to understand the pure paviter Bani of Guru Sahiban.

To reach a minnimum required purity, we regularly need the cleanser of His Name, through His devotion.

If we keep regularity in it, for sure, we will understand their anmol bachans, and also get nearer and nearer to Wahiguru Akal Purukh.

Once we stay in His Hukum, we achieve such a state of mind, that then, we see Him in all and everywhere, then that our perception of difficulty in teaching others the goodness of the Bani and Gurmat, ceases to bother us, for we see His hukum in action in all.

Sat Sree Akal.

 

 

[dallysingh101]

9 hours ago, Jacfsing2 said:

Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh! Why is it hard to inspire others to live a Gurmukh lifestyle, when it's meant to be good for people? Also why don't most people learn lovingly, but only want to learn when there is something else involved, (pressure to learn). I hope everyone improves and tries to follow Guru Sahib, but sometimes it just fails. How can I improve myself, so that more people are willing to listen? I feel my heart is in the right place, but nothing happens. Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh! 

Why don't you just do it yourself and not obsess about other people's journeys? 

I can tell you one way to improve yourself btw. Stop being lazy and train. 

I believe that people have different levels of kamai that makes them further or less further along the path. Waheguru is teaching people according to their own worth. Don't start thinking you know better than Waheguru. 

[sikhni777]

Everyone needs encourage every now and then. When we look at ourselves we may have wished to be performing much better than what we already are - both in our private lifestyle, education and jobs.

The people who feel satisfied will not make any effort to move forward.  We make an effort to better ourselves when we want to get somewhere or achieve something. 

We need to realise the emptiness of our lives in order to work hard to achieve some kamai especially religion wise.  Seeing a good example of a practising person is great. If that person goes further to push you to accept their lifestyle then you stand out defensively.  

This leaves the question- should you encourage others?  

Yes, you need to know who you can encourage and how.  If you go about telling people to keep their hair and wake up early - they will think you crazy. If you tell them the benefits that you achieved from doing so - the better. They realise work is needed but the benefits are great. 

The more important thing here is to listen to people first. Listen to their problems- their frustrations and then offer the solution.  Do not come out as a hero - admit that the path is hard and that you too need encourage.  That way when you forget - others remind you too. 

Planting the seed is the first task. Watering it, nourishing it, protecting it from birds and animals and weeding need to be performed too. Only then the true fruits are going to be reaped. It takes time.  All seeds grow into trees and bear fruit. Some faster, some slower, a few have too many issues so never make it. 

When you are on the path of encouraging others, make sure you are looking at your faults too and not just theirs. Perhaps they can offer to better you too. Everyone knows the difference between right and wrong but few manage to actually put it into practice. 

[jashb]

20 hours ago, Jacfsing2 said:

Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh! Why is it hard to inspire others to live a Gurmukh lifestyle, when it's meant to be good for people? Also why don't most people learn lovingly, but only want to learn when there is something else involved, (pressure to learn). I hope everyone improves and tries to follow Guru Sahib, but sometimes it just fails. How can I improve myself, so that more people are willing to listen? I feel my heart is in the right place, but nothing happens. Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh! 

 

Maybe this is because you're, more or less, so resoundingly simple? Try to recognise that there is more than one dimension, and try to accept there may even be positive aspects, to the people you don't like. People want to listen to someone that stimulates them intellectually, not someone that reduces everything to a couple of soundbites.

Perhaps this is also something to do with their impression of you? Maybe you're perceived as being, rightly or wrongly, someone not worth listening to?

Sadly, no matter how high truthful and beneficial the message, in this case, even the path of Gurmat, people tend to judge the messenger before they pay any heed whatsoever to the message.

To provide you with an example, you could do much worse than look to Shaheed Sant Jarnail Singh Ji Khalsa Bhindranwale for guidance in this respect.

Sant ji was, on the face of it, identical to nearly every other parcharak. He wasn't the only bhujangi educated in the Taksal, and he wasn't the only Amritdhari Singh. Others were given far better stages and opportunities to influence Panjab, nay bharat, for the commonwealth good. Yet, despite these obvious similarities, ungint numbers of bharatis felt raised, inspired and compelled to step onto the path of Sikhi due to hearing Sant Ji's bachans, but at the same time, next to nobody and his dog listened to the other parcharaks even though they encouraged effectively the same thing.

Now go figure why. And don't try to reduce the reasons for this to a simple catchphrase or two when you do.

[MisterrSingh]

A great mind once said, "You learn more by talking to people you disagree with." Wise words. 

[Guest Jacfsing2]

I appreciate all the assistance, is there anything I can do to improve myself trying to help others, except listening to others?

[MisterrSingh]

6 minutes ago, Jacfsing2 said:

I appreciate all the assistance, is there anything I can do to improve myself trying to help others, except listening to others?

Help yourself first. Your ego is out of control, bro. What makes you think you're worth listening to?