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Depressed. I feel so suicidal.  I know I shouldn't feel like this as I'm amrithdari and path and gurbani should stop this. However no aspect of my life is going right. Before I took amrith I committed some really bad sins ever since my family have not dropped what I did now I have accepted I was in the wrong I turned my life over. Since I've been amrithdari I find nothing's really going right I'm staring to loose faith I took amrith on my own decision but since I've taken it I've made some terrible mistakes, I've got into a abusive relationship with a singh who then cheated on me and ruined my future, my family look down at me as if I'm a failure and friends I have nobody to turn to. I did turn to Sikh helpline however I wouldn't ever recommend anyone turns to them as they are not confidential. I rang and Spoke to someone next thing my full gurdwara knew my problems. I'm stuck I have nobody to turn to my family are not talking to me and I'm on the edge of suicide. 

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Guru fathe ji!! 

I have tried gurbani and path I don't see anything working I heard that if you take one step to guru ji he will take million to you!! But I don't feel this, yeah I don't do my path any more I have fully lost faith... and guru kar I used to go every weekend however I've stopped going as I feel everyone just look up at you we have a group of amrithdari singhs and singhnia who talk about everyone I've heard myself them speaking of other people because of this I don't go no more every time I go I feel they just talk. I do try going to a different one but as my family go to this one they think I've dont something wrong for me not to go but really it's just every time I go I come out more stressed than i left. I will do path but even when doing path I get really emotional same with if I do go to a different gurdwara I would sit in divan and think how everything's turned out, and same get emotional.. I really need help I've had this for a long time however I've never felt this low where I'm ready to kill myself. 

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You need professional help. Go to your doctor. Nobody's helped me on here as I'm going through the same, they say to share your dukh and when I did, he ignored me and given me silent treatment as if I should feel guilty for going through a bad time. 

I'm advising you to get professional help when you have nobody. Because the same people advising you on here, turn their back on somebody needs the help when they ask for it. 

Waheguru will help you, just keep faith and mera vi bhalla kare, because they are the only one you have, dunia is matlab di, especially people you think are respectable on here, but then push you further to negativity. Certain ones are helpful on the main, but in pms they just cut you off for no reason. Hope they can see what they did, and be ashamed of themselves when I need the help too, but use people for likes only. 

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I have been to my doctor however all they have gave me is depression tablets which I did used to take but didn't have an affect. People say it's all about sangat I think I would have been fine and ok if I wasn't in this situation if I had sangat i have friends don't get me wrong but they are ghora kala, where I'm from yeah there is hardly any Sikhs but the ones that are here are big headed they feel they are bigger than everyone and better. how can a person even get out this state if nothing's going right family education relationship, loosing faith?? I've lost hope in everything sometimes I even wish I was better off not being amrithdari.. I know I shouldn't think like this but I really need help? I'm a turning point I'm scared I will do something as I'm that broken.. 

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7 hours ago, Guest Depression said:

I have been to my doctor however all they have gave me is depression tablets which I did used to take but didn't have an affect. People say it's all about sangat I think I would have been fine and ok if I wasn't in this situation if I had sangat i have friends don't get me wrong but they are ghora kala, where I'm from yeah there is hardly any Sikhs but the ones that are here are big headed they feel they are bigger than everyone and better. how can a person even get out this state if nothing's going right family education relationship, loosing faith?? I've lost hope in everything sometimes I even wish I was better off not being amrithdari.. I know I shouldn't think like this but I really need help? I'm a turning point I'm scared I will do something as I'm that broken.. 

They should have offered you counselling aswell. Ask for a referral for counselling. 

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Jis Kaa Saas N Kaadtath Aap ||
 
Those whose breath of life He Himself does not take away
 
Thaa Ko Raakhath Dhae Kar Haathh ||

He preserves them, and holds out His Hands to protect them.

 
Akalpurakh has kept you alive so he's going to provide, preserve & protect you.
Have faith and Jap Naam.
 
Put on your headphones & sing along
 
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WJKK WJKF 

Pehnji, firstly I am so sorry to hear you are going through this feeling. 

As people have said to keep with your paath, I must agree this is very important. I understand you feel it is not helping but please, keep faith in Guruji. Although I am a young adult, I have learnt that keeping your faith in Guruji will definitely help you. Do not care about what others say (easier said than done I know), but if fellow Sikh brothers and sisters are talking about you then they themselves are in the wrong for doing so and they shall have to answer to our Guru when the time comes. 

Guruji will take steps towards you, infact He already is, you just cannot see this yet. There are many other Sikh organisations out there that offer support. I would say try any of them regardless of what age they are targeted towards because at the end of the day they are here to help us! Please please please talk to someone, anyone about this and do not be afraid to. If you cannot go to your local gurdwara, go somewhere else and ask someone there to help you! You do it have to battle this alone. You are the child of Guru Gobind Singh Ji, never forget that. You are stronger than you believe you are. You will get through this battle. I shall do ardaas to Guruji for you, but please try to get out of the suicidal mindset, like I said you are stronger than you think! Keep praying and having faith. 

I hope this helped in some way, and forgive me if I made any mistakes. 

WJKK WJKF. 

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Be strong bhenji . Taking amrit will not miraculously change your situation but atleast now you're a daughter of guru ji . He's always with you. I feel sad about how the sangat helpline betrayed you but I am sure not everyone is like this.

May I know why your family looks down on you just because you got cheated ? Shouldn't they be helping you instead ? Did you marry with that sikh man against wishes of your family ? Keep with the simran though. It does wonders though , trust me. 

Also please look at traditional healing resources like psychologist , picking a sport or just jogging. You will find many stories of people who had heavy depression but something as simple as running healed them.

Waheguru ji bhali karega . Himmat naa haaro tussi 

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