AjeetSinghPunjabi

Can daily masturbation ruin my prospects of having a healthy child ?

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I am 27 and a half. 

Although I am gay (only attracted to males and not females) , so one would wonder I would die childless. However if in future I choose to have a child, do I risk having serious issues with his/her health ? will my child be born normal as i think that by then there might be chromosomal abnormalities in DNA of sperms.

for me masturbation is like smoking. its a stress buster , as I never smoke or drink ever. 

So do I have to quit it off although it would be really tough. The longest I have been without waanking was 42 days last july

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Masturbation does absolute nothing in terms of ruining the prospect of having a child, (there are dangers, but infertility is not one of them). But what you do need for a child is an erection,(you could fake an erection, but that's totally different), and masturbation does cause erection problems, but I wouldn't consider you stopping masturbation until you are married, because unless you get that Gur-prassad needed remedy, (blessed Dhan Dhan Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji:waheguru:), you are going to be horny a lot. 

The rest, I wouldn't know since I've never had sex, nor am I married.

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Masturbation causes physical weakness poor cognition as well problems with the genitalia...Gurbani clearly states the results of lust and anger 

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I am not talking about physical issues (impotence, etc).

Impotence means inability to get erect which is true in my case because erection can't happen without sexual desire which I don't feel for women at all. Infertility means some problem in sperm and this is what my concern is .

As you're aware , cell division can at times cause errors in dna copying and this is where genetic variation and sometimes diseases like autism, aspergers, etc come into pic. If a guy masturbate a lot, I am PRESUMING that guy will have more genetic copying and therefore chance of error because sperm is produced at greater rate than a guy who's not so masturbating and hence might produce lesser sperm.

Ofcourse, this is purely my presumption. Nocturnal emissions do happen in case of men . I didn't masturbate once for 15 days and on 15th night I had a flood in my boxers lol. 

So my question still stands, rephrased "Does a guy who fapp much has more sperm production per day than a guy who doesn't or less ?" or maybe I am thinking too much .

but its true that if you have kids later in life (post 35) , chances of genetic defects in them are higher because chances of sperm or egg that they grew out of has higher chances of genetic errors due to chromosomal duplication. And also at times errors in genetic code tend to build on

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If you can't get erect to your wife, that's basically the same as being infertile. And since you aren't even willing to fake an erection, (which could also get her pregnant), how do you really expect her to be happy, or even you to have your dream of a kid.

Sperm dies anyway, so if your not using it in sex, or anything related, it'll natural come out.

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