I remember when my mum in law was being difficult, I called my mum and she told me... sorry puut... its time to go down humbly in ardaas to Guru ji. I did just that. My mum in law hasn't changed but I got the strength to deal with her better.
You can't change people but you can change yourself. Guru ji always gives people strength to cope. Ardaas is always answered. Some people are cursed to always give dhukh to others.
Seen enough of those right here In our family. If you are not happy with her before youindiwill never be happy with her ever. It does not take 7 months to take a girl to open up. Her mum supports her. The greed of INdians Is great. Remember Jaggi still not freed yet Is he?
God will grace them in their Hukam. Each soul comes with their own karam into the world.
Detachment and attachment should be a balance. It’s sounds easy, but when it’s a family member, sabar (patience), willpower, tolerance (within limits), adjustments, are important.
One thing I’ve learned with relatives, is that I can’t change them, but I can change myself, so I don’t hurt from it.