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I really need help and advice im going through a really hard divorce I have been married for over 9 years and have got 3 kids , my husband started several affairs but this one he had at work lasted over 2 years and he is still with the same women and brings her to court , he is applying for child contact etc for the kids to stay with him in the holidays and weekends etc , my husband was mentally and physically abusive to me and after 9 years I left and took my kids he moved out of his parents and moved in with this women .The court now states as he is the father he can take them to her house and the bottom line is I feel really anxious and I don't want my kids to go then I convince myself the kids will get older see him for the person he is and leave him , then sometimes I hope we will still be a family .Maybe I just cant get over things ....my kids are 2 , 4 and 8.

 im like a crazy person I have even phoned this women been to there work place , why cant I just let go .

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On 18/04/2017 at 10:15 PM, sunny21 said:

I really need help and advice im going through a really hard divorce I have been married for over 9 years and have got 3 kids , my husband started several affairs but this one he had at work lasted over 2 years and he is still with the same women and brings her to court , he is applying for child contact etc for the kids to stay with him in the holidays and weekends etc , my husband was mentally and physically abusive to me and after 9 years I left and took my kids he moved out of his parents and moved in with this women .The court now states as he is the father he can take them to her house and the bottom line is I feel really anxious and I don't want my kids to go then I convince myself the kids will get older see him for the person he is and leave him , then sometimes I hope we will still be a family .Maybe I just cant get over things ....my kids are 2 , 4 and 8.

 im like a crazy person I have even phoned this women been to there work place , why cant I just let go .

Have you seen a counsellor? If not, then see one and talk to them. It's not good to keep stress building up inside, it's damaging and can lead to outbursts, like I did today. You've been through a bad time in your married life and you need to get out of that thinking of blaming yourself for it. When you start to let go of those emotions and desires then you will start to heal. You're kids are young and you have a lot of responsibilities, so you need to be strong for the kids and for yourself too. Be confident, and God will help you through this, and listen to some shabads to keep yourself positive. Also try to incorporate Gurbani in your daily life, even if it's a small amount, start off small and build it up gradually. This will divert your mind off your stressful period in your life. 

 

 

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