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Waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh

I am not an amritdhari sikh and recently i made a promise to sachepashaji to quit masturbating. I broke after a few days abd now I am wondering if I have to pesh. 

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15 hours ago, Guest Uh oh said:

Waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh

I am not an amritdhari sikh and recently i made a promise to sachepashaji to quit masturbating. I broke after a few days abd now I am wondering if I have to pesh. 

Non-Amritdharis don't pesh, but if you make a promise to Guru Sahib and break it you should give yourself a punishment or reward penalty.

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I am suffering from the same thing, im soooo dukhi with myself. kaam is eating me away, i just feel like crying right now ... even during paath i have all sorts of bad thoughts... i feel like my jeevan is going down the drain :'( i miss my gursikhi... im not so upset when i maturbate because i feel like dont worry its my own body but when i get kaami and watch something that just makes me so sad... even now i knoe ill end up watching something because the sad thing is i want to  watch it :'(  it sounds ad but im being honest ... waheguru ji es paapi nu baksh lehn 

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10 minutes ago, Usernametaken1 said:

I am suffering from the same thing, im soooo dukhi with myself. kaam is eating me away, i just feel like crying right now ... even during paath i have all sorts of bad thoughts... i feel like my jeevan is going down the drain :'( i miss my gursikhi... im not so upset when i maturbate because i feel like dont worry its my own body but when i get kaami and watch something that just makes me so sad... even now i knoe ill end up watching something because the sad thing is i want to  watch it :'(  it sounds ad but im being honest ... waheguru ji es paapi nu baksh lehn 

 

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh.

The reason we fall into kaam is because we thing it is ok. After watching a video we fall right into it's deadly trap.

Trying to fight back makes it a bit worse and may give you urges to masturbate. Next time you go to the Gurdwara do some seva. Jaap Waheguru.

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Kaam vaasnas, A lot of people go through this as a spiritual life is not easy. Some people don't like to talk about it, afraid of being judged, but the problem is there, male or female and there have been posts on this forum of tips and how to deal with it.

It's about learning to discipline the mind and asking God to help you through it.  One tip you could try is to ask God to take away any negative thoughts and to throw them away. Or you could imagine putting those thoughts in a dustbin or throwing them in a mucky stream, so they wash away and think to yourself if you go near the bin or the stream, you are going to get stained and it's going to be hard cleaning those stains, because in reality you wouldn't go near those places where you were to get dirty. 

Just putting some posts, so you can refer to them, but there are many more that you can search for:

 

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1 minute ago, Not2Cool2Argue said:

Sikh awareness society shared this article which highlights problems caused by porn. How it rewires ur brain so normal relationships become harder for boys novelty the norm. Also how it effects society. So stop before it becomes too late. Before Kissing: How 15-Year-Old Girls Are Dealing With Porn-Addicted Boys - Nutritionally Wealthy

http://nutritionallywealthy.com/porn-addicted-boys/

 

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Reading a good book on habits and how they are formed and how to control them can go a long way in helping you to achieve anything. 

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On 4/17/2017 at 4:54 PM, sikhni777 said:

Reading a good book on habits and how they are formed and how to control them can go a long way in helping you to achieve anything. 

The Power of Habit by Charles Duuhig is an excellent book. Basically, you need to isolate the cue - when does this normally happen, understand what is your reward - why are you doing this and what feeling do you get when this occurs - once you know this, change your routine - instead of engaging in this activity, possibly read a book, meditate, do some physical exercise - experiment with rewards and then change the routine.

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