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Love, Marriage and Divorce

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We got to make marriage about lifetime commitments. In Sikhi divorce doesn't exist and if a person should divorce it should be at the very last thing after nothing else is available. The Anand Karaj is not some hippy dippy happy do-da, but rather a sacred ceremony for people intending to keep lifetime promises!

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27 minutes ago, Jacfsing2 said:

We got to make marriage about lifetime commitments. In Sikhi divorce doesn't exist and if a person should divorce it should be at the very last thing after nothing else is available. The Anand Karaj is not some hippy dippy happy do-da, but rather a sacred ceremony for people intending to keep lifetime promises!

used to be a time SIngh used to be kaul de pukke 

used to be a time Bazurg wanted a daughter not a tajori

used to be a time Kaurs would look forward to the future by building up their trosseau

today everything is a business transaction, a contract to be anulled on receipt of goods, 

Oh how I long for the people who knew Guru ji's sikhi

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7 minutes ago, jkvlondon said:

used to be a time SIngh used to be kaul de pukke 

used to be a time Bazurg wanted a daughter not a tajori

used to be a time Kaurs would look forward to the future by building up their trosseau

today everything is a business transaction, a contract to be anulled on receipt of goods, 

Oh how I long for the people who knew Guru ji's sikhi

Also with the entire Anti-Gurmat system people are now arguing about theology and controversy rather than uplifting each other with what they have. We got Keshdhari Hindus, (not refering to Sikhs), but now running around making arguments 

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