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1 hour ago, Akalifauj said:

This is the case of I have messed up my life, so should others because I am miserable.  Search her up, she exposes herself openly to the world.  No shame in her.

I am not that girl whoever you have Directed the above to. And also stop assuming you are the 'know It all' Doesnt mean you can assume someome else Is unhappy because I am not. 

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3 hours ago, HarkiranKaur said:

Obviously not being Punjabi I am lacking a bit of understanding in the arranged marriage thing. I am assuming there is still a 'get to know each other' period for awhile before the marriage and even if so, if there is no 'love' between the husband and wife and it's just a purely arranged thing, do couples often bypass the wedding night if you know what I mean? I can't imagine being intimate with someone I don't have a connection with emotionally as well. It would be kind of yucky. Like just doing the deed for the sake of doing it and letting a stranger touch you. So do arranged marriage couples often wait after marriage and until they start to love each other, before they you know... consummate it? And please don't think this is a joke question for me it's serious. 

I guess you could say our marriage was self arranged but we met and spent time together for over a year prior to the wedding and talked every day so we had also an emotional connection that had built already. But we actually married not for love but bwcause we were both looking for the same things... Amritdhari, same goals etc. We both volunteer in community etc. No not so he could get a green card (which Canada does not have anyway) as Chatanga quite rudely suggested. 

Each scenario is a case-by-case scenario. In some cases you could have known the other person since you were a little kid and know being asked for marriage with them, (just to make one thing clear, the friend zone is some Pakhand, it doesn't exist), in other cases you just talk to them during that finding a Rishta process before the wedding. As for sex, don't really know what people do, but if they feel ready for it then they'll do it. Since I'm unmarried I really shouldn't be answering this, but love marriage without the whole dating process is not that different from an arranged marriage where the couple actually talks before the marriage, (similar to the childhood friend scenario, which is rare, but not rare enough to be surprised about).

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19 hours ago, Guest Wonder said:

I am not that girl whoever you have Directed the above to. And also stop assuming you are the 'know It all' Doesnt mean you can assume someome else Is unhappy because I am not. 

I was referring to the girl who wrote the article.  

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3 hours ago, Akalifauj said:

I was referring to the girl who wrote the article.  

Apologies. I misunderstood

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On 23 March 2017 at 2:32 AM, Guest wonder said:

@singhbj

love the one you marry? 

I totally understand where you comimg from but it's not realistic. Whats so romantic about that. Where's the light on the wedding day. How can it be ek joyt duwe moorti if its just a ritual. Its not just for the sake of children and families.  This could go on forever. nowadays marriage has just become a chore or function for families to look forward to. Who cares what we look forward to. What if the whole concept doesnt interest me. How can girls get intimate with someone they have no feelings for. Surely thats marrying to satisfy lustful needs which is obviously more frowned upon if we are taking society into consideration. It doesnt make us bad for not wanting to marry. 

It doesn't matter where I come from just presenting Desi parents sentiment.

If you're parents are conservative & traditional then it's best to follow definition of RIGHT.

And who says there is no romance in Arranged Marriage now you want couples to talk about their intimate relation in public ^_^

Unless you get married there can be no "Ek jot duwe murti"

so get married n discover it yourself !

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2 hours ago, muscleman said:

Jacfsing2, I sincerely wish that you will fall in love with someone very soon to see how it drives you crazy. You are a total fool and they always say only fools fall in love! You have no idea what it is like to fall in love with someone and hope she/he feels the same way about you.  I can assure you that it is worse than an arranged marriage! I don't understand why you bother to reply to such topics of which you have no knowledge at all! I really hope that either you fall in love with someone pretty soon or someone else falls in love with you and that will teach you a lesson not to interfere with topics for which you are either too young or too inexperienced! I would never wish (this) upon my worst enemy to fall in love with anyone as I do for you. You really need to grow up to reply to such grown up matters, easpecially, matters that are deep and need a philosophical mind in order to make any sense of.  Jacfsing2, grow up, will you?

How can you ever or even confuse  love with sex? Love has nothing to do with a person's looks, color of their skin or hair or education background! Our souls fall in love and not our physical bodies. True love is unconditional and giving.  Have you been watching too much Holywood/Bollywood crap recently? Please grow up and if you can't then don't talk too much about grown up stuff! I did say once that you utter the most outrageous stuff on this site, didn't I?  See.........how right I was?

No mate, don't know what I did to you to make you hate me so much?

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On 24 March 2017 at 8:07 PM, Jacfsing2 said:

No mate, don't know what I did to you to make you hate me so much?

 No mate, I don't hate you at all.  You talk too much, it's  kinda irritating! Hate is a very strong and nagative word, it stunts our spiritual advancement, that's all. As a matter of fact, I agree and appreciate most of the stuff Jacfsing2 says most of zhe tymes .....haha!

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14 hours ago, muscleman said:

 No mate, I don't hate you at all.  You talk too much, it's  kinda irritating! Hate is a very strong and nagative word, it stunts our spiritual advancement, that's all. 

You are trolling him because you don't like what he says.  It's not because he talks too much.  If he said the things you wanted him to say.  Then it would be completely fine with you and you wouldn't care how much he talked.  In fact you would be praising him and telling him to keep going.  Since he doesn't, now you are saying he is preventing himself from growing spiritually.  Clearly you have no spiritual advancement for trolling someone and it shows the level of anger built up in you. 

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Love for another is somewhat Selfless. For humans its natural, however letting it consume you is dangerous. Human relationships can be so complex...this is why im not getting married u.u

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