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I wanted to reply to the abivein gupt. IThis is on point. This is exactly what my parents don't understand either! Firstly they would like a normal family etc and then I am cut from all communication. They want us to never contact a person of the opposite gender and then we suddenly have to fall in love and marry someone of the opposite gender. I totally refuse. No I don't like to or want to talk to boys but if someone is meant to share a future with me then of course it's going to take a lot more than convincing me he's a nice gursikh. Like I'm sure he's a nice gursikh and would make an amazing parcharak or jathedar but we dont just fall in love with people becsuse they are gursikh. They have no idea who is good for us or who is bad. They would be disappointed if I were to talk to someone even in an innocent and genuine way yet we have to just 'do as they say' and change our lives and adjust eveything! I don't think its worth it. Just marrying to make people and parents happy. They never understand!!!

 

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20 hours ago, Guest wonder said:

I wanted to reply to the abivein gupt. IThis is on point. This is exactly what my parents don't understand either! Firstly they would like a normal family etc and then I am cut from all communication. They want us to never contact a person of the opposite gender and then we suddenly have to fall in love and marry someone of the opposite gender. I totally refuse. No I don't like to or want to talk to boys but if someone is meant to share a future with me then of course it's going to take a lot more than convincing me he's a nice gursikh. Like I'm sure he's a nice gursikh and would make an amazing parcharak or jathedar but we dont just fall in love with people becsuse they are gursikh. They have no idea who is good for us or who is bad. They would be disappointed if I were to talk to someone even in an innocent and genuine way yet we have to just 'do as they say' and change our lives and adjust eveything! I don't think its worth it. Just marrying to make people and parents happy. They never understand!!!

 

Girls should be grateful that parents are letting them access Internet without supervision n remain content.

No point dreaming of freedom and choosing your own spouse.

It's better to be realistic then live in La La Land.

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Yes I agree but its hard to explain. I have Internet for work solely.  How can I be content ifI dont want o be with someone. I have the strictest parents which is fine but when even they aren't fully happy and proud then you can help but think like this. I won't choose my own spouse because I cant anyway because I dont even know anybody. Of course theres bigger issue in the world and I am not ungrateful, just it saddens me a lot. I have to reply in gupt because I am not allowed to be talking to anyone so not allowed to sign up for any social media

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On 3/12/2017 at 10:09 PM, singhbj singh said:

Girls should be grateful that parents are letting them access Internet without supervision n remain content.

No point dreaming of freedom and choosing your own spouse.

It's better to be realistic then live in La La Land.

What world are you living in?

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On 13/03/2017 at 11:35 AM, Guest Wonder said:

Yes I agree but its hard to explain. I have Internet for work solely.  How can I be content ifI dont want o be with someone. I have the strictest parents which is fine but when even they aren't fully happy and proud then you can help but think like this. I won't choose my own spouse because I cant anyway because I dont even know anybody. Of course theres bigger issue in the world and I am not ungrateful, just it saddens me a lot. I have to reply in gupt because I am not allowed to be talking to anyone so not allowed to sign up for any social media

Thank you singh bj

Definition of right n wrong as per traditional dictionary

Right - Love the one you marry

Wrong - Marry the one you love 

Benefit of having strict parents & being obedient is kids are married sooner then contemporaries.

Sincerely,

Uncle Singhbj.

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On 3/13/2017 at 2:05 AM, Guest Wonder said:

Yes I agree but its hard to explain. I have Internet for work solely.  How can I be content ifI dont want o be with someone. I have the strictest parents which is fine but when even they aren't fully happy and proud then you can help but think like this. I won't choose my own spouse because I cant anyway because I dont even know anybody. Of course theres bigger issue in the world and I am not ungrateful, just it saddens me a lot. I have to reply in gupt because I am not allowed to be talking to anyone so not allowed to sign up for any social media

Thank you singh bj

I feel sorry for you.

On 3/13/2017 at 1:09 AM, singhbj singh said:

Girls should be grateful that parents are letting them access Internet without supervision n remain content.

No point dreaming of freedom and choosing your own spouse.

It's better to be realistic then live in La La Land.

Only noticed this recently, but do you want your spouse, (or future spouse), to be some slave for you? Gurbani does say to view spouse as Vaheguru, it doesn't say to treat them as Ghulami.

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On 3/12/2017 at 4:42 AM, Guest wonder said:

I wanted to reply to the abivein gupt. IThis is on point. This is exactly what my parents don't understand either! Firstly they would like a normal family etc and then I am cut from all communication. They want us to never contact a person of the opposite gender and then we suddenly have to fall in love and marry someone of the opposite gender. I totally refuse. No I don't like to or want to talk to boys but if someone is meant to share a future with me then of course it's going to take a lot more than convincing me he's a nice gursikh. Like I'm sure he's a nice gursikh and would make an amazing parcharak or jathedar but we dont just fall in love with people becsuse they are gursikh. They have no idea who is good for us or who is bad. They would be disappointed if I were to talk to someone even in an innocent and genuine way yet we have to just 'do as they say' and change our lives and adjust eveything! I don't think its worth it. Just marrying to make people and parents happy. They never understand!!!

Honestly I can't understand since my parents are more open than this, (even more open than I am at some points), but I couldn't just fall-in-love with some random person either if we weren't compatible.

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