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I am in my mid 20's and I do a lot of Paath  and don't drink smoke no meat etc but i have been distrubed by kaam also at the same time. Iwant to take amrit and be a Gursikh but i am waiting for jobwise career to be better first. Well every time i am on my laptop i get cravings to look .........edited........... i feel really bad afterwoods and feel like a big paapi. I do ardas and go to Gurdwara and do metha tak and say i will never do it again but i end up failing and in the same trap again. 

 

Another thing that has been with me is that I have been a Virgin all my life never had a girlfriend or kiss. But I sometimes just wanna pay a blonde escort for a one time session and then it would be out of my system. However i worry by doing this i feel develop a addication like drugs smoking. i know it is wrong what i am writting and but i keep telling myself that this wrong. Ever since i remember is that i have a had a liking towards blondes but i don't want to marry one cos i act like a Gursikh and i get respect from friends about it. But i feel like this unfulfilled sexual desire is destroying me from time to time.

 

Everytime i am outside i see a blonde girl i get exicted but i also tell myself that is wrong according to Gurbani

 

Sangat Ji what should i do ? I know it is wrong to have sex before marriage and its a sin but i can't help thinking about it and viewing this flith online.    

Any advice and tips would be very very helpful

 

Thanks 

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bro ,

you may think going with a pro is going to solve your problem , it isn't, it will increase your conflict internally, because you will feel guilty about giving into your base instincts instead to respecting yourself . Why not let your first be someone you actually care for and want to remember ? 

why don't you have amrit , it has zero to do with your career ... is there ever going to be a perfect time ? life has no guarantees better to action your commitment to Guru ji than delay it . Do you think you want to get married ? BTW most blondes are bottle ones and they are just the same as other women... sorry to bust your bubble, I know why you fetishize them it's your viewing choices. 

p.s. with your online viewing habits you should realise it is a very damaging pastime.

 

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On 2/26/2017 at 2:37 PM, Guest misguidedSingh said:

Another thing that has been with me is that I have been a Virgin all my life never had a girlfriend or kiss. But I sometimes just wanna pay a blonde escort for a one time session and then it would be out of my system. However i worry by doing this i feel develop a addication like drugs smoking. i know it is wrong what i am writting and but i keep telling myself that this wrong. Ever since i remember is that i have a had a liking towards blondes but i don't want to marry one cos i act like a Gursikh and i get respect from friends about it. But i feel like this unfulfilled sexual desire is destroying me from time to time.

 

Everytime i am outside i see a blonde girl i get exicted but i also tell myself that is wrong according to Gurbani

 

Sangat Ji what should i do ? I know it is wrong to have sex before marriage and its a sin but i can't help thinking about it and viewing this flith online.    

Any advice and tips would be very very helpful

It is more alpha to be a Virgin than lose your virginity to an escort, even by Non-Sikh standards. Just focus on limiting p-o-r-n's influence on you; I've got Kaam, Krodh, Lobh, Moh, and Ankhar as well, (if you have one of the 5 evils you have them all). Also blondes are ok, they aren't as special as you make them and they are mostly like everyone else. I don't mean to say anything based on the color of someone's Kesh, but there are some ugly Blondes out there, (again not insulting Kesh). Just don't go on that path; it's more decent if you have a good gf or even a bad one than to pay someone to be romantic with you. Also waiting till you get a decent job isn't really an excuse to not take Amrit. With Amrit you at least have Father and Mother, (Dhan Dhan Sri Guru Gobind Singh Ji and Mata Sahib Kaur), to at least hold your hand if you fall; without it, your just jumping on a cliff. I may fail sometimes as an Amritdhari; (not Bhujer Kurehits), but I know that from my personal experiences the moral collapse a non-Amritdhari goes through after one fall is highly recorded by Dharam Raj, with Guru Sahib it's: "ਲੇਖਾ ਕੋਇ ਨ ਪੁਛਈ ਜਾ ਹਰਿ ਬਖਸੰਦਾ ॥ Laekhaa Koe N Pushhee Jaa Har Bakhasandhaa || लेखा कोइ न पुछई जा हरि बखसंदा ॥ No one calls me to account, since God is my forgiver." (Dhan Dhan Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji Ang 1096)

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 Thanks for putting up with my rudeness, I hope you will forgive me. I miss my father, he was a good person. 

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