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I think you should be outspoken and get what you want. Now that your sister told, and your mom already scolded you, it would be dumb to back down.

Also this might be help from the divine. Because u couldnt voice ur desires, they were stilled voiced by someone else. If u dont take this chance, then u only got urself to blame. Dont let ur life strong on the wrong foot, take charge, u r an adult. Also this will affect tge rest of your life, so speak up and defend yourself. Say im not shameless, i didnt know which guy u guys were talking about and i assumed it was the one closer to my age. I dont want an older guy or something.

Also did the older cousin ask or did his parents ask on his behalf? If the parents did then its easy for ur parents to say that oh we will accept the rishta but with the younger one as he is closer to our daughters age. (Let ur mom know she can say this if she says how can we turn down the rishta, it will be disrespectful. Tell her this polite way of doing it.) If the guy asked for ur rishta by himself, which I really doubt, then idk. Still try changing it.

Also remember, do ur best to change the circumstances but without expecting anything. If u set ur heart on it, u will be disappointed, speak up and if it works out, good.If it doesnt, it wasnt meant to be. Also if u have to marry the older cousin plz dont go into it with regret. Try ur best to change it, if its not changed, accept Maharaj's hukam, forget the other guy and go into marriage without doubts or regrets. It isnt right or smart to start a marriage with regrets. Also if it doesnt work out, dont be too disappointed, they are cousins, so they probably share the good qualities as being raised in same environment  which u only saw in the younger.

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You could either speak with your family and say what you think. If they agrer its great, you might have to wait as some ppl like to get the elder boys married first? 

It might be awkward for ur parents so dnt expect help. Secondly ur young and having a crush is different to wanting to marry and spend a life with someone.

Your feelings will be same when other rishtas come dnt fixate or get too involved. Trust me i been there and i learnt the hard way.

If they are not going to support this then perhaps you should not get married into that family at all. As u dnt want to marry the cousin if the guy u like lol.U can tell that to ur mum and im sure shel get it. Be honest and clear..

Pray to Guruji that whoever it is that u will have someone who can bring you closer to God and you can lead a spiritual life

 

 

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