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17 hours ago, Not2Cool2Argue said:

Apology accepted.

So...when are u getting married?

Never apologized because I did nothing wrong.  Yet are you going to acknowledge the swearing coming out of poster harsharan and let him know to stop?  A Sikh doesn't pick sides, a Sikh stands by truth.  Let's see how long it will take you to acknowledge his wrong doing.  I am guessing you will never do it and it shows your dedication to Sikhi.

Do you have a girl in your house that needs a rishta?  Is this why you are asking when I will get married.

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8 hours ago, Akalifauj said:

Never apologized because I did nothing wrong.  Yet are you going to acknowledge the swearing coming out of poster harsharan and let him know to stop?  A Sikh doesn't pick sides, a Sikh stands by truth.  Let's see how long it will take you to acknowledge his wrong doing.  I am guessing you will never do it and it shows your dedication to Sikhi.

Do you have a girl in your house that needs a rishta?  Is this why you are asking when I will get married.

I wouldnt ruin any girls life like that.

Veer Harsharan singh has the right to self defense. Anyone would become angry after the way you provoked him. Though he should stop using the word f*d* 

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12 hours ago, Not2Cool2Argue said:

Veer Harsharan singh has the right to self defense. Anyone would become angry after the way you provoked him. Though he should stop using the word f*d* 

Poster Harsharan declares himself to be a Sant Sipahe and Sants do not get angry.  They are like the lotus flower.  Even Gursikhs avoid anger, so I wonder what you are saying with your comment on Harsharan. Finally, some honesty coming from your post; poster Harsharan should stop using the word f*d*.

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I wouldnt ruin any girls life like that.

I see your point.  Reading your post on this topic makes it clear a girl from your house would be liberal minded.  Intermingling, experimenting with the bad side of life would be considered.........they are teens, that's what teens do.  The double standard would be there as well.  Other people's daughters would be judged with Sikhi teachings and not the rishta you were questioning me about.  This girl would be allowed to misbehave as long as the father doesn't know and especially done behind closed doors in a different state and/or country.  The slogan.........what is done in vegas stays in vegas will be the family cheer.  I remember one such family, their daughter was shown in the community to be noble and not promiscuous.  She would change clothing in the background while her brother video chatted with friends in the same room.  Even sit in her underwear watching tv in front of the parents, but in public she was the good girl; the role model every girl should be following.  She wasn't amritdhari, but the family was seen in the public as girsikh.  So thank you for your honesty.  I can see how your rishta with me would end with ruining her life.  I would be saying don't be promiscuous and she would be like you are old, backward...this is the 21 century....paaath is part of the later centuries, I just need to be a good person. 

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7 hours ago, Akalifauj said:

Poster Harsharan declares himself to be a Sant Sipahe and Sants do not get angry.  They are like the lotus flower.  Even Gursikhs avoid anger, so I wonder what you are saying with your comment on Harsharan. Finally, some honesty coming from your post; poster Harsharan should stop using the word f*d*

I see your point.  Reading your post on this topic makes it clear a girl from your house would be liberal

Im glad we agree 

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I'm going to offer an alternative view.

Most people who immigrated to Uk and are over 50, had minimal eduction. They sold whatever small land holdings they had and went over to Uk to make more money and what they thought was a better life.

When they say they want a woman from India it's a projection of their own insecurities, lack of eduction and mindset. The same woman from their background in the pind has already made plans of how she'll bring her family over. This is the same woman that will say hanji hanji to her mil and then abuse her mil in her old age. And this is sadly the appropriate response to the wants of a backward mentality.

I have seen many of these girls from the pind doing the same as girls in the city. The only reason you here less of them is because they covet their tracks better and lie 

I've lived in india,uk and Canada and the US for years. A good decent sikh woman will be the same in all. Good family values, Educated parents,and secure.

 

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On 7 February 2017 at 11:46 AM, Guest Kaur said:

I'm going to offer an alternative view.

Most people who immigrated to Uk and are over 50, had minimal eduction. They sold whatever small land holdings they had and went over to Uk to make more money and what they thought was a better life.

When they say they want a woman from India it's a projection of their own insecurities, lack of eduction and mindset. The same woman from their background in the pind has already made plans of how she'll bring her family over. This is the same woman that will say hanji hanji to her mil and then abuse her mil in her old age. And this is sadly the appropriate response to the wants of a backward mentality.

I have seen many of these girls from the pind doing the same as girls in the city. The only reason you here less of them is because they covet their tracks better and lie 

I've lived in india,uk and Canada and the US for years. A good decent sikh woman will be the same in all. Good family values, Educated parents,and secure.

 

Parents play safe when it comes to arranging marriage of kids.

If their priority is traditional values then it's better to get a daughter in law from India.

Modern, earning grown ups can decide whom they want to marry if they have the balls to move out of family home and be truly independent.

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1 hour ago, singhbj singh said:

Parents play safe when it comes to arranging marriage of kids.

If their priority is traditional values then it's better to get a daughter in law from India.

Modern, earning grown ups can decide whom they want to marry if they have the balls to move out of family home and be truly independent.

Things in India are changing very fast in India, it is getting harder to get a girl who has these traditional values.

I think the realisation is that your daughter in law will not be looking after you in your old age.

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