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Hi i would like to ask the sangat some advice on how to stop porn addiction like i have tired meditation,simran, nitenem, kirtan and seva they do help reduce the addiction but it seem's like i dont get the fully away from porn, i dont mabye it could be that i haven't been able to wake up in amrit vela and also the 5 beloved one's told me that when i took amrit i have to remeber all of japji sahib from heart or guru ji will not do full kirpa on me, which i havent been able to accomplish yet.

Right now i been able to only do some simran and listening to some shabads sometimes haven't been able to do my nitnem at all, it seem's like everything i try to do spiritually or even worldly fails right infront of my eye's like this kaam is really hurting me physical and spiritually, but i still do it even though i know its not right and it isnt good for me, becuase i have felt the bliss of meditation but for some reason i turn to maya more easily then simran and sikhi, like i try to be a really good sikh for a bit then i quit then turn to maya and get lost then i go back it keeps repeating it's self like i am stuck in a cycle.

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Hi i would like to ask the sangat some advice on how to stop porn addiction like i have tired meditation,simran, nitenem, kirtan and seva they do help reduce the addiction but it seem's like i dont get the fully away from porn, i dont mabye it could be that i haven't been able to wake up in amrit vela and also the 5 beloved one's told me that when i took amrit i have to remeber all of japji sahib from heart or guru ji will not do full kirpa on me, which i havent been able to accomplish yet.

Right now i been able to only do some simran and listening to some shabads sometimes haven't been able to do my nitnem at all, it seem's like everything i try to do spiritually or even worldly fails right infront of my eye's like this kaam is really hurting me physical and spiritually, but i still do it even though i know its not right and it isnt good for me, becuase i have felt the bliss of meditation but for some reason i turn to maya more easily then simran and sikhi, like i try to be a really good sikh for a bit then i quit then turn to maya and get lost then i go back it keeps repeating it's self like i am stuck in a cycle.

Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh! What's your Sangat like? It is the Sangat that controls what you do, whether you go to the Guru or go away from the Guru is decided by Sangat. So, before we can provide any meaningful assistance Daas would like to know whether it's positive or negative Sangat. Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh!

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It seems you have some sort of Depression. Your hormones are high, because you are hiding your depression. I know what you are going through. Find what is depressing you and fix it. Then you can fix the problem. Doing simran, listening to Kirtan and sangat will do nothing for you. It could even worsen your problem

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I dont currently have any sangat, i did have bad sangat when i was in high school and they did drugs etc, even though i didnt start doing drugs, and they did talk about sexual stuff some time. Currently i dont have any gursikh friends you could say i dont really dont know how to make friends never really had close friends. I did go to sikh camps once but i felt like they were all gurusikh's and knew alot more then me and i felt really shamed at my self becuase they were so close the they guru and i felt like i didnt know anything about sikhi and i think i was stupid

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I did have some sangat were i would do simran once a week but for some reason i i just turned to maya, i have tried the yoga some sikh's do with my daily nitenem and simran and seva that helped for like 2 weeks to a month then i just went back to normal were i was. seem's like unless i find someone that met God it will be really hard for me to make my life of any value

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I dont currently have any sangat, i did have bad sangat when i was in high school and they did drugs etc, even though i didnt start doing drugs, and they did talk about sexual stuff some time. Currently i dont have any gursikh friends you could say i dont really dont know how to make friends never really had close friends. I did go to sikh camps once but i felt like they were all gurusikh's and knew alot more then me and i felt really shamed at my self becuase they were so close the they guru and i felt like i didnt know anything about sikhi and i think i was stupid

Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh! Sangat is bigger than just people, it includes what you watch and what you listen, are those positive things? Also 2 more big questions,

1. In a percentage how well do you believe you follow the Rehat the Punj Pyare have you, till the time you took Amrit to now?

2. Do you truly have a desire to fight your porn addiction, and at what level are you willing to go to fight your addiction? Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh!

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Don't tell the poor guy to cut his hands off. That's too far.

@Khalsa589, don't worry I'm not asking him to go this far. Just a question about dedication. (Also chopping hands doesn't help fight any inner battle.)
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@Khalsa589, don't worry I'm not asking him to go this far. Just a question about dedication. (Also chopping hands doesn't help fight any inner battle.)

Well, that's debatable. If each time he was overcome by lust he glanced down at his severed hands, I imagine it'd fill him with a despair that would distract him from his urges.

His eyes are another matter entirely, because he can still lust with his eyes. Technically, it's his brain that does the lusting; the eyes are only the output through which the lust is manifested. So, I suppose a lobotomy would be the ideal option for him.

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Well, that's debatable. If each time he was overcome by lust he glanced down at his severed hands, I imagine it'd fill him with a despair that would distract him from his urges.

His eyes are another matter entirely, because he can still lust with his eyes. Technically, it's his brain that does the lusting; the eyes are only the output through which the lust is manifested. So, I suppose a lobotomy would be the ideal option for him.

Daas really doesn't think this is a topic to be funny on; you could be scaring this guy like crazy just thinking about your suggestions, (plus most doctors probably have their own Manmat problems to deal with).
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