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Khalsa589    8

Hi i would like to ask the sangat some advice on how to stop porn addiction like i have tired meditation,simran, nitenem, kirtan and seva they do help reduce the addiction but it seem's like i dont get the fully away from porn, i dont mabye it could be that i haven't been able to wake up in amrit vela and also the 5 beloved one's told me that when i took amrit i have to remeber all of japji sahib from heart or guru ji will not do full kirpa on me, which i havent been able to accomplish yet.

Right now i been able to only do some simran and listening to some shabads sometimes haven't been able to do my nitnem at all, it seem's like everything i try to do spiritually or even worldly fails right infront of my eye's like this kaam is really hurting me physical and spiritually, but i still do it even though i know its not right and it isnt good for me, becuase i have felt the bliss of meditation but for some reason i turn to maya more easily then simran and sikhi, like i try to be a really good sikh for a bit then i quit then turn to maya and get lost then i go back it keeps repeating it's self like i am stuck in a cycle.

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Jacfsing2    1,845

Hi i would like to ask the sangat some advice on how to stop porn addiction like i have tired meditation,simran, nitenem, kirtan and seva they do help reduce the addiction but it seem's like i dont get the fully away from porn, i dont mabye it could be that i haven't been able to wake up in amrit vela and also the 5 beloved one's told me that when i took amrit i have to remeber all of japji sahib from heart or guru ji will not do full kirpa on me, which i havent been able to accomplish yet.

Right now i been able to only do some simran and listening to some shabads sometimes haven't been able to do my nitnem at all, it seem's like everything i try to do spiritually or even worldly fails right infront of my eye's like this kaam is really hurting me physical and spiritually, but i still do it even though i know its not right and it isnt good for me, becuase i have felt the bliss of meditation but for some reason i turn to maya more easily then simran and sikhi, like i try to be a really good sikh for a bit then i quit then turn to maya and get lost then i go back it keeps repeating it's self like i am stuck in a cycle.

Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh! What's your Sangat like? It is the Sangat that controls what you do, whether you go to the Guru or go away from the Guru is decided by Sangat. So, before we can provide any meaningful assistance Daas would like to know whether it's positive or negative Sangat. Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh!

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It seems you have some sort of Depression. Your hormones are high, because you are hiding your depression. I know what you are going through. Find what is depressing you and fix it. Then you can fix the problem. Doing simran, listening to Kirtan and sangat will do nothing for you. It could even worsen your problem

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Khalsa589    8

I dont currently have any sangat, i did have bad sangat when i was in high school and they did drugs etc, even though i didnt start doing drugs, and they did talk about sexual stuff some time. Currently i dont have any gursikh friends you could say i dont really dont know how to make friends never really had close friends. I did go to sikh camps once but i felt like they were all gurusikh's and knew alot more then me and i felt really shamed at my self becuase they were so close the they guru and i felt like i didnt know anything about sikhi and i think i was stupid

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Khalsa589    8

I did have some sangat were i would do simran once a week but for some reason i i just turned to maya, i have tried the yoga some sikh's do with my daily nitenem and simran and seva that helped for like 2 weeks to a month then i just went back to normal were i was. seem's like unless i find someone that met God it will be really hard for me to make my life of any value

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Jacfsing2    1,845

I dont currently have any sangat, i did have bad sangat when i was in high school and they did drugs etc, even though i didnt start doing drugs, and they did talk about sexual stuff some time. Currently i dont have any gursikh friends you could say i dont really dont know how to make friends never really had close friends. I did go to sikh camps once but i felt like they were all gurusikh's and knew alot more then me and i felt really shamed at my self becuase they were so close the they guru and i felt like i didnt know anything about sikhi and i think i was stupid

Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh! Sangat is bigger than just people, it includes what you watch and what you listen, are those positive things? Also 2 more big questions,

1. In a percentage how well do you believe you follow the Rehat the Punj Pyare have you, till the time you took Amrit to now?

2. Do you truly have a desire to fight your porn addiction, and at what level are you willing to go to fight your addiction? Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh!

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MisterrSingh    2,802

2. Do you truly have a desire to fight your porn addiction, and at what level are you willing to go to fight your addiction? Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh!

Don't tell the poor guy to cut his hands off. That's too far.

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Jacfsing2    1,845

Don't tell the poor guy to cut his hands off. That's too far.

@Khalsa589, don't worry I'm not asking him to go this far. Just a question about dedication. (Also chopping hands doesn't help fight any inner battle.) Edited by Jacfsing2

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MisterrSingh    2,802

@Khalsa589, don't worry I'm not asking him to go this far. Just a question about dedication. (Also chopping hands doesn't help fight any inner battle.)

Well, that's debatable. If each time he was overcome by lust he glanced down at his severed hands, I imagine it'd fill him with a despair that would distract him from his urges.

His eyes are another matter entirely, because he can still lust with his eyes. Technically, it's his brain that does the lusting; the eyes are only the output through which the lust is manifested. So, I suppose a lobotomy would be the ideal option for him.

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Jacfsing2    1,845

Well, that's debatable. If each time he was overcome by lust he glanced down at his severed hands, I imagine it'd fill him with a despair that would distract him from his urges.

His eyes are another matter entirely, because he can still lust with his eyes. Technically, it's his brain that does the lusting; the eyes are only the output through which the lust is manifested. So, I suppose a lobotomy would be the ideal option for him.

Daas really doesn't think this is a topic to be funny on; you could be scaring this guy like crazy just thinking about your suggestions, (plus most doctors probably have their own Manmat problems to deal with).

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Khalsa589    8

1. In a percentage how well do you believe you follow the Rehat the Punj Pyare have you, till the time you took Amrit to now?
2. Do you truly have a desire to fight your porn addiction, and at what level are you willing to go to fight your addiction? Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh!

First the first question,

my rehat before taking amrit was about a month of steady nitnem in amrit vela with waheguru mantra and rehras sahib, and kirtan shoila, and going to gurdwara atlest once a week. i dont know how to read gurbani so i would just repeat the gurbani how they said on youtube videos, and read the english translations. Basically i did a month of getting rdy to take amrit then they day after i took amrit i waked up late for amrit vela then i went to kaam and my habit was back basically. I understand the basics of what they said, like jap naam, with the breath, wake up in amrit vela, seva, the sangat importance, They recommended to work up to 2.5 hours of waheguru mantra and Mool Mantar not sure on exact amount but it was close to that. They talked about the things that khalsa not suppose to do like pre martial sex, eatting meat,eggs, staying away from intoxcites, etc Dont remember everything but remember Most things. So i would say in

percentage i did follow 60-70%, but after i received amrit, i would say it is around 5% to 10%

I do have desire to fight my addiction because i dont wanna waste my life because when i did do intense mediation and it was really deep i saw many experience's and colours and bliss i felt from it was not able to describe in words, in the end i just want peace eternal peace, with no desire's left and just bliss forever. Only thing i have been to steady do with guru ji's help is not giving up and trying to walk back on the path even though i keep failing hoping i succeed one day but it is getting hard to keep getting back up after you fall into the dark hole of maya were you cant see any light.

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Jacfsing2    1,845

First the first question,

my rehat before taking amrit was about a month of steady nitnem in amrit vela with waheguru mantra and rehras sahib, and kirtan shoila, and going to gurdwara atlest once a week. i dont know how to read gurbani so i would just repeat the gurbani how they said on youtube videos, and read the english translations. Basically i did a month of getting rdy to take amrit then they day after i took amrit i waked up late for amrit vela then i went to kaam and my habit was back basically. I understand the basics of what they said, like jap naam, with the breath, wake up in amrit vela, seva, the sangat importance, They recommended to work up to 2.5 hours of waheguru mantra and Mool Mantar not sure on exact amount but it was close to that. They talked about the things that khalsa not suppose to do like pre martial sex, eatting meat,eggs, staying away from intoxcites, etc Dont remember everything but remember Most things. So i would say in

percentage i did follow 60-70%, but after i received amrit, i would say it is around 5% to 10%

I do have desire to fight my addiction because i dont wanna waste my life because when i did do intense mediation and it was really deep i saw many experience's and colours and bliss i felt from it was not able to describe in words, in the end i just want peace eternal peace, with no desire's left and just bliss forever. Only thing i have been to steady do with guru ji's help is not giving up and trying to walk back on the path even though i keep failing hoping i succeed one day but it is getting hard to keep getting back up after you fall into the dark hole of maya were you cant see any light.

Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh, you are truly blessed to have experienced such Anand. What Daas would recommend is 1. Control what you watch and what you read, as well as what you talk about; (it matters less on who it is; as long as it's positive and productive). 2. To the best of your ability increase your level of dedication to the Punj Pyare Rehat, and try keeping it constantly. 3. If #1 and #2 aren't enough, (only if they aren't enough), Daas recommends that you print out a lot of pages of pictures of something important to you and just cover whatever room you use to watch pornography. (Also keep some Shastars open in the room you watch pornography, as well as keeping one hand on your Kirpan and the other on your Kara; constantly).

If #3 sounds crazy or out of the ordinary, it's supposed to because it should take your mind off of porn, and make your mind focus on these pointless rules to the point of dedication. When you finally win you can let go of #3, but keep the first 2 rules. Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh!

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sikhni777    559

1. Make a list of when you fall victim to the habit and the time.

2. Plan another activity for that time.

3. If it is your computer then place a notice on it - at that time - so that you don't use it at all but engage in your alternative hobby.

4. Try to get out of the house - go to gurdwara for seva if possible - esp in the evening so you are not lonely when you come back.

5 .Invest in some good absorbing read which will redirect your mind energy elsewhere.

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Veere har roz atleast 12 km running krya kar

Je fer vi eh adatt na dooor howe then start doing 200 pushups after u finish running

Je fer vi na hatya jawey then add about 500 rope jumps to ur daily routine ??

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