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REFLECTIONS ON PARENTING

              

You will be gone soon
 but the children
 will be here
And nobody
can  manage anybody
 else's life
though they are with youi
yet they
belong  not to you
You may give them
 your love
but not
 your thoughts
for they have their
 own thoughts
You may house their bodies
 but not their souls
 for their souls
 dwell in the house of tomorrow
 which
you cannot visit
even in your dreams
God will take care
It is none of our business
  to be too concerned
Whatsoever we can do
 we do,
but one should not hanker
 about things going
 the way one wants
 That is very egoistic
 

You have given birth
 to a child,
but once he is out of the womb
he is free of you
First he depended for
 his breath on you
 when he was in the womb
 Then he will take his
 own breath
You don't say

'What are you doing?
 Are you trying to be
 free of me?
Trying to be independent?'

 You feel happy,
that your child is breathing

First he will take milk from you
  then one day
 he will start
 eating on his own

 First he will go on
 clinging to your  apron

and then one day
 he will leave it

You will be happy
 because the child is growing
  becoming mature
 Then finally
 one day he falls in
 love with a woman

 He has found his
 woman, so he will go
 on his own way

 

Bless them, and
 whatsoever happens
they have to find their
 own life and their
 own meaning to
 life.

Now you are free.


 Just try to find your meaning
 your life,
 your goals,
 and devote the few days
 that are left to the
 search of the
 ultimate.

 Don't be concerned
 with ordinary things
I have never seen a
 single parent who is
 happy about their
 children.

Nobody is ever happy.

Even the father of Buddha
 was not happy.

He was very very annoyed
 because his son
  turned out
to be a beggar.

He became a sannyasin
 and the father was hoping
 he would become
 an emperor
 He crushed all his
 father's hopes

One thing is certain
 -- that the child is not here
 to fulfill your expectations
 

The child is here
 with his own destiny,
 and he will unfold
 his own destiny.
 You are trying somehow
to direct his destiny
 and that
is going to be frustrated.

So if the child
 becomes a thief,  or a
or a murderer,
of course the parents feel bad,
 and it looks logical.

 

But even
if he becomes a Jesus or
 a Buddha, then too,
 they feel frustrated
 because they have
 their own ideas,
and  the children try to do
 their own thing

Accept it and bless
 them.

They have
to find their own ways

 Who are we to
 interfere?
And how can we?

Pray for them
but leave them
on their own.

You just try
to grow yourself.

 

 

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