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SSA everyone..i am in love with a girl who living in a city but there parents from my nanka pind.she is really nice and gursikh girl.she dont know that am in love wirh her.recently i knew that her family wants to see us as a married couple but still am in confusion that as a sikh is it rite for me :(. ..? Please suggest me

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If u are confused then her family are confused too? There's a topic on this already with similar problem.

http://www.sikhsangat.com/index.php?/topic/72877-marriage-help-please/?hl=%2Bnanka+%2Bpind#entry594383

http://www.sikhsangat.com/index.php?/topic/72171-marriage-help-please/?hl=nanke#entry587519

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If u are confused then her family are confused too? There's a topic on this already with similar problem.http://www.sikhsangat.com/index.php?/topic/72877-marriage-help-please/?hl=%2Bnanka+%2Bpind#entry594383[url=http://www.sikhsangat.com/index.php?/topic/72171-marriage-help-please/?hl=nanke#entry587519]http://www.sikhsangat.com/index.php?/topic/72171-marriage-help-please/?hl=nanke#entry5

No her family is not confused as i know..but i always think that people will say wrong to our relation because of her roots from my nanka pind?

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She doesn't even know you're in love with her and you're already thinking seriously about your marriage? That's not an appropriate chronology of events mate, get your priorities in order.

As to the issue of whether or not your union would be right, if you're not direct relations (cousins by any degree, first, second, third etc), why not? I understand the prohibition was enforced in the old days, when people in the same villages tended be related to one another, to prevent people from loosing a bunch of inbred monsters from their loins.

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She doesn't even know you're in love with her and you're already thinking seriously about your marriage? That's not an appropriate chronology of events mate, get your priorities in order.

Lmao, that cracked me up.

I'm reminded of this fella:

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SSA everyone..i am in love with a girl who living in a city but there parents from my nanka pind.she is really nice and gursikh girl.she dont know that am in love wirh her.recently i knew that her family wants to see us as a married couple but still am in confusion that as a sikh is it rite for me :(. ..? Please suggest me

You have been watching too many bollywoods cos that's where this kinda thing happens, where the girl doesn't know a boy is in love with her. Your story is what fantasies are made of and they ain't real. You will have to catch hold of a loudspeaker and shout your love for her just like in the movies. Better still, sing a little bollywood song confessing your love for her this is sure to freak her out. This has worked in the past with many so called Romeos of our times!! If she is a gursikh girl from your nankay's she will run a mile when she hears this. This will be your answer. If you still not satisfied then why not write a little poem which you can recite to her parents over the phone asking them if they truly want to see you both married couple, their answer will help to straighten out your confusion. If worse comes to worse, find another girl who is not from you nankay's and get married to her as quickly as you can before any confusion sets in!

PS. Some people have also tried juggling two balls in the air and catching them. If one falls down it signifies the answer is plain 'no.' There are so many ways to find your answer but I can only think of few at the moment. Let us know how you get on.

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Lmao, that cracked me up.

I'm reminded of this fella:

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Lol

Tough love OP. Don't mean to hurt your feelings or anything, we're only concerned that your feelings may eventually get hurt even more if you don't nip this dreamy weirdness in the bud.

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You have been watching too many bollywoods cos that's where this kinda thing happens, where the girl doesn't know a boy is in love with her. Your story is what fantasies are made of and they ain't real. You will have to catch hold of a loudspeaker and shout your love for her just like in the movies. Better still, sing a little bollywood song confessing your love for her this is sure to freak her out. This has worked in the past with many so called Romeos of our times!! If she is a gursikh girl from your nankay's she will run a mile when she hears this. This will be your answer. If you still not satisfied then why not write a little poem which you can recite to her parents over the phone asking them if they truly want to see you both married couple, their answer will help to straighten out your confusion. If worse comes to worse, find another girl who is not from you nankay's and get married to her as quickly as you can before any confusion sets in!

PS. Some people have also tried juggling two balls in the air and catching them. If one falls down it signifies the answer is plain 'no.' There are so many ways to find your answer but I can only think of few at the moment. Let us know how you get on.

It is his prerogorative to fantasize!! Don't spoil his fantasy, lol :stupidme:

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Even I'm young, most likely younger than you. But I must say this is only in Bollywood, (even Hollywood makes the love progression slow). It's probably infatuation over love, I've been there too and it's only an illusion. With that said, have you even spoken to the girl?

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