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Hi I took Amrit recently but was not sure that I wanted to. A close friend sort of bullied me into it as she to was taking it. She kept saying if u don't don't today u never will, do it for me if u love me. Thinking about it now i should have spoke ip. i don't have a problem with keeping my kesh, being veg,doing my path & am not in any relationships. But I have a problem with covering my head, missing going to Bhangra party's. I feel more depressed after taking Amrit & was told I would feel better. Some days I don't want to continue like this anymore. If I break my Amrit do I need to go to 5 pyarers. I feel like I am living a lie my parents are Amrit dhari. & will be very upset & disappointed in me. Plus all the sangat I know will just gossip.. What do I do?

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Guilt is a terrible foundation for faith.

In spite of that, it can never be a bad thing to receive Guru Ka Amrit. So what if you struggle at times? If Kalgidhar Patshaah had meant for abilakhees to be perfect beforehand, then he would have had no reason at all to create the Khalsa. Sikhs are learners, students, and students will make mistakes. Taking Amrit should be the first step on the long road to realization of the almighty, not the mark at the finishing line.

I'd advise you to carry on living as an Amritdhari. But if letting your hair out and going to bhangra parties means that much to you, then your only other recourse is to give up, become Patit, and reap all that you have sown by being so weak-willed as to have allowed a friend to bully you into a lifelong commitment.

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Firstly congratulations on receiving Amrit from the 5 Pyarey. It's a showering of blessing direct from God and Guru Gobind Singh Ji.

Now my advice might seem a bit unorthodox, but here goes:

1. You've taken Amrit now, it's done. So no point in dwelling on it and thinking should i have taken it xyz. Its done.

2. If you've got a problem with covering your head, i would say don't cover your head for a while. Get it out your system and see how you feel. I guarantee you'll feel after a while what am I gaining by not covering my head and you'll start again automatically.

3. Go to the Bhangra party's. Dance. Enjoy yourself. But be aware of your surroundings. Notice the drunks. The words of the music. See if it's all hollow and whether it satisfies your soul. Speaking from experience - it's all fake, a farce.

4. Amrit doesn't restrict you in anything so don't feel depressed. If anything it opens doors - try getting involved in Akand Paths, Kirtan where your the Kirtani - Sikh activities which engage your and add to your life. All thats happened is you've taken Amrit - things have been taken out your life (drinking xyz) but nothing added. But Amrit doesn't restrict you. DO more!

I stress that stay Amritdhari, you are compromising Rehat in the short term with the above but long term it will get this all out your system.

Stay positive! Good luck!

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Actually start learning about sikhi. Taking Amrit is like enroling in a school. You could either ditch school and hang out with a bad crowd or you can excel in school and have positive energy in your life.

When you start progressing in sikhi Bhangra parties will not interest you and instead of Bhangra parties going to sikhi camps etc will interest you.

I highly recommend you make friendships with amritdhari singhnis so they can help you in your struggles.

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Hi I took Amrit recently but was not sure that I wanted to. A close friend sort of bullied me into it as she to was taking it. She kept saying if u don't don't today u never will, do it for me if u love me. Thinking about it now i should have spoke ip. i don't have a problem with keeping my kesh, being veg,doing my path & am not in any relationships. But I have a problem with covering my head, missing going to Bhangra party's. I feel more depressed after taking Amrit & was told I would feel better. Some days I don't want to continue like this anymore. If I break my Amrit do I need to go to 5 pyarers. I feel like I am living a lie my parents are Amrit dhari. & will be very upset & disappointed in me. Plus all the sangat I know will just gossip.. What do I do?

(Before I start explaining anything, you should choose your friends better because this person's not really a friend.) Now when you took Amrit you made a promise to the Guru and I assume the Punj Pyare asked all the people if they were truly ready, (they don't have to give you Amrit if they believe your not ready), they most likely believed you had potential to be Amritdhari, despite you not taking it the way you were suppose to from guilt you were still blessed. I'm currently not Amritdhari but I'm trying my best everyday for that day whenever that is, consider yourself blessed.
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Hi I took Amrit recently but was not sure that I wanted to. A close friend sort of bullied me into it as she to was taking it. She kept saying if u don't don't today u never will, do it for me if u love me. Thinking about it now i should have spoke ip. i don't have a problem with keeping my kesh, being veg,doing my path & am not in any relationships. But I have a problem with covering my head, missing going to Bhangra party's. I feel more depressed after taking Amrit & was told I would feel better. Some days I don't want to continue like this anymore. If I break my Amrit do I need to go to 5 pyarers. I feel like I am living a lie my parents are Amrit dhari. & will be very upset & disappointed in me. Plus all the sangat I know will just gossip.. What do I do?

Navi Jee,

it is your negative mind, which is tormenting you. It is the duty of the mind as a faithful servant of Kal Purukh to keep the jeevas in one way or other confused and entangled in the mayavee trilokee creation.

But we are no less also, we are Sikhs of the Aad Guru, Wahiguru. Howsoever mentally limited we maybe, but if we give our hand to the Guru within us(means having faith in Him), He will get hold of us and pull us out, from this lower level of ours, to His level, the land of eternal Light and bliss, Sach Khand.

Be brave, fight with the mind, by telling him, listen, do as much mischief as you want, I am not going to listen anything from you. Because of doing what you wanted and made me dance to your tunes, I am wandering life after life in this mayavee chakra. Now I will follow only Gurmat, in order to wash all the durmat thrown by you on me, thus become free from your tentacles and defeat you.

By His Grace, I have taken shelter at His Lotus Feet, none of your tantrums will work on me now.

All the naach gaana, bhangra party, films, etc that you think you are missing... ask yourself, what is all that? Isn´t that, leaving the mind freely to run farther and farther in maya?

Then what?

The more we run outside, the farther we go away from Wahiguru, and the more difficult it becomes to return back.

You see, the mind is fond of pleasures, of tastes , of jumping from place to other like a monkey. In this way, we can never achieve peace of mind, we are restless all the time.

According to Gurmukhs, Mahapurukhs, we should take advantage of this minus point of the mind of constantly running and seeking sensual pleasures, and defeat it.

And to defeat it, there is no other way, than to give it such a taste, that it will get satiated and stop running after anything.

And to achieve this, we need veerta, bravery, will power, love, faith, all these virtues combined in one jugtee; which is none other than Naam Simran.

Once the theif mind, tastes the rus of Naam, it sits down once and forever, and turns out to be our friend.

Then it stops all its lower tendencies, and gets transformed into a higher mind, and will be helpful friend in your devotion towards Wahiguru.

But to achive all that, we have to be brave first, and be real sikhs.

To be a sikh is not go and fight with five people(goons) and beat and thrash them.

Though that is admirable, but we must bear in mind, that our mind is our true enemy to be fought and defetated.

We call mind our enemy, because it stands and blocks our way, to return to Sach Khand.

The Bani says : nimakh nimakh kar sareer katave, taubee haume mel na jaave.

One may cut the body even into a thousand pieces, even then, the filth from the mind can not be erased.

On the other hand it says: Prabh ka Simran, man kee mael jaae. Through His Simran alone, the filth from our minds is washed away.

While we moorakhs are brutes and manmukhs, our wise Guru Sahibans, give us the jugtee of discipline and devotion = Simran, so that we can change the course of our existence, and achieve the goal of our lives, and that is to merge in Him.

Simran, simran and more simran, is the only true medicine, to make us strong and spiritually healthier beings.

May Wahiguru´s blessings be on you, and you realize how wadbhagee are you.

Sat Sree Akal.

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