Difficulty In Finding Life Partner! So Much Materialism!

[soPurakh]

I am 32 year old male from Punjab and I am looking for a religious sikh girl. But my experience has been very bad. The Punjabi Sikh society is full of materialism. All they are interested is in boy's salary, rural property and urban property. I had a talk with couple of amritdhari girls and they said they want to marry a Canada citizen.

Amritdhari sikhs shud be the role models for the society but even they are after money and Canada/US citizenship.

[Kira]

and people wonder why I say I don't want to get married.

[Balkaar]

I don't understand why people allow themselves to be so easily overthrown by the sight of a gatra. Amritdharis tend to be just as imperfect as everybody else. Seva and Bhagti is difficult, judge people by the effort they put into that. Not on whether or not they received Pahul, which requires no exertion on the part of the participant, it is something anyone could do.

If there is little quarry to be had amidst Amritdhari women, try non-Amritdhari women. If this venture is equally fruitless, why not find a nice non-Sikh girl and see if she might consider converting?

[Balkaar]

tend to be imperfect? There was no need to say that. Doing a sant's nindya is a mahapaap. Doing nindya of your own sangat is a paap too. An Amritdhari can only marry an Amritdhari,

Being a nominal Amritdhari doesn't make you a Sant. There have been plenty of nasty individuals who received Amrit - Ajit Poohla the Nang, Santa Singh the arch-traitor, rapist 'Gianis' (http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-glasgow-west-20445350), to name but a few of the towers of corruption who sullied the name of Panth Khalsa.

Nothing I have said may be called nindiya. You think Amritdharis are better than everyone else do you?

[soPurakh]

the 2 amrithdari girls I talked to were not just average amrtidhari girls. They wore a dastaar, knew how to do kirtan and one of them was bibeki(ate food from the hands of amritdharis only). They simply said no to me because I dont have US/Canada citizenship.

[Balkaar]

Well, I'm speaking of an Amritdhari, not a PATIT. What you are mentioning is a patit, not an Sri Amritdhari. I think my sangat of Amritdharis are sarvasresht aka the best for me.

You should stop playing casuistic word games Preeet. Why didn't you just come out and say that whenever you use the word Amritdhari, you use it only to mean those who have received Pahul and lived up to it, and not those who received it but act like hypocrites? It would save all the misunderstanding that tends to converge around your posts.

That is not how I am using it. I am using it in its literal sense, not in the numinous sense that you are. And I think my summary of literal Amritdharis holds true.

I agree with you that the nindiya of exemplary Amritdharis is a paap.

[Balkaar]

Hey, I'm not playing any word games, who in the right mind calls a patit a Sri Amritdhari??? Be careful with literal senses, they may make you receive pashtava to some of the things you say.

My Naani is a hidebound harpy, casteist, sexist and fond of the observance of Brahmanistic sorcery.

In spite of that, she is technically an Amritdhari, not a Patit. One only becomes a Patit when they commit any one of the Bujjar Kurehats. She has not.

[thugger]

Let her be as she is, she will realize everything one day for sure. As long as she does her bhagti, everything will go well for her considering she will realize everything. No need to call her names, is that what you spend your time doing, when you can be singing Raam Naam instead?

No need to call him a paapi, is that what you spend your time doing, when you can be singing Raam Naam instead?

EDIT: Why even be on this forum, when you could be doing singing Raam Naam?

[Quantavius]

the 2 amrithdari girls I talked to were not just average amrtidhari girls. They wore a dastaar, knew how to do kirtan and one of them was bibeki(ate food from the hands of amritdharis only). They simply said no to me because I dont have US/Canada citizenship.

Welcome to the real world. LOL!

[Barfi n Mithai]

There are plenty of amritdhari girls in panjab - have you asked them all?