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its a test it has happened to many of us my self included, ardas is the key and never ever stop your nitnem and naam abhias

Even the sons of Guru Gobind Singh ji were tested and they made the ultimate sacrifice so who are we, it will pass keep doing ardas.

Do Sangat of other Singhnia and go to smagams , when I feel low I go to my brothers (Singhs ) and Guru ji at the Gurdwara.

if your local Gurdwara has naam simran on a particular morning as ours does every Saturday at amrit vela we do 5 bani nitnem and then naam simran/ kirtan for an hour and its amazing keeps one going all week but one should do it every day anyway on an individual basis too.

Your are a Singhni now daughter of Guru Gobind Singh ji and Mata Sahib Kaur ji all happiness is at our Guru jis feet .

The world has nothing to offer us now that can compare with the love of our Guru sahib ji and the sacrifices he made for us.

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Gurfateh ji!

Thanks for your reply... I don't think its always about the sangat....I hang around with the right sangat,... I have never been associated with anyone who does wrong things including drinking, smoking etc... everyone I mingle with are either amrithdharees or people from well respected families who practice sikhi but arent amritdharee ( they are living the best of both worlds without doing wrong things- if that makes sense)

I am confused, how can they be living the best of both worlds? What is good about a world without Guru Sahib. Have you heard the analogy of having one foot in one boat and the other foot in another boat going in the opposite direction? I say, you still have bad sangat around you; the people you claim are living the best of both worlds. In fact these people only read Gurbani as a ritual and still hold on to their minds desires. Gurbani reshapes a person's whole thought process and desires are flipped upside down on their face. You felt those desires disappear when you had the desire of taking Amrit and when you took it. Since you have bad sangat and are holding on to your minds desires, you have driven away from the path of Sikhi. You are not at all free when you were so called living the best of both worlds? Instead you were bogged down with maya. And today you have gone into the same cycle of being bogged down by maya.

It's time to wake up from your deep sleep and see everything once again through the lens of Gurbani. It is great you don't drink alcohol or never have, but have you ever thought maybe the alcohol ignites the fire, which exist already in the body? The yogis tried to quiet the mind inner burning of krodh, moh, lobh, kaam, and ankhar by running to the jungles, but they failed miserably. That sangat, which is living the best of both world's is the alcoholic drink in your life. They take you away from Guru Sahib and into maya as alcohol makes a person lose his sense of Akal Purakh. All the dirty songs played at receptions surely effect your mind and surely in the wrong way. Gurbani says as a person steps in a room covered in black sooth, so does that black sooth stick to the person. Guru da Sikh don't adapt to maya cultures. They cut it out of their lives and seek the Guru's charan. You mention alcohol twice in two different post. Ask yourself, why does Guru Sahib say not to drink alcohol? People say it loosens them up and lets them have fun and be girly girls. I think you know what the right decision is, but you are not willing to make it because of your deep rooted attachment to maya. The reason, why you took amrit is because of your deep connection you made with Guru Sahib. Now make a decision, Guru Sahib or maya?

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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji K Fateh

I am a young, 19 year old amritdharee female. I am born and raised in a typical punjabi family, however, we all do paath and are well into learning about Sikhi. I am the only daughter in the family, I used to be the girl who was into her, makeup, hair styling(i've never cut my hair) and basically all the usual girly stuff a typical girl is interested in. From a young age I have been attending gurdwara, sikhi classes and doing kirtan on the vaja. In 2013, we had our annual dastar day, where I tied the dastar for the first time and I fell in love with it. When I told my parents that I was considering wearing the dastar full time, they weren't against the idea (both my brothers have worn a keski since birth but aren't amritdharee) but objected by saying it was just a phase I was going through and I would change my mind. I few months later, in January 2014, we had a jatha come for a week and on the last day they were holding an amrit sanchar. During the second last divan, something in what they were saying me touched me so much that, almost 12 hours before the amrit sanchar I decided to take amrit. I am someone who never in my life even considered the idea of taking amrit but I don't know why, but I just felt that I was ready and had to take the leap of faith. I felt sitting in the darbar sahib that night, it was either take it now or never. So next day, I take amrit. I AM THE ONLY AMRITDHAREE IN MY FAMILY AND EXTENDED FAMILY.

Now almost year and a half on, I do my paath (timing is an issue - but something that can be worked on), follow my rehat, wear a dastar etc. The first full year, I was convinced fully, and also told others who asked me, that me taking amrit suddenly was the best decision ever and I would never look back, I feel so blessed to be on this path. HOWEVER, for the past few months my confidence has shattered. I can't stop my mind from falling weak to think that maybe I have made a quick decision- one which perhaps I should have thought about more carefully. I do my paath - I love doing paath, kirtan... I wouldn't be able to live without it... sikhi is my identity and one I'm so proud to be a part of BUT! My appearance.... I love my dastar but for the past few months I really miss the old me... the girl who was free spirited, carefree, girly,.. I MISS MY HAIR.. I MISS LETTING IT DOWN .. I WAS IN LOVE WITH MY HAIR!!! (I've never touched alcohol, cigarettes, drugs and I'm a strict vegetarian and have never entered a club apart from wedding functions with my family). I feel so weak when I say that I go to bed crying most nights these days because I feel so guilty that Mahraj knows what I'm wishing for.... to be free. I see other girls who are like the old me, who like to dance, wear makeup, style their hair etc but still keep intact with their sikhi, do their paath, learn about their dharam etc but aren't amrithdaree... I wish I took time to think about it and maybe today I wouldn't be sitting here crying whilst typing this up.

My family and friends and my community are so proud of me for the step I took a year and a half ago but what do I do now??? I literally feel that I have no one to pour my heart out to that would understand what I am going through.... I talk to Mahraj about this but I feel like I'm trapped... no matter what I do I'll only bring badness... If i continue the way I am, I'll never be a good gursikh, and if i go back to the old me, I'll dishonour and bring shame to my family- HOW WOULD I FACE THE WORLD... I have never done anything wrong up till date and don't intend to. But when I look at my family, my sisters, my cousins, I see the old me in them- The happy me!

I really need someone to advise me, I can no longer sit here with all this bottled inside me... I don't want to be depressed any more... PLEASE someone help me!

Waheguru Ji ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji K Fateh!

Its good to seek out help from online sangat as some members have given advice here for you. In my opinion, do an ardas and take a hukamnama for guidance by GGS. It feels like you want to be free as in having more freedom by letting your hair out and wearing makeup? I am kind of lost. I see that you are putting your eyes on today's modern trends of society where most women wear revealing clothes, makeup, drink, and go out clubbing. I am 18 and 1/2 years old and about to go to uni and as odd as it seems me being pretty good keeping rehit sometimes I have bad thoughts and it really makes me think. Also I have rarely good sangat here to so that puts me down also. But I feel where you're coming from.

It is best to follow your Guru than the world's ways as the world and its affairs are all false and misleading to one's faith. Temptations are dreadful and can really change your mindset so its best to remain steadfast. Your not the only sister I bet who's going with this situation too. Keeping your trust in Guru will help you overcome tough times in life as your dealing with it now. I seriously suggest you to find a Sikh sister or a group of Amritdharis who can really reach to you and help you out personally. Like you said your the only amritdhari in your family and extended family so there is no one who can really understand what issues you are truly dealing with. So it is best possible to seek out help from local Sikh sangat perhaps Sikh Amritdharis?

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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji K Fateh

I am a young, 19 year old amritdharee female. I am born and raised in a typical punjabi family, however, we all do paath and are well into learning about Sikhi. I am the only daughter in the family, I used to be the girl who was into her, makeup, hair styling(i've never cut my hair) and basically all the usual girly stuff a typical girl is interested in. From a young age I have been attending gurdwara, sikhi classes and doing kirtan on the vaja. In 2013, we had our annual dastar day, where I tied the dastar for the first time and I fell in love with it. When I told my parents that I was considering wearing the dastar full time, they weren't against the idea (both my brothers have worn a keski since birth but aren't amritdharee) but objected by saying it was just a phase I was going through and I would change my mind. I few months later, in January 2014, we had a jatha come for a week and on the last day they were holding an amrit sanchar. During the second last divan, something in what they were saying me touched me so much that, almost 12 hours before the amrit sanchar I decided to take amrit. I am someone who never in my life even considered the idea of taking amrit but I don't know why, but I just felt that I was ready and had to take the leap of faith. I felt sitting in the darbar sahib that night, it was either take it now or never. So next day, I take amrit. I AM THE ONLY AMRITDHAREE IN MY FAMILY AND EXTENDED FAMILY.

Now almost year and a half on, I do my paath (timing is an issue - but something that can be worked on), follow my rehat, wear a dastar etc. The first full year, I was convinced fully, and also told others who asked me, that me taking amrit suddenly was the best decision ever and I would never look back, I feel so blessed to be on this path. HOWEVER, for the past few months my confidence has shattered. I can't stop my mind from falling weak to think that maybe I have made a quick decision- one which perhaps I should have thought about more carefully. I do my paath - I love doing paath, kirtan... I wouldn't be able to live without it... sikhi is my identity and one I'm so proud to be a part of BUT! My appearance.... I love my dastar but for the past few months I really miss the old me... the girl who was free spirited, carefree, girly,.. I MISS MY HAIR.. I MISS LETTING IT DOWN .. I WAS IN LOVE WITH MY HAIR!!! (I've never touched alcohol, cigarettes, drugs and I'm a strict vegetarian and have never entered a club apart from wedding functions with my family). I feel so weak when I say that I go to bed crying most nights these days because I feel so guilty that Mahraj knows what I'm wishing for.... to be free. I see other girls who are like the old me, who like to dance, wear makeup, style their hair etc but still keep intact with their sikhi, do their paath, learn about their dharam etc but aren't amrithdaree... I wish I took time to think about it and maybe today I wouldn't be sitting here crying whilst typing this up.

My family and friends and my community are so proud of me for the step I took a year and a half ago but what do I do now??? I literally feel that I have no one to pour my heart out to that would understand what I am going through.... I talk to Mahraj about this but I feel like I'm trapped... no matter what I do I'll only bring badness... If i continue the way I am, I'll never be a good gursikh, and if i go back to the old me, I'll dishonour and bring shame to my family- HOW WOULD I FACE THE WORLD... I have never done anything wrong up till date and don't intend to. But when I look at my family, my sisters, my cousins, I see the old me in them- The happy me!

I really need someone to advise me, I can no longer sit here with all this bottled inside me... I don't want to be depressed any more... PLEASE someone help me!

Waheguru Ji ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji K Fateh!

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa

Waheguru ji ki Fateh

Kid you need to balance your worldly life with spiritual.

Older generation females weren't given formal education or expected to earn.

Now high as well as low class are given this opportunity.

Most of the girls your age are either worried about getting higher education or a perfect spouse.

I think you need to choose your path & collaborate with your parents.

Either put your time n energy in studies or get married.

Key to balanced life "keep your self busy"

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa

Waheguru ji ki Fateh

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I found this on the internet a long time ago and this completely clarifies what sikhi says about dancing:

This articles lists Gurbani relating to dancing and singing which are activities where many preconceived prejudices and views exist in the Sikh and Punjabi community. Singing and dancing are traditions of Punjab which have been in existence for many thousands of years. These traditions are not encouraged and supported by Sikhi and Gurbani. Many provide Gurbani quotes that make reference to dancing and claim that dancing is accetable provided that it is used as a positive, communal and constructive function for unity and celebration of society. They also claim that dancing has negative outcomes when used to escalate ones ego or pride; or for self-excitation; or for sensual gratification, these same activities are condemned by the Guru. However, such analysis of Gurbani is superficial at best and avoids the deeper connotations of the Guru's Word, which is limitless in its depth.

The Guru tells us:


ਹਉ ਵਾਰੀ ਜੀਉ ਵਾਰੀ ਹਰਿ ਹਰਿ ਨਾਮਿ ਸੁਹਾਵਣਿਆ ਗੁਰਮੁਖਿ ਗਾਵੈ ਗੁਰਮੁਖਿ ਨਾਚੈ ਹਰਿ ਸੇਤੀ ਚਿਤੁ ਲਾਵਣਿਆ ਰਹਾਉ

हउ वारी जीउ वारी हरि हरि नामि सुहावणिआ गुरमुखि गावै गुरमुखि नाचै हरि सेती चितु लावणिआ ॥१॥ रहाउ

Ha­o vārī jī­o vārī har har nām suhāvaṇi­ā. Gurmukẖ gāvai gurmukẖ nācẖai har sėṯī cẖiṯ lāvaṇi­ā. 1 rahā­o.
I am a sacrifice, my soul is a sacrifice, to those who look beautiful in the Name of the Lord, Har, Har.

The Gurmukhs sing , the Gurmukhs dance, and focus their consciousness on the Lord. ((1)(Pause))

(SGGS p124)

The first question that must arise when the above verse is mentioned is whether there is a single historical text that supports the Gurus or the Sikhs ever dancing? No references can be found of the Gurus or their Sikhs ever engaging or being encouraged to dance. But further study of more Gurbani will clear up what the "dancing" being referred to is. Ask yourself, can you see Guru Nanak Dev Sahib or Guru Gobind Singh Ji, or the Punj Pyare dancing? If not, then why would the student (Sikh) engage in activities that the teacher (Guru) would not? The teacher sets the example for the student, and the perfect student is the very image of the teacher.


ਗੁਰਮੁਖਿ ਨਿਰਤਿ ਹਰਿ ਲਾਗੈ ਭਾਉ ਪੂਰੇ ਤਾਲ ਵਿਚਹੁ ਆਪੁ ਗਵਾਇ
Gurmukẖ niraṯ har lāgai bẖā­o. Pūrė ṯāl vicẖahu āp gavā­ė.
The Gurmukh's dance is to embrace love for the Lord;
to the beat of the drum, he sheds his ego from within.

(SGGS p364)

Do Bhangra/Giddha/Hip Hop/R&B/Bollywood songs and the accompanying dance allow one to embrace the Lord? Is the dance being mentioned that of the worldly or spiritual? Have there been references made in Sikh history, or any other history for that matter, that proclaim that the ego has been shed through dancing? Or is the dance being referenced in this verse of another nature?


ਵਾਜਾ ਮਤਿ ਪਖਾਵਜੁ ਭਾਉ ਹੋਇ ਅਨੰਦੁ ਸਦਾ ਮਨਿ ਚਾਉ

ਏਹਾ ਭਗਤਿ ਏਹੋ ਤਪ ਤਾਉ ਇਤੁ ਰੰਗਿ ਨਾਚਹੁ ਰਖਿ ਰਖਿ ਪਾਉ
ਪੂਰੇ ਤਾਲ ਜਾਣੈ ਸਾਲਾਹ ਹੋਰੁ ਨਚਣਾ ਖੁਸੀਆ ਮਨ ਮਾਹ ਰਹਾਉ

vājā maṯ pakẖāvaj bẖā­o. Ho­ė anand saḏā man cẖā­o.

Ėhā bẖagaṯ ėho ṯap ṯā­o. Iṯ rang nācẖahu rakẖ rakẖ pā­o.
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Pūrė ṯāl jāṇai sālāh. Hor nacẖṇā kẖusī­ā man māh. 1 rahā­o.

Make your intellect your instrument, and love your tambourine; thus bliss and lasting pleasure shall be produced in your mind.

This is devotional worship, and this is the practice of penance. So dance in this love, and keep the beat with your feet.
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Know that the perfect beat is the Praise of the Lord; other dances produce only temporary pleasure in the mind. 1Pause

(SGGS p350)

Again, the above questions must be asked. If dancing from this verse is taken literally to mean the worldly act of dancing, who has played the instrument of intellect, the tambourine of love? Analogies, metaphors and similies are aplenty in Gurbani, that associate worldly activies to the reader to allow for a spiritual awakening through explanation in simple terms. Are such things to be taken literally? If so, then one must also be able to fulfill the conditions set in Gurbani. The above verse for instance, states that dancing would impart bliss and lasting pleasure. Have the worldly dancers achieved this?


ਗੁਰਮੁਖਿ ਨਿਰਤਿ ਹਰਿ ਲਾਗੈ ਭਾਉ ਪੂਰੇ ਤਾਲ ਵਿਚਹੁ ਆਪੁ ਗਵਾਇ .....
ਗੁਰਮੁਖਿ ਭਗਤਿ ਜੁਗਤਿ ਸਚੁ ਸੋਇ ਪਾਖੰਡਿ ਭਗਤਿ ਨਿਰਤਿ ਦੁਖੁ ਹੋਇ
Gurmukẖ niraṯ har lāgai bẖā­o. Pūrė ṯāl vicẖahu āp gavā­ė....
Gurmukẖ bẖagaṯ jugaṯ sacẖ so­ė. Pakẖand bẖagaṯ niraṯ ḏukẖ ho­ė.
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The Gurmukh's dance is to embrace love for the Lord; to the beat of the drum, he sheds his ego from within.....
For the Gurmukh, loving devotional worship is the way to the True Lord. But the dances and the worship of the hypocrites bring only pain.
3
(SGGS p364)

This verse is in the similar vein of the above verse, where the "dance" mentioned is actually to develop unrelenting love for the Almighty. Devotional worship, in which one develops love, longing and a deep desire to meet the Almighty is the dance being alluded to in the verses. One must again query whether Bhangra or Giddha or Salsa dancing impart such high spiritual states.





ਤੇਰਾ ਜਨੁ ਨਿਰਤਿ ਕਰੇ ਗੁਨ ਗਾਵੈ ਰਬਾਬੁ ਪਖਾਵਜ ਤਾਲ ਘੁੰਘਰੂ ਅਨਹਦ ਸਬਦੁ ਵਜਾਵੈ ਰਹਾਉ
Ŧėrā jan niraṯ karė gun gāvai. Rabāb pakẖāvaj ṯāl gẖungẖrū anhaḏ sabaḏ vajāvai. 1 rahā­o.
Your humble servant dances and sings Your Glorious Praises.

He plays upon the guitar, tambourine and cymbals, and the unstruck sound current of the Shabad resounds.
1Pause

(SGGS p381)

Is the Anhad Shabad - the unstruck sound current struck during worldly dancing? Have the dancers of the worldly heard it? Guru Sahib provides the inherent proof of this being an analogy within the very verse.


ਖੰਡ ਬ੍ਰਹਮੰਡ ਤ੍ਰੈ ਗੁਣ ਨਾਚੇ ਜਿਨ ਲਾਗੀ ਹਰਿ ਲਿਵ ਤੁਮਾਰੀ ਜੀਅ ਜੰਤ ਸਭੇ ਹੀ ਨਾਚੇ ਨਾਚਹਿ ਖਾਣੀ ਚਾਰੀ
Kẖand barahmand ṯarai guṇ nācẖė jin lāgī har liv ṯumārī. Jī­a janṯ sabẖė hī nācẖė nācẖeh kẖāṇī cẖārī. 5
The planets and solar systems dance in the three qualities, as do those who bear love for You, Lord.
The beings and creatures all dance, and the four sources of creation dance.
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(SGGS p506)

Is the "dance" being referred to here a worldly dance, or that of the entire play of the world being acted out on the universe-stage? "Dancing" here is referring to the constant happenings of the universe. The very being, the existence of the world, is "dancing" to the Almighty's Will. There is no justification being provided to engage in worldly dancing.


ਪੂਰੇ ਤਾਲ ਨਿਹਾਲੇ ਸਾਸ ਵਾ ਕੇ ਗਲੇ ਜਮ ਕਾ ਹੈ ਫਾਸ
Pūrė ṯāl nihālė sās. vā kė galė jam kā hai fās. 3
She dances to the beat, exciting the breath of those who watch her.
But the noose of the Messenger of Death is around her neck.
3

(SGGS p1165)

This verse actually tells of how people are deluded in the worldly stage, with dancing being given as a means for a woman to entice onlookers, and will one day perish to the ultimate reality of Death. Guru Sahib is actually telling the reader to awaken from their slumber of the 5 vices and to realize that Death is ever close.


ਨਾਨਕ ਸਤਿਗੁਰਿ ਭੇਟਿਐ ਪੂਰੀ ਹੋਵੈ ਜੁਗਤਿ ਹਸੰਦਿਆ ਖੇਲੰਦਿਆ ਪੈਨੰਦਿਆ ਖਾਵੰਦਿਆ ਵਿਚੇ ਹੋਵੈ ਮੁਕਤਿ
Nānak saṯgur bẖeti▫ai pūrī hovai jugaṯ. Hasanḏi▫ā kẖelanḏi▫ā painanḏi▫ā kẖāvanḏi▫ā vicẖe hovai mukaṯ. 2
O Nanak, meeting the True Guru, one comes to know the Perfect Way.
While laughing, playing, dressing and eating, he is liberated.
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(SGGS p522)

Indeed, Guru Sahib's path never encouraged the recluse lifestyle. The gristi (householder) lifestyle was encouraged and accepted. The activities described in the above verse are a testament to that, where Guru Sahis is preaching to the reader that the Gursikh will be able to attain liberation while engaged being a part of it, not only as a tyagi (he/she who has abandoned the world). A Sikh must embody the concept of tyagi of tyag - one who has no attachments in the world and yet is able to participate in it. As a lotus that sits on the world ocean, the Sikh is rooted in the world, and yet above it (mentally and spiritually one with the Almighty).

Therefore, Gurbani has not given Sikhs a green light to dance their lives away. Even if a very liberal view of dancing was to be accepted, one must always remember that any activity that a Sikh undertakes is to be in constant meditation of the Almighty and to reach ever closer to that One-Supreme. All other activities are useless per Gurbani.

Also, that story about a Singh dancing to Sukhmani Sahib is not true. Guru sahib says: ਨਚਿਐਟਪਿਐਭਗਤਿਨਹੋਇ॥

The translation is clear: ਨੱਚਣ ਟੱਪਣ ਨਾਲ ਭਗਤੀ ਨਹੀਂ ਹੁੰਦੀ।

By dancing and jumping, devotional worship is not performed.

Since Bani is so clear about dancing while doing bhagti being wrong, it does not matter who else might have done it. It is not right for a Sikh. That story if false.

Lastly, it is not true that you don't have to wear dastar. Every Sikh has to wear a dastar. if you look at the written proof for dastar, you will not find anything that mentions that this rehat is for boys only. Dastar is for every Sikh, without exceptions.

Remember, just because someone is nice or a good person, they are not automatically good sangat. Good sangat is sangat of other AmritDharees (that are trying to actually follow Sikhi) or people sincerely trying to become amritdharee. This does not mean that non-amritdharees are evil, lower, or worse than us. They just aren't the sangat that guru sahib tells us to do. So we have to be nice to everyone, while realising that we are lower than everyone, along with trying to spend time with Gursikhs and limiting time spent unnecessarily with others.

To look at Bani for this concept, please search up for results in Guru Granth Sahib with one keyword at a time out of ਸਾਕਤ ਸਾਕਤਿ ਸਾਕਤੁ. Look up each word and see what guru sahib says is a saakat. You will find that the definitions include not japping naam, not loving waheguru, not being Amritdharee (being without Guru). Also look up ਸੰਗਤ to see who we should try to spend time with. Someone could be an athiest, and really nice and honest and everything else that you can think about what it takes to be a good human being. We are lower than those people. But according to Guru Jee's hukam we will still spend most of our time with Gursikhs (by the way, if anyone does simran and follows guru's hukam they will also gain these qualities of honesty, kindness too.).

I hope this makes sense.

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    • yeh it's true, we shouldn't be lazy and need to learn jhatka shikaar. It doesn't help some of grew up in surrounding areas like Slough and Southall where everyone thought it was super bad for amrit dharis to eat meat, and they were following Sant babas and jathas, and instead the Singhs should have been normalising jhatka just like the recent world war soldiers did. We are trying to rectifiy this and khalsa should learn jhatka.  But I am just writing about bhog for those that are still learning rehit. As I explained, there are all these negative influences in the panth that talk against rehit, but this shouldn't deter us from taking khanda pahul, no matter what level of rehit we are!
    • How is it going to help? The link is of a Sikh hunter. Fine, but what good does that do the lazy Sikh who ate khulla maas in a restaurant? By the way, for the OP, yes, it's against rehit to eat khulla maas.
    • Yeah, Sikhs should do bhog of food they eat. But the point of bhog is to only do bhog of food which is fit to be presented to Maharaj. It's not maryada to do bhog of khulla maas and pretend it's OK to eat. It's not. Come on, bro, you should know better than to bring this Sakhi into it. Is this Sikh in the restaurant accompanied by Guru Gobind Singh ji? Is he fighting a dharam yudh? Or is he merely filling his belly with the nearest restaurant?  Please don't make a mockery of our puratan Singhs' sacrifices by comparing them to lazy Sikhs who eat khulla maas.
    • Seriously?? The Dhadi is trying to be cute. For those who didn't get it, he said: "Some say Maharaj killed bakras (goats). Some say he cut the heads of the Panj Piyaras. The truth is that they weren't goats. It was she-goats (ਬਕਰੀਆਂ). He jhatka'd she-goats. Not he-goats." Wow. This is possibly the stupidest thing I've ever heard in relation to Sikhi.
    • Instead of a 9 inch or larger kirpan, take a smaller kirpan and put it (without gatra) inside your smaller turban and tie the turban tightly. This keeps a kirpan on your person without interfering with the massage or alarming the masseuse. I'm not talking about a trinket but rather an actual small kirpan that fits in a sheath (you'll have to search to find one). As for ahem, "problems", you could get a male masseuse. I don't know where you are, but in most places there are professional masseuses who actually know what they are doing and can really relieve your muscle pains.
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