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Muslim Getting Married In Shepherds Bush Gurdwara This Friday

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This must not be allowed to go ahead. This is a direct contradiction to akal takht rules.

See attached invitation that someone messaged me. Friday 1st may at 9:30 am

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I am some what pretty disappointed that Londons oldest Gurudwara which has always asked for the people's support would allow this. They are usually quite Panthic and allow Sikh students to hold events there as well. Maybe someone who has contact with the committee can ask them in the most nicest way what is going on!

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Unless he has converted to Sikhism this is in direct contradiction to Shri Guru's Gobind Singh Ji's Hukam.

"Do not given a daughter's hand in marriage to a shaven one. Give her to a household where the Undying divine personification Akal purakh and tenets of Sikhism are respected, to household without debt, of a pleasing nature, which is disciplined and educated".

Then there is the Akal Takhts rules and regulations on who can and can't get married in a Gurdwara in the presence of the Shri Guru Granth Sahib.

The question I would like to ask is what are the girl's parent's, siblings, extended family and friends thinking?

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Has anyone actually contacted the Gurdwara?

Don't be silly , why contact the Gurdwara when we have the internet to jump to conclusions, also, on a side note, where did that picture of the card come from, is there some special website where these things are shared.

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How dare you ask such a silly question! They're all totally behind her. They don't want her to ruin her life by being stuck in a loveless, arranged marriage to someone of her cultural and religious background, because, as we all know, love marriages are totally not built on physical attraction, and the love between the two partners in such marriages never fades or wanes at all resulting in no divorces ever. It's a universal truth. And you're an extremist... a God-forsaken terrorist for attacking the beautiful couple on their special, magical day.

/sarcasm

LOL I was so confused when I read this post until I read the end..

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Theyve chosen friday i bet, because thats a unusual day to get married on, in uk for sikhs and so they dont get "thugs" interruptin the ceremony. Cannot believe this can go ahead tbh. Though, we dont kno, but he may have become a sikh and changed his name to singh, who knows. Report to sikh council maybe? They did release a statement sayin anand karajs r only for sikhs n mix religion marriages at gurdwaras r illegal n wont b tolerated.

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This wont ever stop no matter how much people say it will. We live in a corrupt and greedy world. Plenty of gudwaras still doing mixed marriages in Slough loads of polish and sikh marriages...

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This wont ever stop no matter how much people say it will. We live in a corrupt and greedy world. Plenty of gudwaras still doing mixed marriages in Slough loads of polish and sikh marriages...

Polish is a nationality not a religion: Not Every Sikh is a Punjabi and Not Every Punjabi is a Sikh!

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Polish is a nationality not a religion: Not Every Sikh is a Punjabi and Not Every Punjabi is a Sikh!

So if a muslim pakistani guy and a sikh girl gets married, its different from a polish Christian women getting married to a sikh man. Cmon, fix up... they are both void marriages, both parties are in the wrong. If they want both guys and girls from our community should get married in a registry office.

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This must not be allowed to go ahead. This is a direct contradiction to akal takht rules.

See attached invitation that someone messaged me. Friday 1st may at 9:30 am

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Who's the brave guy/girl showing this wedding card but hiding the name

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Contacted the gurdwara. The wedding is not happening,as it has been cancelled. Mission accaccomplished.

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So if a muslim pakistani guy and a sikh girl gets married, its different from a polish Christian women getting married to a sikh man. Cmon, fix up... they are both void marriages, both parties are in the wrong. If they want both guys and girls from our community should get married in a registry office.

A Polish Christian will have no agenda in converting the girl to gain paradise and have access to 72 virgins in the after life.

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Contacted the gurdwara. The wedding is not happening,as it has been cancelled. Mission accaccomplished.

What really? How did you manage that~!

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Contacted the gurdwara. The wedding is not happening,as it has been cancelled. Mission accaccomplished.

The questions are:

Why did the Gurdwara commitee take the booking in the first place, when they know that this is violation of maryada.

Have they really cancelled the wedding ? Where is the proof ? Are they lying to play down the issue.

If the general sangat didn't find out, I.e: by the card being sent to people on the internet, the Gurdwara would have gone ahead with the wedding.

Outcome ? The committee of Sheperds bush Gurdwara are greedy and corrupt, only interested in generating money rather than satkar and maryada.

They should be reported to the main Sikh bodies and Sikh channels to ask the committee to explain their actions.

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Contacted the gurdwara. The wedding is not happening,as it has been cancelled. Mission accaccomplished.

Understand family who made booking withheld groom's name. When Gurdwara found out cancelled. Groom was Somali Muslim. We can not blame Gurdwara if information is withheld.

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Understand family who made booking withheld groom's name. When Gurdwara found out cancelled. Groom was Somali Muslim. We can not blame Gurdwara if information is withheld.

An apni wanted to marry a bloody somalian? Ive heard it all now!
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The questions are:

Why did the Gurdwara commitee take the booking in the first place, when they know that this is violation of maryada.

Have they really cancelled the wedding ? Where is the proof ? Are they lying to play down the issue.

If the general sangat didn't find out, I.e: by the card being sent to people on the internet, the Gurdwara would have gone ahead with the wedding.

Outcome ? The committee of Sheperds bush Gurdwara are greedy and corrupt, only interested in generating money rather than satkar and maryada.

They should be reported to the main Sikh bodies and Sikh channels to ask the committee to explain their actions.

Not limited to Sheperds Bush. Alice Way Hounslow Gurdwara frequently holds interfaith marriages. These committees are consumed and blinded by Maya. The only time the Gurdwara fills aside from one or two Gurpurabs or a 'famous' Sant/Kirtani in attendance is during weddings. Apart from the Gurughar in South Shields (Newcastle), I cannot think of many others that are not being run like a business. Someone has to pay for the upkeep of these Grand White Elephants..LOL

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How dare you ask such a silly question! They're all totally behind her. They don't want her to ruin her life by being stuck in a loveless, arranged marriage to someone of her cultural and religious background, because, as we all know, love marriages are totally not built on physical attraction, and the love between the two partners in such marriages never fades or wanes at all resulting in no divorces ever. It's a universal truth. And you're an extremist... a God-forsaken terrorist for attacking the beautiful couple on their special, magical day.

/sarcasm

Because arranged marriages between two from the same community are so succesful?

None the less, Im glad this was stopped. If you want to marry outside your religion, go get a court marriage. Hate these liberals trying to enforce their views on religios institutions.

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Understand family who made booking withheld groom's name. When Gurdwara found out cancelled. Groom was Somali Muslim. We can not blame Gurdwara if information is withheld.

Actually it is the Gurdwaras fault, they have a responsibility to ask the right questions especially with something as big as anand karaj bookings.

If they can't even ask simple questions like the name of the bride and groom, and fail to ensure that maryada is upheld, quiet simply they are incompetent and are not doing their jobs properly.

It's negligence and dereliction of duty by the commitee.

Personally I think they were aware of the grooms background and just tried to cash in on a wedding booking, after it back fired they're now trying to cover it up.

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Because arranged marriages between two from the same community are so succesful?

None the less, Im glad this was stopped. If you want to marry outside your religion, go get a court marriage. Hate these liberals trying to enforce their views on religios institutions.

That's the point I was trying to make. Neither are guaranteed to work. But the manner in which people who endorse love marriages seem to behave is as if love unions are bulletproof and everlasting. They refuse to hear anything to the contrary in case it shatters their illusion on these matters.

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Not limited to Sheperds Bush. Alice Way Hounslow Gurdwara frequently holds interfaith marriages. These committees are consumed and blinded by Maya.

It is no co-incidence that both Hounslow and the Central Gurdwara (which, btw hasn't been in 'Shepherds Bush' since the late 1960's despite the name) has committees heavily made up of urban Delhi-ite Sikhs. Hounslow, is by far, the worst. They might as well double up as an official Indian Consulate for West London.

The trouble here is that there's no come-back. There's nothing for the Gurdwaras to be afraid of. It works like this:

  1. They deliberately organise marriages of Sikh girls to non-Sikhs, including Muslims
  2. Then they wait and see if anything happens.
  3. If nobody notices, the wedding goes ahead.
  4. If Sikhs do start to notice, the Gurdwara simply call it off.
  5. And thats it.
  6. The end of the matter.
  7. No come-back. No punishment.
  8. And because there's no come-back they do it again when another family come to arrange a wedding date there.
  9. And then we start all over again from point #2 onwards.

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Is it going ahead? What have we become when our Gurdwaras give the females of our community to them. purtaarn singhs would fight the honour of the other communites girls when the afghans / moguls would kidnapp them... Sorry any committee that does this needs a good hiding

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