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The Giving 'pyar' System In Punjab?


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If it's no obvious, it's the giving of money as pyar, why is this being done? it's annoying. I said to my family there that if we had to do that here in the west we'd never go to relatives houses lol - It's just adding more financial burdens for no reason at all. BAN it!

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I am not a big fan of it either. You feel obliged to do it if there is a kid you are seeing for the first time but then the whole "nahi nahi" drama unfolds.

If you are at the receiving end, you cannot take the money immediately but make a reluctant hoo haa about and then begrudgingly accept it where if no one gave this "pyar" you would slag them off behind them behind their back because they came empty handed.

We have a strange pakhandi Punjabi culture. If you are honest and upfront in your dealings you are a befkoof, however if you do this behnji behnji indirect behaviour it is a good thing.

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Along with money the giving of suits for women and shirt/jacket for men. I never understood why this was done.

On the positive side, we're doing our bit for the economy and medium sized businesses.

After all, we as a community, are single-handedly responsible for ensuring the economic survival of the 'Van Haussen rubbish old fashioned shirt in a box' industry.

If not us for our lainha denha, who else buys those rubbish shirts ?

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The suit business is quite funny

The suit business is mostly funny because we men are an insignificant afterthought. A suit and a shirt are given together. The suit will be a £200 or £300 beautiful latest design / latest fashion suit. The man's shirt laying on top of this lovely suit will be a Van Haussen £3.99 1970's fashion outdated rubbish cheap shirt.

Now, my theory is that they deliberately ensure the shirt is extra rubbish to ensure all's attention is drawn to the extravagence expense gone into the suit beneath it.

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