How To Let Go Of Anger

[SikhSeeker]

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I need help letting go of anger. If i have an arguement with my wife for example it takes me a while to let it go and its getting worse. I end up holding a grudge. How can i let go of the anger or hate?

PPul Chuk Maff

[Guest Sat]

Buddha quote:

'Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else- you are the one who gets burned.'

And why punish and torment yourself. If the other person is in the wrong n u stay calm, remaining u affected reactimg in Truth- Their bull can't affect u n chances are that they'll get upset that they didnt get a reaction from u.

Detach from your wife, but still love her. If you're unattached, then u shouldnt get angry. The cure for the 5 thieves is always Sat.

[savinderpalsingh]

Listen to mool mantar katha by maskeen ji

[das_1]

whilst paat etc is very good you need to address issue of anger

where does the anger come from?

[Bundha]

SikhSeeker,

Anger is part of the 5 vices - Kaam, Karodh, Lobh, Moh and Hunkaar.

Anger is Krodh and there is a reason why it is overpowering you. You need to understand why, only then can you tackle it.

For some it is Kaam or lust. When this emotion overpowers them then they become totally absorbed by it, it is all consuming. People just play with kaam all their lives. Just look at all the lusty old men, they just cannot help it but lust and leer at women, they cannot help it because they don't even know they are doing it, the net has been thrown over them and they have no idea they have been snared!

In the same way some people are lobhi, or greedy. They are greedy for anything and everything and cannot stand it when others are doing well or have things they desire. All through their lives they never ever understand what is happening to them, they go through life greedy, they never find out that they also have been snared!

In the same way, when a person gets angry sometimes he/she does not know why they get angry , they just do, with terrible consequences. But they go through their life ruining their life and those around them, but they never understand why.

These 5 entities are within us to try to stop us from progressing along the Gurus path. As long as one of them has influence over you then you just go round and round in circles all your life within that emotion, be it anger, lust, greet pride/ego.

So, the first step is to recognise their influence. That is the first step. When you argue with your wife and you start to get angry, in your mind step back. Look at the situation, why are you getting angry? Why? Recognise that you are under the influence of Karodh. Then tell your mind, this is not me, this is not what I do, why am I being to aggressive towards my wife who l love? Then step back, remove that anger, be aware of it and remove it, warn it off.

It will not listen to you the first time, or the second time or the third time. But over time it will lessen and you must persevere.

All this can only be done with the blessing of Guru Ji, so in ardas ask Guru Ji to assist you in your battle with the one of the 5 who is most strong with in you. You must take your Guru with you, take your Guru with you and you cannot lose.