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@simran345 Hi, I haven't done my bloods for a long time and haven't got the ones they normally don't check done for longer i think. Years. I will get them checked. I definitely think I should early to bed early to rise. I think I would like to change my mentality. I did have some counselling where I gained information on different thoughts you have and how to change them. Thanks, I feel I have achieved some things, just wish I was a better person? They said if I needed counselling I could go and see them again. I know this is LIFE, I feel stuck in my head.

@Mehtab Singh Thanks, I will try that. I think that's a good idea. I'll try it in my room, safest option :biggrin2:

@savinderpalsingh I do look at Facebook and get the impression that people show off. I don't think Facebook is a good thing. It's not sensitive.

I sometimes feel like I'm desiring dopamine in my head. I think I would be way better off without this desire.

@Wingz23 Thank you very much. :smile2:

Thank you all.

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Aww veer ji! I'm sure your not as bad as your saying you are! Your actually far better because thinking about it so many people do the same things as you have mentioned and feel no guilt etc from it!

First of all you need some uplifting! Stop saying that your 'sad and weird' and think about your good qualities! Your probably going to say that you don't have any but I can pick a few out just by reading your post !

1. your honest ( your admitting your lazy rather than blaming others)

2. you have the ability to admit your mistakes (you look at bad stuff)

3.you know right from wrong ( that messing up your rehat was a bad idea)

4. you have ambition ( 'I wish I was a winner')

5.you've acknowledged the problem and want to change (hence your on this site)

^^^^ i've spotted these without even meeting you ! I could go on but my reply would be too long and you wont read it then haha :D

Now for you to change things! To be honest I think your a brilliant person because you want to change for the good where as many people would juts forget it and adopt bad ways!

okay so firstly-

1. remember that we ALL (including YOU) have the 'spark of the divine' in us. This makes us special no matter what, the only difference is the 'winners' usually let that spark shine!

so how do you do that?

From my personal experience the key to my happiness was amrit vela! However remember it's not only about being awake at amrit vela, its doing the right thing at the right time!

Looking back at myself previously I use to be awake at amrit vela on my phone (think about all the amrit velas I wasted :stupidme: ) however as soon as waheguru ji had pity on me I began doing path- not all of the 5 baaniya just japji sahib and then that was the end of the big bad me and the beginning of the happy me!

So as you said your awake in the middle of the night doing bad stuff why don't you change too ?

2. Begin to think positively! (think from the prospective of Waheguru ji)

So basically what you have to do is keep In mind that whatever God does is for the best but sometimes we just don't see it BUT sometimes we just don't try to see it ! With the grace of waheguru ji I usually try to think about the positive side of my bad outcomes, it helps me feel better about whatever's gone wrong. You should do that too- plus it'll help keep your brain active! so take this post as example, you probably felt very angry and upset whilst writing it but look at all the replies and solutions you've found!

3. Give your self a chance! You said you don't talk much! why? that's probably why you feel so bad, your not letting your feelings out!

So why don't you try saying something good to someone every day or doing something good! YOU might say that you don't like anyone and don't know who do good for ? Do it for yourself- you'll feel happy if you simply just say thanks or just do something little for someone. it'll be helping you more than others. I know sometimes when you try doing good it turns out to be bad but hey-ho that's life and we need to accept it, rather than taking the bad experience to heart take it to the brain and think about what you can do better next time! I know this sound weird but honestly that's what I try and do !

Baki bhul chuk maf I've probably made so many mistakes whilst writing this BUT its okay because I know I was trying to help you! Even if this hasn't helped you I know I was trying to do good so I feel happy as the 'spark of the divine' is shining in me! :)

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Hello bhenji, UsernameTaken.

Today I did realize my failings. Also deep down I know what I should be doing. Amrit vela, 5 bania. It's my own loss. I need to change my mind set. I want more will power. I make sure I'm in bed before 12. Yesterday I made my mother aware of the problem. So now she is aware. I can't believe I look at women in that way. I haven't for days and it has been ocassionally. It's true I don't let my feelings out, well I speak to my mother about my issues mostly. I've been trying to do good deeds. I need to use my brain yep. Now, how am I going to keep getting up at amrit vela. I need motivation. It just doesn't work on my mind. Maybe I need to let it work on my mind, I don't know. But thanks for your reply. I like it when I recieve helpful replies and would like to spend time on this site and see if I can help others too.

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I need to use my brain yep.

Omg! I hope I didn't sound mean! The message I was trying to get across was 'prevention is better than cure' so if you just work out how to avoid situations then you wont be put in a situation where your heart broken. :)

Now, how am I going to keep getting up at amrit vela. I need motivation. It just doesn't work on my mind.

1. become your own motivation!

What I did was, I just went pure selfish, I told myself that if I get up, I'm going to feel happy and my life's going to be awesome. - to be honest I had read and heard quite a few stories about gursikhs who said their life had become magnificent just by waking up at amrit vela. So whenever I thought about being able to get up at amrit vela I would always remember these stories and it kind of motivated me to see for myself. and obviously likewise with anything if you go with a positive attitude you'll receive a positive out come! After getting up at amrit vela i automatically changed from being selfish because my soul felt happy and refreshed which made me kind and caring towards people ( well i hope i am LOL)

Also I remember hearing in the katha once, the gyani singh was saying "jehde kol amrit vela a othe Guru Nanak Saab aap a" so it does have a great importance!

2.make guru ji your motivation

You maybe thinking that i can motivate myself once or twice but not forever , a gursikh once told me that if you do an ardas before Guru sahib after your kirtan sohila and keep faith, he himself will take the responsibility to wake you up. "man beche satgur ke pas tis sewak ke karaj raas" if you sell your mind full of worries to the satguru he will take responsibility to get your jobs done!

So do your Ardas and get Waheguru ji to do the job of your alarm clock to get you up!

Don't worry about perfection because at the beginning before taking amrit i use to get up at amritvela but not have a bath or do my brush, just do my path in the dark and drop back to sleep but did you know, if you step 1 step towards Guru ji he will run 1000 steps towards you? Guru ji is there waiting for you to make a move so he can quickly grab hold of you and never let you go again!

i hope you make your move soon!

May waheguru ji bless you veer ji, i'd be the happiest to hear back good news from you! :)

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Hello Bhenji,

I will do ardas tonight to get up tomorrow at amrit vela. If life can become awesome just by getting up at amrit vela everyday it is worth it. You didn't sound mean when you said take it to the brain. I had read somewhere that a person gets into trouble when they don't use their brain. That was in my head when I was replying.

May Waheguru bless you too.

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Surrender to truth. You are confused for the moment. Noone is Weird- Life and the world is not really how most people see it. There are worlds beyond this one, there are heaven and hell realms, there are ghosts, demi gods and godesses, angels, demons, creatures beyond what we could ever have imagined- some of which i have seen.

So just because u dont fit in with Bullshi society doesnt mean your weird.

Listen to me Clearly. What is weird is the following:

Anger, jealousy, lust, ego, attachment, selfishness, gossip and especially SLANDER- the main disease that most So Called Gursikhs have- and by which Guru Gobind leaves their sides and doesnt return until they have completely Stopped.

You lusting over photos on the Internet Is Weird.

U practicing Truth, going to the Gurdwarra, the Gurus Gate (symbolic of where he sits in the dasam duar in your third eye), doing Amrit Vela- is NORMAL and Good.

Guru Nanak says the people have become demons, that the world is burning. The whole world is gripped by mental illness- they ALL need psychiatrists for their sick thoughts and deeds.

What is Normal is U reaching out and trying to get better. If u really want to get better then stop the porn, its not doing u any favours ans is making u more mentally ill. Maya practice makes people mental- look at celebrity drug addicts and slanderers who become crazy with jealousy and paranoia etc. Never lie, shut your mind up.

Get up at 1am, or just stay awake till then. Do Naam simran for 2.5 hrs, the power of simran is timed by a million at least at these times. Then practice Gurbani and what u have learned in meditation during the day- stay grounded in the truth. Never lie, not even a white lie, avoid bad company, see women (even the ones on the internet) as your sisters and men as your brothers. Gid is in All of them and when u lust after them- your disrespecting God himself. And go to the Gurdwarra at least once a week and practice Gurbani 100% Then teach what u learn in meditation and during the day to others.

Naam cures mental illness Easily- I have Seen It Happen.

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