Going To A Party?!

[Guest Super Sengh]

My best friend for the whole of high school is having a sweet 16th party. I know that they will be drinking and smoking weed which I know will ring alarm bells in our heads. But it wont be the same if I dont go. So should I go but not do anything bad and be the 'designated driver'. Its his special day but I really dont want to get mixed in with the wrong crowd. What should I do sangat ? Please help

[jkvlondon]

My best friend for the whole of high school is having a sweet 16th party. I know that they will be drinking and smoking weed which I know will ring alarm bells in our heads. But it wont be the same if I dont go. So should I go but not do anything bad and be the 'designated driver'. Its his special day but I really dont want to get mixed in with the wrong crowd. What should I do sangat ? Please help

Maybe do something to commerate his big birthday just the two of you , I'm sure if you explain to him about your feelings he would understand ...

[Guest Guest]

But think, you go to Indian wedding parties where their is alcohol and meat- so what is the difference?

Go to your friend's party. Just because someone else is drinking alcohol or smoking weed, it doesn't mean you will too. You should go. Don't be a designated drive, be a friend and enjoy yourself (within reason) and come home.

People will say you cannot go, or you shouldn't go and that you will be in the wrong crowd but you're going for your friend. One can only be taken in to the wrong crowd if one allows themselves to get in the crowd. Remember your sikhi roots and you will be fine.

[singhbj singh]

Best thing to do is avoid such parties.

Things usually go crazy when people are high on booze & weed.

So skip it & give him a cool gift later.

[Mehtab Singh]

Call him a few hours before the party is about to start and say you can't stop running to the toilet, so won't be able to make it.

Always works!

[Mehtab Singh]

Call him up

ਹੈਲੋ! ਹਾਂ ਜੀਤੇ, ਯਾਰ ਆ ਸਾਲੀ ਟੱਟੀਆਂ ਨਹੀਂ ਬੰਦ ਹੁੰਦੀਆਂ ਵੀਰੇ, ਢਿੱਡ ਲੀਰੋ ਲੀਰ ਕਰਤਾ ਤੇਰੇ ਦੋਸਤ ਦਾ, ਨਹੀਂ ਤੇ ਤੇਰੀ ਪਾਰਟੀ ਮੈਂ ਮਿਸ ਕਰਾਂ, ਕੱਦੇ ਵੀ ਨਹੀਂ !

End of story!

[jkvlondon]

Call him up

ਹੈਲੋ! ਹਾਂ ਜੀਤੇ, ਯਾਰ ਆ ਸਾਲੀ ਟੱਟੀਆਂ ਨਹੀਂ ਬੰਦ ਹੁੰਦੀਆਂ ਵੀਰੇ, ਢਿੱਡ ਲੀਰੋ ਲੀਰ ਕਰਤਾ ਤੇਰੇ ਦੋਸਤ ਦਾ, ਨਹੀਂ ਤੇ ਤੇਰੀ ਪਾਰਟੀ ਮੈਂ ਮਿਸ ਕਰਾਂ, ਕੱਦੇ ਵੀ ਨਹੀਂ !

End of story!

Man ,

sach kithe ? Gursikh nu farz aa sach vich jindagi betauna ...speak your truth, trust your Guru and your friendship will be honoured by it

[Mehtab Singh]

You're right bhenji, but he doesn't want to upset his friend. If the guy can take a stand and say I won't come coz I am a Sikh, then more power to him! :D

[jkvlondon]

You're right bhenji, but he doesn't want to upset his friend. If the guy can take a stand and say I won't come coz I am a Sikh, then more power to him! :D

that's why I suggested a private commeration maybe go paintballing, windsurfing, rockclimbing, gocarting, even doing driving (took my boys and their mates for driving experience with 'young driver' program (I think silverstone runs one too) or sommat you know manly stuff :happy2:

[S4NGH]

unless ur in a completely seperate room to the weed smokers, u'll be smoking too...whether the spliff is to ur lips or not :blink2:

so if ur up for a spliff, head on down. if not, tell ur friend its not ur scene and u'll see him another time! BOOM! :biggrin2: its never easy being the party pooper. just dont lie to him :nono: