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I'm a male, 17yrs old. I don't know what to do - I live with a secret and it makes me feel terrible. I know I can't tell anyone but at the same time I'm worried and I really stopped enjoying my life recently :(

So the story is: My really good friend (not sikh) is constalntly cheating on his girlfriend - a beautiful, honest, wise, godfearing sikh women. I promised him not to tell anyone but my heart just breaks every time I look at them together - she seems so in love yet he is such a bad person...

I told him that he has to stop but he says he won't... And now I don't know what to do.

I consider him as a friend but she doesn't deserve that

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First world problems.

In India Singhs are locked up for years in jail without reason, Bhai Gurbaksh Singh has not eaten for a month, and you feel sad because some teenage girl is having a premarital relationship (against Gurmat to start with) and the guy isn't faithful?

Please go.

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I'm a male, 17yrs old. I don't know what to do - I live with a secret and it makes me feel terrible. I know I can't tell anyone but at the same time I'm worried and I really stopped enjoying my life recently :(

So the story is: My really good friend (not sikh) is constalntly cheating on his girlfriend - a beautiful, honest, wise, godfearing sikh women. I promised him not to tell anyone but my heart just breaks every time I look at them together - she seems so in love yet he is such a bad person...

I told him that he has to stop but he says he won't... And now I don't know what to do.

I consider him as a friend but she doesn't deserve that

Do the right thing and tell her.
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Firsty I don't believe dating is against sikhi. More over, just tell the girl. I had a good friend who tried using another girl for sex but I felt that it was my duty as a Singh to warn the girl of his intentions. I lost the friend but I saved an innocent girl from being used. Likewise this isn't right so just tell the girl in my opinion

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He isnt your friend if he is doing that is he? Are you a Sikh? If you are, why haven't you stopped this already? It could be your sister.

Guess you never thought about that.

Do the right thing and not go along with what others are doing. If its hurting your soul stop it and that's good sign you are realising Wats right and Wats wrong. Shows u have humanity inside you.

Tell her he is cheating on her, and how bad he is, nobody else is going to do it for you.

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I'm a male, 17yrs old. I don't know what to do - I live with a secret and it makes me feel terrible. I know I can't tell anyone but at the same time I'm worried and I really stopped enjoying my life recently :(

So the story is: My really good friend (not sikh) is constalntly cheating on his girlfriend - a beautiful, honest, wise, godfearing sikh women. I promised him not to tell anyone but my heart just breaks every time I look at them together - she seems so in love yet he is such a bad person...

I told him that he has to stop but he says he won't... And now I don't know what to do.

I consider him as a friend but she doesn't deserve that

Why are you worried about them, just concentrate on your life & future.

If they are having a relationship outside marriage then they both will pay for it as per Dharma.

Change your friend circle, hangout with decent people.

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