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Okay let me explain quite a long time ago i was sexually touched up by someone i knew. it really did mess with my head in so many different ways. i cant seem to stop getting bad thoughts in my head and i think you can kind of gather which thoughts they are, i have a very big problem with constatly daydreaming, i know this sounds crazy but i daydrream all the time and it is really bad! i do have anxiety and depression but its not a thing where it has been diasgnosed. im finding it very difficult to feel normal and im so afraid hat one day i will just explode or somthing bad will happen. my head does not feel right at all.

has anyone else been through something like this? becuase im feeling really lonley right now i dont even have alot going on in my life right now... Please help

Serious answers please. Thanks in advance

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WaheguruJiKaKhalsa!!WaheguruJiKiFateh!!

i dont know if you're penji or paaji.

so i will assume you are a guy

follow these steps to awaken your conciousness

1) stop watching TV - movies that make you day dream or even a slights shift in your concentration .

2) listen more to kirtan - katha . keep yourself occupied

3) do any path japji sahib jaap sahib or which ever you feel like and do an ardas from heart to Guru Granth Sahib ji maharaj , while doing ardas imagine all 10 guru's infront of you . feel them with your heart for our eyes are blind and we cannot see them but they are real and present always

4) always imagine Guru sahib with you

5) when ever you are free try to do Simran of Gurmantar inside or moolmantar

6) as Guru Gobind Singh ji states - recognise all women as mother daughter and sister. except your wife

7) if you feel women apear make you have bad thoughts , simply turn your vision down to their feet and do not look at them .

8) controll your mind . when ever you think of bad , think Guru is watching and is on your side look at you committ it .

9) avoid touching any females even handshakes.

take control of yourself ,

remember your must DETOXIFY your inner with Gurbani listen to it more and refrain from doing anything.

anytime you have bad thoughts think of Guru beside you and ask for forgiveness right there .

just remember no matter how much sweet it mayseem

ITS NOT WORTH IT.

hope it helps

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Thankyou for your support

im not sure i can go to a professional becuase im sure if you tell them something like this its a breach of confidentiality and then they have to tell someone. i have tried telling my family but they are so difficult to talk to i trid telling them once before that i had anxiety and depression and they just didnt listen. i dont really have their support on this. becuase i have anxiety and depression it stops me form doing a lot.

@ to savinderpal Ji im a young woman. i do listen to kirtan and i do attend gurdwara all the time. but even then my thoughts seem to wonder. i reallly cannot concentrate aymore. i get such negative thoughts. sometimes i wont want to listen to kirtan and i dont know why. its like my thoughts just stop me from doing so. i dont feela connection to anything nomore. its really difficult to deal with whats happening

im sorry if it doesnt make that much sense

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Is this a case of you being unsure of lust and pursuing a relationship which had one thing lead to another involving touching or is this where someone you knew violated your trust and without your consent groped you? The two can be addressed differently. If it's the first then it's a matter of true introspection asking your heart what to do and if it's the second it's advisable to speak to professionals who can speak to you about dealing with sexual assault of that form.

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Is this a case of you being unsure of lust and pursuing a relationship which had one thing lead to another involving touching or is this where someone you knew violated your trust and without your consent groped you? The two can be addressed differently. If it's the first then it's a matter of true introspection asking your heart what to do and if it's the second it's advisable to speak to professionals who can speak to you about dealing with sexual assault of that form.

I agree, these are two different issues as mentioned above.

Somehow, i gather that as well as emotional scarring, the trust and faith you had in someone has caused some mental trauma.

Anyhow, whats done is done and what happened, has happened. It's VERY important to dealing with the results/outcome/ and situation you are facing at the moment. This should be your priority because this is something that you CAN change, compared to the past.

It seems like this mental trauma is what is giving you problems with concentration and attention.

The anxiety and depression are there, but they are more underlying under some layers which makes it difficult to diagnose and for others to pick up or see

It sounds like you seem to be mentally lost all the while.

With this i mean.........I bet you can't sit down and watch a full 2-2.5hr movie, ......can't multi-task like making a simple cup of coffee and having a conversation at the same time.......You probably avoid getting into arguments or trying to explain yourself, and you probably set yourself time or free space to do some good like praying, paath, seva..etc.... but you can't motivate your mind to get moving....!

Therefore, others probably assume or think that you are just lazy and bored but not stressed/depressed.

If what i have mentioned fits the picture a little, then you should start making a diary log of what you tried to do.... and what happened instead, or the examples of concentration and difficulty you experience. Once you have these logged on paper, it will be much easier for a professional counselor to refer further and/or diagnose.

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