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Sat Sri Akal Ji!

I was searching on the above topic to prep for my case, to present to the Judge, how Sikhs look at adultery.

As sikh we are thought to be faithful only, but what happen if one of the partner commit adultery?

How is it should be handled in Sikh Maryada?

My case, I went to India to get married as professional living in US, I was cornered in every direction and strangely with my own relative. (crazy).

After getting married (Lava), the girl was acting strange, I'm not accustom to indian/punjabi culture and I thought its normal in arranged married.

Fast forward she arrives in USA, pregnant, she told me it was my baby, she leaves me when the baby was 1 month old after making false allegation of domestic violence (I was locked up while she sweep my belongings). Her family keep saying she's going thru something and will be back, soon they stop picking my calls.

I decided to file for divorce and requested paternity test, which resulted zero probability of me being biological father.

In one of our court battles, she claims that she had extra marital affair when she was in India, the reason was she was lonely. (I think, she's full of sh**, she had a plan and she had lover, I was just her ticket to US, anyway)

I'm trying to research a respond how do we look at adultery in sikhi and the consequences of adultery in sikhi.

If someone is found committing adultery how do you handle the situation in Sikhism.

Do we gather the community leaders or family involve or just behead the cheating partner with kirpan (I will prefer sawing off the head, more agonizing).

But really, do we have rules, how do we handle the estates, financials and how do you know if the partner genuine and regret about their mistakes (I'm not referring to my soon to be ex wife), how or what should be proper methods or way, beside of western court.

Muslims have their syriah law. Catholics have their own something..what about sikh. Thanks

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Gurfateh ji

Maharaj also says the small time the persone commiting adultery has pleasure he/she will suffer thousands of days of hell.

Also commiting adultry before marriage is a bajjar kureit on which an Amritdhari Singh/Singhni must re-take amrit from panj pyareh via Peshi (amrit ceremony for retakers.) and in which they tell the panj pyareh and they do ardaas and then take amrit again.

So long story short yes your ex-wife will pay for what she has done ever this janam or the next.

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Mohkam Singh and Mrkhalsa, do you define adultery as the physical act only?

Im just thinking of Jesus saying fornication in the mind is as in the flesh.

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Mohkam Singh and Mrkhalsa, do you define adultery as the physical act only?Im just thinking of Jesus saying fornication in the mind is as in the flesh.

Kaami desires; whether physical or in the mind, will lead to narak. If one dies with Kaami thoughts on the mind, then they will get the joon of veshva. Any physical indulgence of adultery; pollutes the mind, and gives rise to punishment by Dharm Raja...

Waheguru...

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Gurfateh ji

Maharaj also says the small time the persone commiting adultery has pleasure he/she will suffer thousands of days of hell.

Also commiting adultry before marriage is a bajjar kureit on which an Amritdhari Singh/Singhni must re-take amrit from panj pyareh via Peshi (amrit ceremony for retakers.) and in which they tell the panj pyareh and they do ardaas and then take amrit again.

So long story short yes your ex-wife will pay for what she has done ever this janam or the next.

Per its definition, adultery can never occur before marriage. Illicit relations can occur between unmarried people; adultery cannot.

And, no, I've done either. :omg:

Although, what's the concensus (in terms of Sikhi or even Panjabi culture) on an engaged female (or male) partaking in physical relations with someone other than their intended? That's really poor isn't it?

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Sat Sri Akal Ji!

I was searching on the above topic to prep for my case, to present to the Judge, how Sikhs look at adultery.

As sikh we are thought to be faithful only, but what happen if one of the partner commit adultery?

How is it should be handled in Sikh Maryada?

My case, I went to India to get married as professional living in US, I was cornered in every direction and strangely with my own relative. (crazy).

After getting married (Lava), the girl was acting strange, I'm not accustom to indian/punjabi culture and I thought its normal in arranged married.

Fast forward she arrives in USA, pregnant, she told me it was my baby, she leaves me when the baby was 1 month old after making false allegation of domestic violence (I was locked up while she sweep my belongings). Her family keep saying she's going thru something and will be back, soon they stop picking my calls.

I decided to file for divorce and requested paternity test, which resulted zero probability of me being biological father.

In one of our court battles, she claims that she had extra marital affair when she was in India, the reason was she was lonely. (I think, she's full of sh**, she had a plan and she had lover, I was just her ticket to US, anyway)

I'm trying to research a respond how do we look at adultery in sikhi and the consequences of adultery in sikhi.

If someone is found committing adultery how do you handle the situation in Sikhism.

Do we gather the community leaders or family involve or just behead the cheating partner with kirpan (I will prefer sawing off the head, more agonizing).

But really, do we have rules, how do we handle the estates, financials and how do you know if the partner genuine and regret about their mistakes (I'm not referring to my soon to be ex wife), how or what should be proper methods or way, beside of western court.

Muslims have their syriah law. Catholics have their own something..what about sikh. Thanks

I just can't believe someone can do that. I am also working in the US and my parents are trying to arrange a marriage. How do you get to know someone is not using you as a piggy back to come to US? No way. Hard to peep into someone's brain. Girls in India nowdays are too cunning, even Sikh girls.

My views - Having a physical relationship after marriage is so bad. Honestly, we have always been taught not to indulge in all this. As a result, I never followed girls and now I am 27 and my parents are trying to find me a bride. All my friends were having fun while they were 19-20 while I used to say them its not good. Are we as sikhs too backward to accept premarital relationship ? Also, I have this fear in mind that the bride my parents will arrange may have have had boyfriends/ physical relationship with other people before marriage while I never did that. May be I am too old fashioned.

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I just can't believe someone can do that. I am also working in the US and my parents are trying to arrange a marriage. How do you get to know someone is not using you as a piggy back to come to US? No way. Hard to peep into someone's brain. Girls in India nowdays are too cunning, even Sikh girls.

My views - Having a physical relationship after marriage is so bad. Honestly, we have always been taught not to indulge in all this. As a result, I never followed girls and now I am 27 and my parents are trying to find me a bride. All my friends were having fun while they were 19-20 while I used to say them its not good. Are we as sikhs too backward to accept premarital relationship ? Also, I have this fear in mind that the bride my parents will arrange may have have had boyfriends/ physical relationship with other people before marriage while I never did that. May be I am too old fashioned.

No bro, you are NOT too old fashioned. Live honourably and the right girl will love you and respect you for holding onto your principles.

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Adulterors go to hell. People don't realise the demons that await us and even come to us while we're alive. Trust if people knew what is out there they wouldn't even think twice about committing adultery- even lusting after someone who is in a relationship before marriage is bad enough.

The thing is that the devil loves fooling people into believing he doesn't exist so many people live thinking there will be no consequences for their actions- until it's too late.

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Hold on, do we as Sikhs believe in a devil? I know there's jamdoots, kalyug etc., but no one has really mentioned a devil before. If so, how is devil defined?

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Hi, I have had a similar experience, with some variations.I didn't have such compelling evidence. I am a Sindhi , my family is Hindu but we are sufi, sufiway.org/about-us/the-origins-of-sufism .During the partetion many of my elders found refuge with the Gurus and so we believe with the teachings and follow them. Anyhow I was married as per Sikh laws " LAVA" . After this experience I too felt or feel the need to search for Answers. Since we are Sufi we are free to search for peace in any faith. Upon searching I have found that Islam has the most complete laws for matrimonial issues. Having said that ,it is also one of the most toughest religions to follow faithfully.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Divorce_in_Islam

For my particular situation , if I was Muslim I would have divorced by the process of Li an

Also during this time I have also found that this piggy backing is more common than anyone could imagine. One hear's stories all the time but never imagines it could happen to you. Until it does and it is devestating, traumatic, painful, and leaves life long scars.

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Indeed this sort of thing is pretty common. What's worse is the Punjabi community in general (not all people but a good amount) are now turning marriage into a buisness deal. Marry a girl/guy from India to get them here and then divorce them if need be. Sometimes this is done for either cash or some sort of benefit.

Hold on, do we as Sikhs believe in a devil? I know there's jamdoots, kalyug etc., but no one has really mentioned a devil before. If so, how is devil defined?

I've never heard of a "devil" being mentioned. This is if we're speaking about one like the one in Christianity or Islam.

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