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Why Do All Marriages Between Sikh Women And Non-Sikh Men End In Divorce?


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4 minutes ago, Jacfsing2 said:

This goes 2 ways. From Daas's personal experience from when I went to school, a lot of Non-Sikh girls were interested in seeing Daas as some guy that was seen in the same way Non-Sikhs look at pieces of steak. Women are attracted to what they are not, or the uniqueness, (and Daas was the only Sikh guy at school in a relatively Conservative part of the U.S.), the lesson of atttactiveness is don't be like the people who like you.

Forget school. Wait till you are in grown world. 

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34 minutes ago, dallysingh101 said:

Forget school. Wait till you are in grown world. 

How late into the real world are you referring to? College, Work, or even later? (Daas is pretty young, but not s complete child)

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17 minutes ago, Preeet said:

Yeah, so that means they are not Sikh anymore because it is one of the 4 kurehits to have yaari.

Your strategy of thinking anyone who doesn't conform to your notion of what Sikh can be, or being wayward can be dealt with by pretending they are nothing to do with the panth is crap. 

If we have problems in our community, or discipline issues, it's our societies job to deal with it and provide structure and support in some way - not summarily dismiss them. Id1ots tried that with the grooming issue and that just made it hundreds of times worse. 

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13 hours ago, Jacfsing2 said:

How late into the real world are you referring to? College, Work, or even later? (Daas is pretty young, but not s complete child)

No disrespect, but wait till you are a man with a good few years experience of working in wider society. Then you'll have some genuine experience to base your opinions upon. Right now, it sounds like you don't get out much and spend most of your spare time online.

 

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Mostly marriages be racial or interracial do not work, because of the weakness, either of one or both the parties.

As their union is based on kaam vaasna.

This kaam vaasna is natural to an extent, but the main thing is to be clear and sure on how we should mould our lives and live accordingly with Gurmat.

Ups and downs are certain in our lives, but if our base is strong in sikhee, we can face anything in our lives.

And being strong in sikhee means, living sikhee as per the pure teachings of Guru Sahiban.

If we just take birth in a sikh family and may know wholeheartedly the Bani, then we are just sikhs on the surface, while at the bottom of  our beings we are severe manmukhs.

Now if this is our case, and we marry someone out of our  "kaum", accidents are sure to happen.

Marriage by itself is not to give freedom to our selfish kaamee instincts, and in trying satisfying them; rather in being human beings and being helpful to our spouses and children if any, with the best of our abilities.

Along with that attitude, bhajan bandagee should be included regularly in our daily lives, then only will we develope inner strength, and be ready to stay in His bhaana  with whatever circumstances we may find ourselves.

Sat Sree Akal.

 

 

 

 

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21 minutes ago, dallysingh101 said:

Your strategy of thinking anyone who doesn't conform to your notion of what Sikh can be, or being wayward can be dealt with by pretending they are nothing to do with the panth is crap. 

If we have problems in our community, or discipline issues, it's our societies job to deal with it and provide structure and support in some way - not summarily dismiss them. Id1ots tried that with the grooming issue and that just made it hundreds of times worse. 

Anyone amritdhari Sikh that marries a non Sikh is not an amritdhari anymore. You can still provide love and support to that individual, but the reality in terms of Sikhi is that they're not an amritdhari. The same applies to a male amritdhari that marries a non-Sikh. 

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2 minutes ago, Berserk said:

Anyone amritdhari Sikh that marries a non Sikh is not an amritdhari anymore. You can still provide love and support to that individual, but the reality in terms of Sikhi is that they're not an amritdhari. The same applies to a male amritdhari that marries a non-Sikh. 

I agree, then we have to get to the question of: Is Amritdhari the only Sikh identity. 

And I think a lot of us will have to agree to disagree on that one. 

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1 hour ago, dallysingh101 said:

No disrespect, but wait till you are a man with a good few years experience of working in wider society. Then you'll have some genuine experience to base your opinions upon. Right now, it sounds like you don't get out much and spend most of your spare time online.

Can you explain why some men in Turbans, (not Amritdharis, maybe Keshdhari?), are married to Non-Sikh women, (not seen a lot, but a few do exist in a few Gurdwaras), and if it isn't for our skin color then why would these women have an interest in marrying some Sardar? (Personally still on the whole "Sikh-Supremacy" side of things).

44 minutes ago, Berserk said:

Anyone amritdhari Sikh that marries a non Sikh is not an amritdhari anymore. You can still provide love and support to that individual, but the reality in terms of Sikhi is that they're not an amritdhari. The same applies to a male amritdhari that marries a non-Sikh. 

How could someone claim to love their spouse if they aren't willing to share the greatness of Dhan Dhan Sri Guru Nanak Dev Ji? He is the greatest there ever was and the only way to Sach Khand and the only one who can grant us anything. Which is exactly why if a Sikh loves a Non-Sikh they should totally convert them.

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31 minutes ago, Jacfsing2 said:

Can you explain why some men in Turbans, (not Amritdharis, maybe Keshdhari?), are married to Non-Sikh women, (not seen a lot, but a few do exist in a few Gurdwaras), and if it isn't for our skin color then why would these women have an interest in marrying some Sardar? (Personally still on the whole "Sikh-Supremacy" side of things).

How could someone claim to love their spouse if they aren't willing to share the greatness of Dhan Dhan Sri Guru Nanak Dev Ji? He is the greatest there ever was and the only way to Sach Khand and the only one who can grant us anything. Which is exactly why if a Sikh loves a Non-Sikh they should totally convert them.

Lel how can you be sure they are going to convert from their heart? You're likely going to just invite trouble in your life (and your children).  I'm assuming you're young, you don't need to be worrying about marriage right now. 

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