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Why Are So Called 'apniya' Girls Dating Non Sikhs?

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why are Sikh girls going off with men of different races? Why are they dating Pakistani men, what is wrong with Sikh men? Why do Pakistani girls stick with palkistani men? What are the root causes to our problem, how can we tackle it? The way things are going Sikhs are going to become so tiny in minority, look how strong muslims have become by sticking with their own. Why are gudwaras letting Sikh girls get married to blacks and whites? Whats so special about blacks and whites compared with Sikhs? How can they say that they are Sikhs and kids will be Sikh when they marry out of sikhi? Do they not think about their parents and ancestors? Do they not think about their guruji? Whats so unattractive about Sikhs, a lot are good looking..

All these things the other way round are a problem too e.g men

This frustrates me.

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Muslim women do date and fool around non-Muslim men, but however, Muslim girls aren't open about it compare to non-Muslim women. Muslim women who don't date non-Muslim because fear being killed by their families if they ever found out.

There's nothing wrong with interracial marriage as long both partners are Sikhs.

What's your view on Sikh guys dating/marrying non-Sikh women? I am sure this happens a lot more than Sikh girls dating non-Sikh men.

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Nothing wrong going out with black, white, yellow or red as long as both are same religion.

Don't mix races and religion. Inter-racial marriages are ok but inter-religion marriages have lot more challenges than one wants to face in a marriage.

We need pre-marital counseling by an educated Granthi Singh for such (inter-religion) couples when they come to seek bookings for Anand-kaaraj in Gurdwara. One of them should convert before getting married. Sikhi is not necessarily everyone's bhaag especially if she/he was not raised with Sikhi values. Mere being born to Sikh parents do not make a person Sikh.

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why are Sikh girls going off with men of different races? Why are they dating Pakistani men, what is wrong with Sikh men? Why do Pakistani girls stick with palkistani men? What are the root causes to our problem, how can we tackle it? The way things are going Sikhs are going to become so tiny in minority, look how strong muslims have become by sticking with their own. Why are gudwaras letting Sikh girls get married to blacks and whites? Whats so special about blacks and whites compared with Sikhs? How can they say that they are Sikhs and kids will be Sikh when they marry out of sikhi? Do they not think about their parents and ancestors? Do they not think about their guruji? Whats so unattractive about Sikhs, a lot are good looking..

All these things the other way round are a problem too e.g men

This frustrates me.

In all honesty you sound like one of the guys who can't get a date !! :lol2:

This is the sort of stuff I would always hear from the college guys that were desperate for a date with an apni !

Come on, forget about it and concentrate on what you really want and really need in life.

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