I Have No Friends

[ekgurjaskhalsa]

First of all, DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT SUICIDE :nono:

I can feel you as many of us have gone through the same as you have. Being only person wearing Dumalla at my University, I have got looks from people and I also don't have any real friends. I have felt as isolated as you but let me tell you this... SANGAT does magic... Start going to your local gurdwara everyday whenever you are free. Start doing Seva and attend all the smagams/simran/katha...There might not be smagam in your local gurdwara but there might other gurdwaras where there are regular smagams. Inquire about that.. The good source is your local gurdwara. Ask them if they have gatka team or if they know any other gurdwara which has... Join the team and I am positive you will meet people your age and they will be happy to be your friend. Above all, try to connect with Guru. :waheguru: "charan sharan gur ek painda jaye chal, satguru kot painda agge hoye lait hainn"He will guide you in life. I would love to be your friend. :smile2:

[Gurpreet14]

Hey will be my friend?

N yeah tall guys r always handsome dear :D

[Wingz23]

N yeah tall guys r always handsome dear :D

AGGGRRREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEED! :D :D :D

[N30S1NGH]

Your inner real self is your true best freind..!!

As far sangat goes stay in elder mature gursikhs and stay in sangat of mahapursh for further guidance. I myself have four friends in total in real life (two of them are monai)..i am pretty happy..even then i meet them rarely..local people hardly knows me..i hardly know them...more solitude the better if you want to get into bhagti. ..pro-actively meeting people or friends is last thing on my mind..after work i cannot wait to spend time with my mind - observe my thoughts - mediate...everything is do with your perception, in your perceptive thought world appears and on the reverse..in meditative contemplative thoughts there is nothing- no world, no freind, no foe, no problems..everything fold itself back in ongkar!!!!!!!

Here is atam updesh from sant isher singh ji rara sahib wale:

source: http://www.rarasahib.com/Isher3.htm

Self Percept (Atam Updesh)Why are you so engrossed in worries? Why are you afraid of some one? Who may kill you? The soul is immortal; it neither dies nor takes birth.

The present is here and now, the past is irrecoverable and the future will be good. Don't fret over the past and don't be worried about the future. The present is going on.

Why do you cry? What did you lose? When you were born, what did you bring along, which has been lost? What did you produce which has been perished? It is here that you gained and it is here that you lose. The man comes to; and goes from world, empty handed.

What you own today was not yours yesterday and will not be yours tomorrow. It does not and will not belong to anyone. You consider it your own and rejoice. This happiness of possession leads you to utter grief.

Yours is this world. Start from where you feel to; stay where you desire and wind up where you want to. It has no beginning and no end. You don't fear anyone, but yourself. You are the fright and also the frightened.

Change is the truth of life. What you consider as death is life in reality. In a moment a multi-millionaire is turned pauper. Give up the feeling of possession, great & the mean; differentiation of friend & foe. Then all is yours and you for everyone. Your corporeal being is a product of air, water and fire and it merges into the same leaving behind neither blood nor bones. Still yours existence remains the same. Then ponder over what you are.

Wake up! and become the eternal sons of the Almighty. You are the great and unique manifestation of Nature's power. All the divine powers are possessed by you, like a tree hidden in the seed.

In fact you don't fear anybody; you don't have any worry, suspicion, pain or grief. You are His dear ones. Surrender yourself completely to Him.

Always, remember the "Waheguru" (God) to achieve salvation. Let your life be guided by the saying "Whatever God wills, is good". Be content with the will of God. Remember Him both in pleasure & pain.

Compiled by His Holiness Sant Isher Singh Ji Maharaj

[GKaur1315]

Your inner real self is your true best freind..!!

As far sangat goes stay in elder mature gursikhs and stay in sangat of mahapursh for further guidance. I myself have four friends in total in real life (two of them are monai)..i am pretty happy..even then i meet them rarely..local people hardly knows me..i hardly know them...more solitude the better if you want to get into bhagti. ..pro-actively meeting people or friends is last thing on my mind..after work i cannot wait to spend time with my mind - observe my thoughts - mediate...everything is do with your perception, in your perceptive thought world appears and on the reverse..in meditative contemplative thoughts there is nothing- no world, no freind, no foe, no problems..everything fold itself back in ongkar!!!!!!!

Here is atam updesh from sant isher singh ji rara sahib wale:

source: http://www.rarasahib.com/Isher3.htm

Self Percept (Atam Updesh)Why are you so engrossed in worries? Why are you afraid of some one? Who may kill you? The soul is immortal; it neither dies nor takes birth.

The present is here and now, the past is irrecoverable and the future will be good. Don't fret over the past and don't be worried about the future. The present is going on.

Why do you cry? What did you lose? When you were born, what did you bring along, which has been lost? What did you produce which has been perished? It is here that you gained and it is here that you lose. The man comes to; and goes from world, empty handed.

What you own today was not yours yesterday and will not be yours tomorrow. It does not and will not belong to anyone. You consider it your own and rejoice. This happiness of possession leads you to utter grief.

Yours is this world. Start from where you feel to; stay where you desire and wind up where you want to. It has no beginning and no end. You don't fear anyone, but yourself. You are the fright and also the frightened.

Change is the truth of life. What you consider as death is life in reality. In a moment a multi-millionaire is turned pauper. Give up the feeling of possession, great & the mean; differentiation of friend & foe. Then all is yours and you for everyone. Your corporeal being is a product of air, water and fire and it merges into the same leaving behind neither blood nor bones. Still yours existence remains the same. Then ponder over what you are.

Wake up! and become the eternal sons of the Almighty. You are the great and unique manifestation of Nature's power. All the divine powers are possessed by you, like a tree hidden in the seed.

In fact you don't fear anybody; you don't have any worry, suspicion, pain or grief. You are His dear ones. Surrender yourself completely to Him.

Always, remember the "Waheguru" (God) to achieve salvation. Let your life be guided by the saying "Whatever God wills, is good". Be content with the will of God. Remember Him both in pleasure & pain.

Compiled by His Holiness Sant Isher Singh Ji Maharaj

WOW! I think this last thing just helped fix my own issues. THANK YOU!