what exactly is considered as Nindya

[scooter]

I am bit confused what is Nindya.

I mean suppose someone has committed a murder and i am telling to my friends that he commited a murder so he has done a wrong thing.

He should not have commited that.

Is that a Nindya

Suppose some is not obeying the rules as per Gurskihi. Talking with other gurskihs that he is doing wrong . he should have done this way.

is that also a Nindya

[Swati]

Very interesting question, i think talking ill behind one's back is what i personally think would be nindya

For example abusing someone

[Wicked Warrior]

I've always seen it as essentially gossiping or b*tching about someone , sl*gging them off to others.

With the first example, I wouldn't class it as nindya if you said someone murdered someone else and that it was a bad thing but if you then called them a bad person, that's like doing nindya.

Guru teaches us that people are not bad - we come from the same Light but it's just their actions that are good or bad.

Like Batman says: It's not who I am underneath but what I do that defines me.

[1Khalsa]

If you call a rose a thorn that is nindiya

If you call a thorn a thorn that is just the truth

If you call a thorn a rose that’s just a lie

Hence you are telling your friend the truth that a murderer is a murderer, but exaggerating the truth can be considered as ninidya because you are using your own mindset to dishonour that person to what he already is.

But we should try our best to say sweet things about everybody.

ni(n)dhak ni(n)dhaa kar mal dhhovai ouhu malabhakh maaeiaadhhaaree ||
By slandering, the slanderer washes the filth off others; he is an eater of filth, and a worshipper of Maya.

[MokhamSingh]

I am bit confused what is Nindya.

I mean suppose someone has committed a murder and i am telling to my friends that he commited a murder so he has done a wrong thing.

He should not have commited that.

Is that a Nindya

Suppose some is not obeying the rules as per Gurskihi. Talking with other gurskihs that he is doing wrong . he should have done this way.

is that also a Nindya

Khalsa Ji.

The best explanation of nindya and the importance of refraing from nindya that I was given was that:

When we slander/slag someone in order to make them look small and ourselves big then that is nindya. When a Nitnemi person does nindya then the phall {fruition} of that days Nitnem gets passed onto the person being slandered. When a non-Nitnemi person does nindya then he/she carries the burden of the paap phall of the person being slandered.

Talking about current events or what is happening around us is not nindya as long as our intention is not to make ourselves look better than anyone else. It's nindya when we aim to belittle someone else.

When a friend engages in wrong doing then take them to one side and try to explain to them the consequences of their actions. If the person continues with their wrong doing do not do their nindya , do ardas that Waheguru shows them the error of their ways.

Waheguru.