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My beard is long so I tie it up when I have to. As for trim I could never do that. Just say Vaheguru when you think of trimming your beard and let him take care of you.

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jithe hove manmat..uthe fe ki kare Gurmat...........

when your heart is pure and clean ..you will accept everything that god gives us...and sikhism is simply , A way of achieving the god through Gurus..

sikhi is very simple..don't make it complicated ...

I was monah..I guess I had clean and pure heart that's why later, I accepted everything that our Gurus Asked from us..

one thing more ..If you do it for own sikh Girls if you think they don't like you Then let me make you sure that There are many other girls who like Guys with long beard and turban

last day. Leave everything but don't lose Gurus......BECAUSE THEY HAVE DONE SUCH THINGS WE SIKH CAN NEVER PAY THEIR "LEKHAA" at any cost..

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Myself, as the only Sikh in the whole school district, I keep my appearance as it is no matter what. If you trim your beard you are putting yourself further way from Guru ji even if your Sikhi at heart you won't be seen as one because you shave for your own personal benefit whether it be to attract girls or to fit in society. Public's opinion should not matter as Guru Gobind Singh Ji said. Be proud of your heritage and trust me hair is very essential to our Sikhi identity. If you are SIkhi at heart you would respect Bhai Taru Singh's martydom of getting his scalp cut instead of his hair. Even though he wasn't threatened to have his beard trimmed, but you see the symbol of hair being sacred to him. There's many more examples.....

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There have been few examples in this thread that understand that sometimes people need to make a decision to find their way.

I have had an untrimmed dhaari for more than 10 years. But to be completely honest, I now sometimes think that I want to trim it for a few years. It isn't because of girls. It's because of the connotation that people immediately have about me the first time we meet. It has become far too difficult to make a diverse group of friends simply because people see me and put me in box.. I don't care ultimately what people thing about me but I do care that I am missing out on social interactions. From pure aesthetics, seeing the shape of a mans face and actually seeing his neck or tie when wearing a suit looks better too.

It is underappreciated how many more opportunities westernized Sikh girls have simply because they do not face this initial barrier to entry in social groups. It has many implications even professionally. I am as idealistic as the best of them but I guarantee you that no khulee dharee wala is going to be the public face of any official or company of consequence because that is how western society works. For some people having Sikh friends at Gurdwara is enough but as someone who lives in a new place and even after years is still struggling to make a social group, I think it is natural to wonder what kind of change is necessary so that people don't avert their eyes or feel that this person is an oppressed religious conservative just because of his appearance.

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There have been few examples in this thread that understand that sometimes people need to make a decision to find their way.

I have had an untrimmed dhaari for more than 10 years. But to be completely honest, I now sometimes think that I want to trim it for a few years. It isn't because of girls. It's because of the connotation that people immediately have about me the first time we meet. It has become far too difficult to make a diverse group of friends simply because people see me and put me in box.. I don't care ultimately what people thing about me but I do care that I am missing out on social interactions. From pure aesthetics, seeing the shape of a mans face and actually seeing his neck or tie when wearing a suit looks better too.

It is underappreciated how many more opportunities westernized Sikh girls have simply because they do not face this initial barrier to entry in social groups. It has many implications even professionally. I am as idealistic as the best of them but I guarantee you that no khulee dharee wala is going to be the public face of any official or company of consequence because that is how western society works. For some people having Sikh friends at Gurdwara is enough but as someone who lives in a new place and even after years is still struggling to make a social group, I think it is natural to wonder what kind of change is necessary so that people don't avert their eyes or feel that this person is an oppressed religious conservative just because of his appearance.

As someone who used to have hair cut, many of my old friends find me just as enjoyable (mostly more enjoyable) than when I was a mona. That includes mona Punjabi friends and white friends.

It's about your personality and how outgoing you are. You have to carry yourself with confidence.

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menu pta h ki m glt kam kita h ik // apni daadhi nu kenchi lga ke par hun menu ehsaas hoeaa h ki eh krn nal mere nal sab glt ho reha h te menu paise hon te bavjood bhi tangi aa gai h.par m sochda ha ki menu eh nhi krna chahida si mere to bahut vadsi glti ho gai.

maaf kareo dasam pita guru gobind singh ji.

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May sikhs trim beards secretly and some openly eg Malkit Singh

Some *edit* even wear turban and are clean shaven

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If sikhi is at heart dat means guru saeb di vich sikhi nai ohna ne kesh rakh ke dikhawa kita h? Tuhanu ehna knowledge h ta v eh question????go man of u were really proud of ur history and religion u would not hv asked dis kind of a question and one more thing it makes no difference whether u cut beard or grow it long bcoz if u luk handsome heartcracking u will look like dat if u luk ugly cutting off beard will never make any difference moreover one should luk like his father and our father is Guru Gobind singh ji maharaaj dats it bro :-)

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Tbh it's all about how you understand things a rule is a boundation till we don't understand the cause. Keeping personal hygiene is important keeping kesh and not cutting them is deeper concept of love (if u love something u won't alter it) if u love ur kesh u won't trim and If ur mustache is too long u can move them away ig the rules made by our guru's are made coz of some reason with waheguru blessing I hope we all get understanding to accept the rules. Its almost impossible to have same understanding as our guru's so whatever they said is good for us just agree it as it says. You can find a million reason if u want to protect something u love and u can find million reason to trim ur beard every thing has pro and cons be thankful  for whatever you have. 

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Only head hair is called kesh .beard is not mandatory in sikhism . Sikhs of history did keep beard because in those time warrior Sikhs use to wear large dumalls in battlefield . So without beard big turban dont suit.therefore they kept beard

 

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On 5/17/2017 at 1:57 PM, Guest Bajwasaab009 said:

Only head hair is called kesh .beard is not mandatory in sikhism . Sikhs of history did keep beard because in those time warrior Sikhs use to wear large dumalls in battlefield . So without beard big turban dont suit.therefore they kept beard

All hairs on the body are Kesh, either you keep it like a legit person or cut it like a legit person. Don't be a Pakhandi.

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On 2012-9-8 at 0:35 PM, PranaamShaheedaNu said:

Bro, don't trim your dhari! I was going through the same stuff at home, my parents kept telling me I looked messy and untidy etc, that I looked old, but all I remembered was that Sahib Sri Guru Gobind Singh Ji gave me their look, their bakshish is Kesh!

What the hell has world come to ?? now parents of sikh boys tell them that they look messy and aged with beard ? like seriously ! so much of self loathing ?

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On 2012-12-19 at 10:00 PM, innergear said:

how do we oR U know guru nanak had a long beard tho ?

because the command he gave Mardana to keep kesh , Guru ji was not a hypocrite unlike us humans

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Veere I'll focus on the part you said about feeling clean and your beard looking clean.you take a shower everyday right?Firstly, Beard is also a part of your body shampoo it once a day ,doesn't cost much even .Oil it an tie it doesn't take more than 10 minutes.secondly nowadays many of us sikh youngsters have been comparing ourselves with others and think of a beard as an optional accessory, my point being why so difficult for you to be comfortable in your own skin.i won't go towards the religion side.see even i am just 22 but this beard is something that gives me reminder of my identity.if people ask why beard ? I ask why not . N if it is regarding girls don't like beard trust me man the girls who talk to you for the way you ,i think it's just not worth it.har koi is tarah sochne lag gya to the next generation of ours won't identify a pagg with a beard and that's just downright sad. You know whenever I look in a mirror i see a reflection of my father, ye sirf daadi nhi ye teri viraasat hai aur viraasate bhulayi nhi jaati inhe kaaim rakhte hai. I have been in your place and rabb da shukar hai i didn't do it . Just be yourself

 

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Since this old thread has been revived, I will have to comment.

IF you want to look like trim Singh then you can easily just do thathi on different parts of your beard and moustache to compress them. Then when you want to look like a Singh you just open it and maybe use kanga to sort it.

However, we really don't need to have short beards. PErhaps for specific reasons in your job you might need to. Otherwise, only time Singhs tired their beards up was because the angrez ordered them to for serving in BRitish army and I guess this got carried over to east african sikh descendents and modern indian army as well. Or obviously, if you're a Singh who is doing spy work for Khalsa.

OR there is the extreme when Bhagat Singh had to trim his hairs.

Anyway I remember an amrit dhari I went to school with. HE was handsome and always had tied beard pics on Facebook. He is from an east african background. And then a few years ago he seems to have trimmed his dhari and has pics with these. I also always see him with some hindu girl on FB pics now.

Very strange people. I have pendoo jatt drunk relatives and I wear my dhari with pride around them. I hope it intimidates them as well.

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I personally think that men with beards look more like men and are quite handsome. If you use the right products such as oils and what nots you can get your beard to still look neat and clean. Basics of Sikhi once said... Be Brave Dont Shave... I dont have a beard depending on how close you are to my face but i like to follow that particular quote!  :rofl

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