Asking For Forgiveness?

[Guest Hdas]

Guys, first thing you all need to do is forgive yourselves! You are suffering guilt, so you clearly know what you did in the past was wrong.  So have mercy on yourself and forgive yourself!    Just like you would have mercy on someone else and forgive them.  Maybe you did not know any better when you did wrong, but now you do!  Thank God for that.  And see what you can learn from your mistakes.

And believe in yourself!  Deep down, you are a good person, and you know it.  Reconnect with that.

How?  First by being kind to yourself, like you would to a dear friend.  Understand that your guilt is your body's way of telling you "don't do that again!".  And instead of despairing, just develop some humility- "i did wrong, now im suffering for it, but i will be a good person and get better as a person from now, i will think how a good person would be and i will be like that form now on".  

One day, after having ishnaan, go to Gurdwara and with whatever faith you can go and do matha tekh at Guru's charan kamal.  Leave your burdens there as much as possible. 

Find some saloks from SGGS that resonate with your situation and pain, and read them daily when you require strength.  

Instead of beating yourself up, put your mind on becoming a better person.

 

[harsharan000]

On 10/8/2012 at 7:47 PM, Guest Unknown said:

Hi, I was wondering if any of you could help me with this question as it has been bothering me for way too long now.

This might be a bit long, so bear with me.

Basically, I'm a 19 year old girl who is NOT amrit dhari and not very religious (i cut my hair etc)

however, I have always believed in God and go to the gurudwara and pray more than I used too.

Anyways, I have committed many sins throughout my teenage years and not so long ago, I did some

things with a guy and I am not exactly proud of it..

Now, of course..this regret and guilt is killing me and I do not have anyone to reach out but God himself.

However, I seriously feel ashamed in front of him for the "lust" activities I have been through.

I just can't deal with this anymore, I've been super depressed and the guilt is literally finishing me off from the

inside day by day. I asked God for forgiveness but I have not come to peace with myself. You could say, I am a girl

that beats herself down over and over again. My sins have been big but my regrets/apologies are even bigger, believe me.

Okay...so the main question, I guess...How do I ask for forgiveness? How will I know I have been forgiven?

Does God even forgive these sins? I want to start on the right path...how do I control my mind/thoughts/actions?

Could I ever cleanse my soul from these sins or will I have to go through the bad things because of this? (Karma)

I've seriously realized all the things I have done were really bad! At this point, I would like to change myself but

don't even know where to start...I just keep calling myself "stupid, <banned word filter activated>, worthless" etc

Confused & lost, please help!

Pen Jee,

first of all, forgive yourself.

Your past was a lesson to learn and not to be repeated again, secondly, it is not a life sentence to be carried as a burden on your head.

In His darbar, only forgiveness and love are showered constantly. He can never judge anyone, for if He was to do so, nobody could have a place to hide away, that is to our benefit, of Him not being judgemental.

Now onwards look forward for His Jot, through keertan, katha, and bhakti, to guide you and protect you from any downfall, even then, get up as many times as needed, after all our battle with the mind is like a tennis match, we should respònd back strongly to the mind, until it looses the match, but the thing is, in any case we should not give up.

Stay blessed.

Sat Sree Akal

[harsharan000]

On 10/8/2012 at 7:47 PM, Guest Unknown said:

Hi, I was wondering if any of you could help me with this question as it has been bothering me for way too long now.

This might be a bit long, so bear with me.

Basically, I'm a 19 year old girl who is NOT amrit dhari and not very religious (i cut my hair etc)

however, I have always believed in God and go to the gurudwara and pray more than I used too.

Anyways, I have committed many sins throughout my teenage years and not so long ago, I did some

things with a guy and I am not exactly proud of it..

Now, of course..this regret and guilt is killing me and I do not have anyone to reach out but God himself.

However, I seriously feel ashamed in front of him for the "lust" activities I have been through.

I just can't deal with this anymore, I've been super depressed and the guilt is literally finishing me off from the

inside day by day. I asked God for forgiveness but I have not come to peace with myself. You could say, I am a girl

that beats herself down over and over again. My sins have been big but my regrets/apologies are even bigger, believe me.

Okay...so the main question, I guess...:

How do I ask for forgiveness?

How will I know I have been forgiven?

Does God even forgive these sins?

I want to start on the right path...how do I control my mind/thoughts/actions?

Could I ever cleanse my soul from these sins or will I have to go through the bad things because of this? (Karma)

I've seriously realized all the things I have done were really bad! At this point, I would like to change myself but

don't even know where to start...I just keep calling myself "stupid, <banned word filter activated>, worthless" etc

Confused & lost, please help!

Though the OP Guest Unknown, has asked some questions quite some time ago, but I feel this situation is very much fresh and present in our society and on increase with the passing time.

Anyhow, the answers are the same evergreen for all times,  for they are from the Infinite grace and mercy of our beloved Guru Sahiban, who were the very embodiment of Wahiguru Akal Purukh.

Forgiveness can be asked, not only by mere words, but by invoking the purifying Kirpa from Guru Jee only. 

And that, as Fifth Patshahee tells us in His anmol bachans in Sukhmani Sahib :

ਪ੍ਰਭ ਕੈ ਸਿਮਰਨਿ ਮਨ ਕੀ ਮਲੁ ਜਾਇ ॥

Prabh Kai Simaran Man Kee Mal Jaae ||

प्रभ कै सिमरनि मन की मलु जाइ ॥

In the remembrance of God, the filth of the mind is removed.  His Name, is the  bathing to cleanse us from all our impurities .

The impurities as Guru Jee says, are on the mind, which has to be cleansed, not the soul. No soul is bad. For it is the very essence of Him, it is the coverings, the dirt accumulated on the mind which has the soul wrapped by it, and imprisoned with heavy chains of karmas. But the soul by itself has the Jot of Wahiguru.

People do get confused by mixing or mistaking minds with souls. But as Guru Jee says above, man kee mael jaae ....which means, the dirt is removed from the mind by His Simran, He clearly points out the mind.

About God being judgemental,  this is a very extended misconception, for God has no mind, He never ever judges nor punishes anybody, He is all love, all meher, all bakshish, it is our own sown seeds by ourselves, which we have to eat, where does God come in the scene, why to always blame for all our misconduct, to the one who is most Immaculate, lovely, and loving at the same time, who is none other than Wahiguru Akal Purukh.

All sins can be washed with the water of his kirpa, maybe it will take more than once or twice to wash the dirt from our minds, but definetely, the stronger the stains, the bigger our efforts through Bhakti to wash them, but to be kept in mind,  as Guru says above, always through His Simran, not  by any other way nor method.

We are all lost souls, if ever we feel we are ashamed  of ourselves and want to get rid of our sins sincerely,  in that case, as Guru Jee says, do His Simran.

Stay blessed.

Sat Sree Akal.

 

[Guest Ankit]

Yes we all are sinner and punishment for sin is death.. but here is good news..

Jesus Christ already died on the cross for our whole world sin.. he already pay the price for our sin n on third day, He rose again from dead. Who ever believe in him will have everlasting life..

But if we confess our sins to him, Jesus is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness.
1 John 1:9 NLT
https://bible.com/bible/116/1jn.1.9.NLT

 

Mod Note: Just approving it so that Ankit (if not one sided troll) can learn what sikh dharam says on this topic. 

[Guest lol]

On 8/5/2018 at 6:28 AM, Guest Ankit said:

Yes we all are sinner and punishment for sin is death.. but here is good news..

Jesus Christ already died on the cross for our whole world sin.. he already pay the price for our sin n on third day, He rose again from dead. Who ever believe in him will have everlasting life..

But if we confess our sins to him, Jesus is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness.
1 John 1:9 NLT
https://bible.com/bible/116/1jn.1.9.NLT

 

Mod Note: Just approving it so that Ankit (if not one sided troll) can learn what sikh dharam says on this topic. 

I am confused now. The Sikh God also forgives when we believe in him. Is your god different from our god, if so, how different is he? God is forgiving, surely?

[Guest Sat]

16 hours ago, Guest lol said:

I am confused now. The Sikh God also forgives when we believe in him. Is your god different from our god, if so, how different is he? God is forgiving, surely?

There's only One God

Religion is a total illusion. We are One, and He is All. 

Hes Truth. He's kind, compassionate, forgiving and All Loving. Confess your sins and face yourself and move forward. 

[Guest Guest]

I am 16 years old and do one prayer once a day. I don't know why but i cant control my anger it gets to me too much. My anger gets so bad that i throw stuff at my parents when they dont agree with me. Then i absolutely hate myself for it. I am such a sinner. I would like god to forgive me for these sins. I would like to find a way to control my anger all the time. My mind is always lingering on the thoughts that anger me. 

Thanks 

[Guest Singh]

On 8/10/2012 at 11:47 AM, Guest Unknown said:

Hi, I was wondering if any of you could help me with this question as it has been bothering me for way too long now.

This might be a bit long, so bear with me.

Basically, I'm a 19 year old girl who is NOT amrit dhari and not very religious (i cut my hair etc)

however, I have always believed in God and go to the gurudwara and pray more than I used too.

Anyways, I have committed many sins throughout my teenage years and not so long ago, I did some

things with a guy and I am not exactly proud of it..

Now, of course..this regret and guilt is killing me and I do not have anyone to reach out but God himself.

However, I seriously feel ashamed in front of him for the "lust" activities I have been through.

I just can't deal with this anymore, I've been super depressed and the guilt is literally finishing me off from the

inside day by day. I asked God for forgiveness but I have not come to peace with myself. You could say, I am a girl

that beats herself down over and over again. My sins have been big but my regrets/apologies are even bigger, believe me.

Okay...so the main question, I guess...How do I ask for forgiveness? How will I know I have been forgiven?

Does God even forgive these sins? I want to start on the right path...how do I control my mind/thoughts/actions?

Could I ever cleanse my soul from these sins or will I have to go through the bad things because of this? (Karma)

I've seriously realized all the things I have done were really bad! At this point, I would like to change myself but

don't even know where to start...I just keep calling myself "stupid, <banned word filter activated>, worthless" etc

Confused & lost, please help!

Learn from your mistake and never repeat it again. ask for forgiveness from the bottom of your heart .... what you are describing is nothing compared to what others and my self have done but me and you both need to understand we are gods children , he will forgive us just like our parents do. You were a teenager at the time god is not stupid .. the creator knows everything and I'm pretty sure he knows teenagers dont have much of a brain! May god bless u 

[Guest Simranpreet Kaur]

I am 21 years old girl who lives in canada since last year. I had the relationship with 2 guys at the same time, with one because i was in love with him and second because  don’t wanted to hurt him. I had the physical relationships and i feel so much guilty, i want to come out of this trauma i have hurted both of them at end how can i seek the help of waheguru ji to come out of all this.

[Guest Guest MNINDER SINGH]

What I Have Learned Is That When Ever A Negative Thought Arises Or Anything That You Know Deep Down Is Bad And You Dont Wanna Do It Just Wait I Mean Think As In Your Gonna Do It Latter On And At The End That Particular Feeling For Sure May Go Away And Bychance If Anything Good Comes In Mind  Do That Thing Right Away Because Later On U May Change Your Mind , However The Five Chors Are Powerfull Right Kaam , Karodh , Lob , Moh , Ankaar But Gods Name Is MUCH POWERFULL.