Gursikh Engagement Ceremony

[Guest gupt geeza]

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dass would like to know how an engagement ceromany for amritdharis is conducted and is this the kurmaae? and wot is the ruka? is that something we do? also wot is meant to be given in the sagun, and when is that meant to be given? in accordance to Panthic maryada

thanx

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[Tera]

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Maharaj kirpa naal I was lucky enough to get engaged recently too. Well, Pyaar had actually already been given between families when we all initially agreed to go ahead quite some time back but we wanted to this to be approved/celebrated in front of Maharaj before the Anand Karaj (next year) - It all happening in front of Sri Guru Granth Sahib Jee Maharaj is what we'd class as the proper engagement.

We are both Amritdhari and so didn't want anything like the standard kurmai and chunni so we read through the Rehat regarding this and here is what we finally ended up doing.

We had a program at the Gurdwara attended by both sides - Asa dee Vaar Kirtan followed by Sukhmani Sahib Paath and then Katha and Kirtan. Started Asa Dee Vaar Kirtan at 7.30am and Sukhmani Sahib da Paath starting around 9.30am. Program finished after Kirtan and Katha at around 2.00pm I think it was.

During the program after the Ardaas & Hukamnama (but before the Kirtan & Katha) the Kurmai Shabads were sung, after which a couple of members (male members as I was sat on the guys side) of the girls family came to me gifting me with Dastaar, Sri Sahib, Pyaar and Mita (something sweet - I told em no daate thing lol, but misharee would do so that's what I got). This was then repeated in which couple of members of my family (again, female members just as its easier as Singhni is on ladies side so my mum, grandma) went to Singhni gifting her with a suit, Dastaar, Sri Sahib, Pyaar and some Mita (she got ladoo - why didnt I think of that, not fair lol).

Seriously though, we all thought that Maharaj Kirpa Naal it went great. We invited a lot of sangat and it just seemed so peaceful and nice. It was all just very simple with no fuss or rush and think it showed equality on both sides. Hopefully the day of the Lavan will go just as great.

Anyways, _gupt geeza_, hope thats helped you. Oh and congratulations in advance phaji